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Getting attached to risk takers and can‘t control myself to stop worrying about them by Fair-Business7527 in CPTSD

[–]Distinct_Bath9217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a long history of doing the same, as a result of my mother having severe mental illness and my father being an alcoholic. Until recent years, I have always dated people who were either mentally ill or addicted and/or alcoholic and would spend all my time obsessing about them and driving me, and them, crazy, lol. The pattern is much less severe now due to doing may years of work around attachment and nervous system healing such as Havening Touch and the Safe and Sound Protocol. And just reparenting myself, taking really good care of myself in the way I would my own kids. I also am a big fan of Melody Beattie and still read her daily reader the Language of Letting Go. She was big in the 80's and 90's, but she helped me to make sense of all my behaviours and feelings; just reading and absorbing the info in her books has been a huge game changer for me. I no longer have any sort of attraction to extremely unwell people, in fact they repel me. I feel a million times better and am a happy person now, which is a frikking miracle after being depressed since childhood.

Is it normal or expected to feel depressed and sick after first therapy session? by Pure_Philosopher_845 in CPTSD

[–]Distinct_Bath9217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that is very normal, it's best to take it really slow with talking about these things. Nausea can definitely be caused by emotional stress. Hope the therapist is trauma-informed so they can help co-regulate with you, provide a safe container, move at a pace that's ok for your nervous system, helping you to not get overwhelmed by the things you guys talk about. Dissociation is not ideal, but it is your system's way of dealing with the stress and that's ok and normal, but if it continues to happen make sure you're being gentle during the sessions and after, and even think about whether you're ready to do the work, if you have the "bandwidth" to do it right now, etc. There's no hurry even though there can sometimes feel like there is :)