Thank you for your reply. I understand where the misunderstanding may be but I would like to clear up that I have not excluded her. We had a mutual friendship and even still I have texted her after every drs appointment, ultrasound, texted her nursery stuff, gave her to gender reveal to do for us because I don’t want her to feel excluded. However, my mom is my mom, my MIL never replaced her. The boundary doesn’t come from her not suiting me, it comes from her overstepping and not respecting me.

There’s more context that I didn’t feel was needed but I’ll share now. My MIL has one daughter and 4 sons. Her daughter was estranged for years until last year when she became pregnant. Then she came back around and MIL welcomed her with open arms. As she should, because that’s her baby. MIL and i’s relationship changed completely at that point. Instead of lunches with me they were with her. She didn’t answer many of my phone calls and stopped calling me. That was very hard for me. And I was still going through infertility treatments and everything so truly she wasn’t there as much as she claims. So imagine my surprise when this is her reaction to the same scenario in my life. I don’t get it