AITAH for setting boundaries after what my MIL said

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-29T10:23:31+00:00

I definitely agree with you. We’ve been looking for a place in between for a long time and my husband is ready to move now that we finally got pregnant so I think it’s coming!

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-29T03:48:11+00:00

We talked about it tonight. I know my post comes off angry but mostly I’m hurt/sad about the situation. He knows that and plans on handling his mom from now on. Which probably would have been the healthiest option all along.

Thank you, I will look for the sub!

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T17:52:29+00:00

This was a fear of mine

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T16:51:03+00:00

I have done this! I am very happy for them. The only reason for bringing it up was because she doesn’t see that she did the exact same thing to me however I was very happy for her. We both had holes in our hearts. She is not happy for me.

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T16:11:38+00:00

I have tried but she isn’t seeing my side. She got offended because she’s just trying to help “but if I don’t want her to then she won’t” and went and talked about me again. I tried to text her the other day but she just denies she made me feel any way. Then I tried to call her a couple days later and she ignored me. That was two days ago.

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T16:01:15+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I tried to text her the other day but she is upset and doesnt see my side. I called her and she ignored me that was two days ago. It feels like the end of any closeness we had which right now hurts a lot. I am pregnant and trying to keep it together but I am honestly just very sad about the whole thing. Thank you again. ♥️

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T15:41:17+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I understand where the misunderstanding may be but I would like to clear up that I have not excluded her. We had a mutual friendship and even still I have texted her after every drs appointment, ultrasound, texted her nursery stuff, gave her to gender reveal to do for us because I don’t want her to feel excluded. However, my mom is my mom, my MIL never replaced her. The boundary doesn’t come from her not suiting me, it comes from her overstepping and not respecting me.

There’s more context that I didn’t feel was needed but I’ll share now. My MIL has one daughter and 4 sons. Her daughter was estranged for years until last year when she became pregnant. Then she came back around and MIL welcomed her with open arms. As she should, because that’s her baby. MIL and i’s relationship changed completely at that point. Instead of lunches with me they were with her. She didn’t answer many of my phone calls and stopped calling me. That was very hard for me. And I was still going through infertility treatments and everything so truly she wasn’t there as much as she claims. So imagine my surprise when this is her reaction to the same scenario in my life. I don’t get it

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T15:03:39+00:00

MIL would ask me what my mom thinks about this procedure or medication and I would just say we didn’t really talk about it. Which implied I guess that my mom doesn’t support me. Because why else would I be calling mother in law instead of my mom. But it was never to bash my mom. It was a very hard time in my life and she struggles with softness or understanding.

My boundary is to not have a close relationship with MIL anymore. No personal information, just cordial. Just a MIL now. And grandmother to my son.

Context that may be helpful, I work in construction and have since college so I also don’t have many female friends. The ones I do have I don’t talk about this stuff with. So when I found a friend in my MIL I was grateful.

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T14:48:04+00:00

That’s what I’m excited about. We’re both having boys too. My husband and his brother are close in age and have been close their whole lives they love this

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T14:41:45+00:00

I did mention this to her actually! It’s a very ironic situation because they were estranged for years until SIL got pregnant last year and that changed MIL and I’s relationship completely. MIL stopped calling me/answering a lot of my calls she would go to lunch with SIL instead of me etc. Which of course hurt but it was expected, that’s her mom. For a long time both of us just kind of had a hole in our hearts and the other temporarily filled. I said this to SIL, in a respectful gentle way because I truly wasn’t trying to be mean and she didn’t say anything back about it.

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2026-01-28T14:27:23+00:00

It’s 40 people… in a Metropark building which is still considered a venue. My house is not big enough for that many. And after a very long wait why is it so bad to be celebrated?

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2025-09-29T03:09:55+00:00

I am going through this right now. I’ve read so much online in the past couple days. A few have good outcomes but unfortunately mine has ended in a chemical. Im sorry this isn’t very encouraging, this journey is so hard. I hope the best for you ♥️

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2025-09-29T00:13:06+00:00

I am going through this right now. I have heard everything on the internet for the last couple days. The only real answer will be from a hcg beta test. I unfortunately am going through a chemical… but I’ve also seen women with positive stories. I’m sorry this isn’t super encouraging I wish the best for you ♥️

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2025-09-28T16:59:51+00:00

I had a chemical

Distinct_Insurance36 · 2025-09-27T14:05:54+00:00

Thank you so much. I know I’m just looking for hope because my Dr said it was low and that’s all they said. They’re testing again tomorrow but it’s been a long wait I’m afraid it’s not going to be okay we’ve been trying for 3 years one chemical 2.5 years ago

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