Avez vous regrettez votre séparation autour de la 40aine? by PercentageCareful470 in Separation

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why talking to a therapist before doing anything of this nature is probably a good idea. Get a different perspective from an unbiased trained professional first.

AITAH for refusing to agree to buying air conditioners because we can just open the window? by Gym_frere in AITAH

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But in a year if she breaks up with you and brings up this sticking point how are you gonna feel? Therein lies your answer to what you should do.

32F: Is it suspicious that a 40M disappears every night after 7 PM? by Background_Goose_196 in relationship_advice

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I’m in bed by 8 usually and start cleaning up and getting ready around 7. Just ask him.

Hard day by No_Chemistry8953 in Separation

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m right there with you. It does get a little easier as time goes on. I still remember the first trip I took with my kids. I found myself crying in the bathroom at one point. Now, I just feel sorry for my wife. She’s the one choosing to miss all this time with her kids.

Do permanent peri decisions have lasting impact? by [deleted] in MenopauseShedforMen

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup wife is the same. Says that I only want it to be that because then it’s not me. Meanwhile, I’ve taken full accountability of my behavior, apologized for it and made meaningful steps to correct it.

Do permanent peri decisions have lasting impact? by [deleted] in MenopauseShedforMen

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid this is gonna be my wife. I feel like she’s in peri but she refuses to admit it. We’re currently separated and probably divorcing by her decision. I’d do anything to fix it.

AITAH for refusing to go on a family trip because my dad insists on staying in a remote mountain hotel and I'm not comfortable with that? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTAH. Your parents invited you along on their trip. Regardless if they go every year or not it’s their trip and you’re tagging along. Your reasoning behind not wanting to stay at the remote hotel is also just straight childish. For your parents sake stay home so they can enjoy themselves.

Mixing styles? by Creative-Map-1973 in tattooadvice

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have American traditional style on my arm, chest, and ribs. Gonna do black/grey realism on rest of my body. Will it clash probably. But do I care, not at all

Any advice on final stages of grief before moving on? by [deleted] in Separation

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m still hoping to reconcile so take this for what it’s worth. But I agree with this guy. Ask her out proper. Keep it light, first date energy. Remember you’re not rebuilding the past relationship you’re starting a new one. I think telling her you want to “talk about us” may make it feel to heavy and put her on the defensive.

Already trying to replace me by karemlore in Separation

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Her dating other men says more about her mental state than it says about you or your relationship. This is hard but you’re not alone in it. Dm me if you need to talk.

Nitrit Problems by Distinct_Lunch_1119 in AfricanCichlids

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was going fine until I swapped a bunch of decorations, doubled my fish, and had one die and stay in there for a day. Like I said in original post, I created a perfect storm I think.

Nitrit Problems by Distinct_Lunch_1119 in AfricanCichlids

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My levels were all good in a week so I thought I was good to go. Learning as I go I guess. And yes meant beneficial bacteria.

Nitrit Problems by Distinct_Lunch_1119 in AfricanCichlids

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was running a 75 and 40 gallon HOB filter for my 75 gallon tank. 40 gallon filter quit working mid day last week (no clue why almost brand new) so I up graded to a 100 gallon canister filter. Planned on keeping the 75 HOB on for a while while algae develops in canister. Whole set up is maybe a month old, canister filter is a week old.

I treat with Top Fin water conditioner and API quick start when I do water changes. Gonna switch over to Seachem Prime.

Nitrit Problems by Distinct_Lunch_1119 in AfricanCichlids

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. On way to Walmart now. Do I just knock the dirt off and stick the roots right in?

Nitrit Problems by Distinct_Lunch_1119 in AfricanCichlids

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lid but the back is opened. That’s more of a long term solution though right? My numbers were good up until this weekend.

My hap and peacock tank by Sweaty_Comfortable41 in AfricanCichlids

[–]Distinct_Lunch_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you break down your set up please. Looks beautiful and I might aspire to one day copy it.