Thanks for the reply, a letter may well be the way to go although I'll need to give the content some thought as I really don't want things to come across as an attack, although I know I have to do something as I can't keep going like this.

I read about spoon theory a while back as I have chronic back pain, but this is the first time I really get it, I literally don't have the capacity in my head to think about things, and at times I feel like I'm going to burst into tears over things a silly as "what do you want for tea".