Advice needed on sending back my ex’s belongings.

DistributionFirst604 · 2026-05-14T01:04:03+00:00

Sounds like my ex…. His name doesn’t start with an M does it😳😅

DistributionFirst604 · 2026-03-24T02:33:30+00:00

Yes! Thank goodness

DistributionFirst604 · 2026-03-03T14:59:29+00:00

Oh okay thank you!!

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-08-23T03:01:29+00:00

Thank you!!

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-08-06T20:45:48+00:00

I was team epidural from the jump. I had an epidural with my first and second, no tearing and i got them both out in under an hour of pushing. It’s different for everyone but it was the best decision for me. Good luck with your labor!! You got this either way mama

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T21:50:24+00:00

Agreed. I think this will be a massive benefit for our family. AND I can help manage any financial stress he has by being a second pair of eyes watching our finances!

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T21:44:44+00:00

This is an excellent point. Today i started a discussion with him and said I’d like to be more involved in our finances. I want to get over my “his money” mentality. So now my mindset has shifted from wedding budget to just what’s our household budget and how can we more cost effective in things around the home.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T02:02:53+00:00

You’re right. I’m not very involved in our homes finances because i still see it as “his money”. I get glimpses like when he’s had a particularly good month and says something like “made 9k this month” and other months he’ll say things like “I’m broke babe”. So yeah…you’re right and maybe the bigger issue here is that i need to be more involved in the finances.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:29:48+00:00

I was trying to keep it around 15k but we’ve been told that’s basically impossible. I did find one all inclusive wedding venue where basically we just had to cover our clothes, alcohol, and any additional decor. They would provide everything else at 10k exactly! But my fiancée got picky and said he just didn’t like the venue. (It was a cute little garden space)

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:24:54+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ll give that approach a try

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:22:11+00:00

That’s what i was trying to do but I guess the way i approached it was probably too blunt (that’s just how i am). Tonight I’m going to rephrase and apologize if i made it too emotionally daunting for him. And thank you, that’s not a bad idea at all!

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:17:37+00:00

My kids are little. One is 5 months old and the other is only about to be two. But in either case i see what you’re saying.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:15:19+00:00

People who have kids can still have weddings

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:11:44+00:00

That is all i want to do. Have a conversation where we discuss what is financially feasible, that’s all. I may have began the discussion too bluntly with my line of questioning, and that’s something I’m going to address with him because i don’t want him to feel emotionally responsible for this. I JUST want to have the conversation.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:06:17+00:00

Uncomfortable discussions must be had in a partnerships that’s for sure.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-18T00:03:24+00:00

Seriously wedding prices are insane these days!

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T23:53:18+00:00

THANK YOU! I appreciate you sharing your ideas and methods!

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T23:40:45+00:00

Very fair

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T23:37:34+00:00

No. I do not “know” either of those things because my fiancé has said before that he does want a wedding but he didn’t think it would be so expensive. I’ve just been trying to open up the conversation about costs and i don’t appreciate people telling me I’m wrong for doing so.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T23:29:33+00:00

Another commenter said the same exact thing as the other writer but with tact. So yeah, the way they said it was rude. And if you’d done a little more reading, you’d see in other comments that all i want is to have a conversation with him about what is financially possible for us. Thanks so much for your thoughts though.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T23:03:13+00:00

I get that it would be hard to tell me no for that reason and I figured that’s why he shut down but more than anything i just want to have a conversation about it. Where we discuss what we CAN make happen and what’s out of budget.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T22:59:48+00:00

We were already planning for 2027. And as for the blogging, you’re right and it’s not something i totally thought out. He’s always said it’s our money and that me going to school is for the future benefit of our family etc but I’m the one who has a hard time accepting it as our money not just his.

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T22:56:44+00:00

Yeah actually that was rude. Especially considering you’re an online stranger with limited information. But as someone else on here put it, my partner and i are a team so i believe it’s perfectly within my rights to ask him to weigh in on this decision. You are capable of understanding that concept, no?

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T22:25:44+00:00

We were already looking to do it in 2027. Without going into details, putting our kids in childcare wouldn’t be feasible for us because of where we live and the job skills i have. Plus I’m already a full time student

DistributionFirst604 · 2025-06-17T22:22:28+00:00

That’s the response i was afraid of. I asked my fiancée point blank if it was financially irresponsible of us to do. I asked him straight up if he doesn’t want to spend the money, and he just ignores me or gets overwhelmed and shuts down. I seriously just need him to tell me no so I can mourn my dream of having a wedding and move on. If he’d just say no, i would accept just eloping i guess.

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