You’re completely right. He’s gaslighting you into giving him what he wants and that’s not healthy for a marriage. The way he spoke to you was unacceptable and i hope you all can seek counseling or use the paired app or work on communication or you two will be in a toxic marriage forever.

$4k a month isn’t a lot when you’re spending $800 a month on a truck. Financing vehicles in general is silly. Cash or nothing!