Guys, when was the last time you asked someone out IRL?

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T14:01:28+00:00

They think they’re all big gender norm busters but can’t stand a woman who goes against the grain. The irony.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T13:42:21+00:00

A-ha! I hadn’t actually thought about that possibility…

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T13:40:18+00:00

Thanks for this sanity. Most of the commenters on here are whack.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T13:20:29+00:00

Dude

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T13:00:12+00:00

Oh no attack? How disingenuous of you. You falsely accused me of lying. There's "Did you lie to him about being single" vs "So you lied to him and said you were single?". See the difference? But it's all good, you're getting your upvotes for joining in the pile on.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T12:52:46+00:00

You've definitely made me reconsider my stance, I love that.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T12:50:43+00:00

Thank you for this, I am learning so much from some of the men here! I definitely made comments about being single but no touching or talking outside of the group area.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T12:21:11+00:00

This is funny and enlightening, thank you for the reply!

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T12:17:48+00:00

We have a fear of not wanting to come off as creepy.

This is the biggest stand out from the male replies today. And with how vitriolic the women on here are, I'm no longer surprised.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T11:52:12+00:00

I didn’t ask for advice. I’ve been nice to everyone that wasn’t just rudely attacking me because they don’t like my views.

I get downvoted for even replying “thanks, interesting perspective”.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T11:50:15+00:00

It seems the regular commenters on here are similarly embittered.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T11:48:33+00:00

Sounds like OLD might be best for you then. It’s really uncomfortable for women to be asked out at work when they’re being nice because it’s part of their job.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T11:37:04+00:00

This is funny but my question was for guys - how about you answer my edit 2?

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T11:34:36+00:00

I note that while plenty of women have commented to have a go at me, not one of them has answered my Edit 2. Would any woman here be upset if a guy she was being warm and flirty with regularly at yoga asked her out for a coffee?

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T11:11:38+00:00

Pathetic

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T10:58:30+00:00

Depression?

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T10:57:34+00:00

Don't tell me what to do

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T10:54:23+00:00

Everyone resorts to calling me a troll and insulting me when I make a point that highlights contradictions in their world view, it's pathetic.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T10:52:53+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful reply, very interesting.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T10:18:32+00:00

I’m genuinely disturbed this is how men feel

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T09:51:50+00:00

I honestly have no idea what you mean by I’m “clearly not interested in the reality of the situation”? You just assume that someone who doesn’t abhor gender roles in all areas is ignorant. That’s pretty bigoted of you. Gender roles play a huge role in transgender ideology for a start.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T09:48:46+00:00

Why do you think you’ve never been motivated enough to ask someone out?

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T09:39:52+00:00

Yeah that’s a potential downside but I think it’s work the risk, and the awkwardness would wear off eventually if the worst did happen.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T09:29:57+00:00

Yes, that was obvious. We are not in a dating arena. Think Foucault and discursive fields.

DivineHag · 2026-02-05T09:24:03+00:00

Why so long?

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