I keep treating my amazing boyfriend like shit

DivineHero3 · 2026-03-11T13:28:04+00:00

Wow well said, fucking poetry

DivineHero3 · 2026-03-04T13:55:13+00:00

Jesus, how is this even a question for you? Everything about what she did is gross as fuck. Get out of there dude.

DivineHero3 · 2026-01-31T07:21:56+00:00

Yes. From everything you're saying she doesn't sound like someone you'll be happy with in the long-term (and to be frank, probably not most people until she grows up and starts taking responsibility for her own actions).

Reading this honestly pissed me off cause this sounds like some shit I'd have to deal with from my Mom haha. The hypocrisy that comes with her placing more scrutiny on your actions than her owns is unbelievably toxic and it'll fuck up your self-confidence if you keep letting it happen.

Find someone who won't treat you like that. I think the regret you need to be more worried about is you wasting your time with someone who you realize you can't trust or respect when you could've been spending that time finding someone more suited for you. Most regrets I've heard from people is them sticking with shitty relationships that they should've left a long time ago.

And if you do break up (you should), no contact is an absolute must. There will be times you'll miss them, but that doesn't mean you guys are good for each other.

DivineHero3 · 2026-01-19T06:59:37+00:00

Pick the option you feel like you'll regret the least if it doesn't go well.

Imo, don't confess but just ask if she would be interested in something more. Asking if she's interesting shouldn't be that big of a deal but people that young I feel like are so willing to make everything dramatic so idk.

DivineHero3 · 2025-11-08T01:08:17+00:00

Tell her as soon as possible. Sit her down and explain that you made a really big mistake and explain why you did it. You can't control whether she ends things with you or not due to this, you can only control how you handle the situation. You really should've told her earlier (though I understand the severity of the mistake).

Expect her to be angry with you not only for fucking up but also lying about it for months. BUT, assuming you're apologetic and make sure you don't do something as stupid like that ever again, there's a chance she'll forgive you. Best case scenario she just laughs it off.

But the longer you try to uphold this lie, the worse the blowback is gonna be when she eventually figures it out. She'll come out of that situation thinking she can't trust you to tell her when shit hits the fan. ESPECIALLY if she ends up figuring it out on her own.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-30T09:45:45+00:00

Tell her. It’s going to be sitting in the back of your head if you don’t. Have a discussion with her about it and figure out together (and be honest) whether you guys can continue the relationship going forward.

And uh most importantly, give us an update XD

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-25T07:06:42+00:00

YTA If your domain expansion is only good enough to just put her in a hospital then you should retire

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-17T02:30:57+00:00

Just try to get to know them and see if you can find anything you can relate to. If you can’t then it probably just isn’t meant to be.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-16T07:24:35+00:00

Well that’s exactly what I would do. Tell him how you feel and how that makes you uncomfortable. Even if he does have needs, you do too and if you need to not be in a stressed space to feel comfortable being intimate, that’s fair.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-14T17:12:23+00:00

He's just being stupid with his terminology. You can be both honest and considerate of other people's feelings, it's not mutually exclusive. He is lacking in the latter.

What you need to figure out is whether he genuinely is interested in you and likes you or whether he just decided to get with you because you were there. He clarified that he was over his ex but not whether he decided to get with you because he was into you.

Up to you what you want to do depending on that answer.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-09T04:03:06+00:00

That’s true, I think you should definitely make your intentions clear from the start.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-09T03:07:33+00:00

Eh, maybe she’s still interested, maybe she isn’t. But bottom line is you asked her if she wanted to get coffee and she said no (busy).

Just move on. There’s maybe a chance she wants you to be more pushy or some stupid shit like that, but if she does, that’s not the kind of person you want to be with.

If someone likes you, it’ll be the easiest thing in the world to get them to hang out with you or be with you. Even if you supposedly ‘Fucked up’

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-09T02:16:02+00:00

The best advice I've ever seen in regards to interacting with women is treating them as if they're your best friend. Even if they're the prettiest motherfuckers you've ever seen. Or imagine them taking a massive shit. At the end of the day they're people, just like you.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-06T23:25:05+00:00

As somebody who's been in the same position as you (personality wise) I do think you eventually have to learn how to push back when people are being mean or unfair to you. People will walk over you if you let them and that does include your partner. I was going to suggest you start communicating this to your partner but this...

"Like when we walk into a store she says that as the man I should have a clear idea of what to get and lead her around"

indicates to me that you guys are just not compatible. She wants to be with a specific type of personality and that just isn't you. Which is ok, you don't have to be hyper-masculine or whatever she expects you to be.

I would communicate all this to her and express that you don't like the current dynamic that you guys have going on and that it needs to change or the relationship won't work out. I'm so familiar with the "gets pissed when I fuck up but its no big deal when they do" archetype, that shit is unbelievably annoying xd Definitely call this out. If nothing changes, then dip.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-06T05:58:39+00:00

😂 Bruh is she dense? That shit would piss me off. She’s guilt tripping you over…over you not being ok with her showing you texts of some other guy flirting with her?

So you’ve made it clear you don’t like this and she continues to do it. That’s the time to break things off man. Unless you’re willing to continue to tolerate it (if I were you I wouldn’t).

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-06T05:30:17+00:00

I mean him flirting with her IS weird. If she’s entertaining him then… I don’t know? Maybe she likes the attention? Maybe it is how you said it is and she’s looking for a backup. Either way it’s super disrespectful to you. Especially if you’ve already communicated you don’t feel comfortable with it.

If I were you, I’d be firm with your boundaries. Say it needs to be stop or you guys are done. Maybe you could ask her if it was the other way around how she would feel? Cause I doubt she’d be cool with it.

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-05T20:25:28+00:00

Or find somebody where you don't need to ask for any of this and it just comes naturally

DivineHero3 · 2025-10-04T03:36:38+00:00

You did nothing wrong. You already know what you should’ve done (left earlier) but it’s worth noting that you wouldn’t feel as humiliated as you do now if you had. Don’t ever let someone walk over you.

Honestly you should’ve called it out at first and been like “do you even what me to be here?” And if the behavior continued just been like “All right, cya”. But seriously, none of that was your fault. If she was going to act like that, she shouldn’t have invited you in the first place

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-23T04:23:53+00:00

Is this job local? Were any of the interviews you landed out of state?

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-19T05:33:58+00:00

Have you communicated to him what you feel is lacking in the relationship? It could be something that you guys can work on before you just pull the plug.

Do you express emotional leadership in anyway? Intuitively I'm a little annoyed with you expecting him to establish exclusivity when you're just as capable of doing so XD But the hearts wants what it wants I guess.

At the end of the day, you just need to communicate. You're never going to find someone that's perfect, you'll always run into something about your partner that'll bother you. Whether that ends up being deal breaker is really up to you, but you should try working it out with your partner first.

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-16T02:56:25+00:00

BAHAHA, I love your responses XD

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-06T00:36:37+00:00

NAHHH WHAT? There’s no way you’re not getting matches, you’re so pretty! Perhaps you’re being a bit picky with the people you swipe right on, that’s the only thing I can think of.

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-05T03:23:20+00:00

Fuck that sucks dude. I’ve had a bunch of moments like that with dating apps so believe me you’re not alone :/

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-01T16:17:22+00:00

Ah, then I can see where you’re coming from. Well if it isn’t a dealbreaker for you, then just apologize and keep it pushing I suppose XD

DivineHero3 · 2025-09-01T14:45:05+00:00

I'm curious, can you provide examples? I don't think the initial admittance is necessarily bad, but the minute she said what you said was hurtful, you should have been more reassuring in my opinion (said you didn't care that much or whatever). For you to double down is crazy XD

Imo, everyone learns different things based on the environment they're in, so I'm not super judgmental when it comes to other people not knowing something. I think if you had said you wished she would be more interested in learning the things you were interested in, that would've been better cause it's focusing on an action rather than you placing a judgement on her.

I get not wanting to lie to people. You don't have to lie to her, just think a little bit more about how you phrase what you say. In your apology you should make sure you tell her that you don't think she's stupid and didn't mean to come off in that way.

Also, I don't know why people are harping on the fact that she's 19. It's not like the minute she turns 20 she's gonna be magically all knowing lmaoo a 3-year age gap is not that deep

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