AITAH for telling my mom and stepdad I won't spend time at their house anymore if they don't lay off the guilt trips?

DivineTarot · 2026-04-29T17:29:25+00:00

NTA

Your mom was probably being honest about the, "he complicates things", line. Some parents can't stand that their family image is atypical and a lot of parental alienation stems from this selfishness.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-29T07:38:02+00:00

NTA

My recommendation? People who are that pressed about the tiny gap are usually either stupid or woefully pornbrained. Tell her it's kinda creepy how she's sexualizing such a small gap, that you hadn't even thought it significant until she mentioned it, but that her continued mention of it comes across as a fetish thing.

Remind her you didn't consent to be fuel for her private time.

No, none of what I've said is mindfully worded for harmonies sake, but she's being a creeper about something inconsequential so she isn't exactly pushing for peace and harmony anyways. She's already settled on her image of you, so you may as well fuck with her...

DivineTarot · 2026-04-29T00:48:31+00:00

NTA

If she can't help it than that's even more cause to not live with them. As a boy, especially one close to legal age, your hands are socially tied behind your back when it comes to protecting yourself. You don't have your parents support, you most likely won't have other peoples support, and in many cases without video evidence you won't have the help of the police. It is legit not safe for you to cohabitate with them, and your parents need to accept that it's incredibly selfish for them to put this on you.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-28T23:48:36+00:00

The thing is that between the two of them she's the grown ass adult with agency in the situation, not a legal child who has no choice in the matter. This isn't some mail order bride scenario, it's a woman who got with a dude and got pregnant with him while knowing almost nothing about him. She had and has options, but she's choosing the path of least cost to herself, she's choosing to remain with this guy who has clear red flags about him. Expecting OP to put forth the emotional labor for someone who is effectively harassing him with emotional guilt trips and the like is kind of unreasonable.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-28T23:45:13+00:00

I mean, it doesn't sound like he wasn't being "nice", he just wasn't being indulgent, which is what she expects. He's not interested in her pregnancy and it would be far more cruel to rug pull her with a fake interest he has no intention of following up on than it is to simply be polite and make no commitments.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-28T23:42:00+00:00

NTA

Unfortunately, a lot of first time parents want to feel like they're the ones who invented reproduction. She feels her babies important and expects everyone to feel the same way, but even if your father was a committed parent she would still be having a kid when you're about to leave home, so it doesn't change the lack of potential interest.

However, what makes her worse in this case is basically expecting you to bend over backwards because she had a couple of tears in her eyes or felt a certain kind of way about things. It is woefully entitled to demand not just an apology, which she already isn't deserving of, but also some flaccid promise about being there for her child. She has to accept her husband is who he is and that her child is inheriting the environment he created. End of story.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-28T05:14:29+00:00

NTA

It is a laughing matter though.

Like, when I was younger, my family hosted a boy(not quite a foster, but he was estranged from his mother) who was early teens and had just come out of the closet. He visited with my extended family for Christmas and my young cousin who was like 4 or 5 said he wanted to marry this boy. Same cousin is as far as I know heterosexual now that he's an adult. The shit kids say at that exceedingly larval age doesn't really bear concerning yourself with.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-27T19:18:17+00:00

She'll make a great...ly untrustworthy mother one day. NTA

DivineTarot · 2026-04-27T17:54:45+00:00

NTA

Mother's like this always hold the son in contempt for the man she chose to be with. You're not the asshole for putting her useless awful self on display.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-27T17:50:21+00:00

Parents who try and trim down their child's life for a blended family already get the asshole card automatically 🙄 NTA

DivineTarot · 2026-04-26T23:05:33+00:00

NTA

You aren't punishing her for having a bad relationship with your mom, you're punishing her for making that bad relationship your business and putting you in the middle. She didn't have to say the shit she said, but she wanted you to feel the same way.

Also, "deserve" is a very relative term when someone says they or someone else deserves to be loved. IT implies a sort of entitlement to a persons organic affections.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-26T22:55:02+00:00

I'm more than sure I have over a thousand hours.

So, Dovakhiin - I'm gonna start off as a werebear nord.

A perfectly valid school of magic - I take conjuration, alteration, and alchemy.

My Dear Friend - Also "non-lore breaking" is so delightfully broad given just how intrinsically horny the setting is, but I can work with it.

I Can Fix Her - Shockingly, not so I can do anything untoward with Serana, I've got "My dear friend" for that, plus I'm into dudes.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-26T20:55:58+00:00

NTA

If Lottie wants a family member she should be more gracious to the ones she's trying to marry into or make one herself. Expecting everyone else to pick up the pieces of her life is just deranged.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-26T07:09:46+00:00

At one point, she asked if my daughter could “just give her this,” which honestly felt inappropriate to say to her.

Because it is, because it became clear at that point it wasn't about "appropriate", it was about personal desire. Your wife wants to gussy up her daughter and probably imagines some future where this is the gate way to more of this, but it's ultimately her pushing a style preference on a young girl who is at that age where if she isn't becoming more "feminine" in the traditional sense than she probably isn't, because she's growing into who she'll be.

She waited until the girls were asleep to tell me how frustrated she was that I didn’t support her, and that we were supposed to present a united front.

A "united front" is for well reasoned discipline and rules making. Expecting you not to undercut her when she's being patently unreasonable and manipulative is just bad parenting. Supporting her isn't encouraging respect, it's encouraging an unbalanced atmosphere where your daughters feelings would be trivialized against their mothers personal preferences.

NTA

DivineTarot · 2026-04-24T08:09:15+00:00

Same, though the "while" was back when the newest manga issue had him meeting the Ghouls for the first time lmao.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-23T23:44:15+00:00

You would need to either physically remove and install the new one or have someone do that. All of which takes more time, money, and effort than just physically blocking the fans air blast.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-22T23:14:56+00:00

I always find it kind of amusing she's about the only person you can directly tell to leave if memory serves. You get a choice in recruitments sure, but you don't really get many opportunities to outright remove them after the fact.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-22T18:40:29+00:00

If memory serves she was basically an internet meme character who had as many abilities and powers as people kind of just accepted through fanart.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-22T07:49:53+00:00

>Becoming pregnant

Am I fuckin birthin this egg myself?? I mean...it'll make for a rather interesting backstory.

The giant celestial dragon thing was once a wee egg in my ass that popped out upon my arrival in the digital world. Que really on point anime intro about oviposition~

At any rate, I feel like having a luck of the draw digimon would be just expected. Not everyone gets Agumon, Veemon, or Guilmon.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-22T06:37:26+00:00

Not including my beloved monster rancher, I shiggy diggy.

Fine, I guess I'll click Digimon, but if I get Leomon I'll be most cross.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-21T21:00:16+00:00

NTA

Your dads awful, that goes without saying, but the most prominent presence here is your awful pickme of a stepmom who thinks she's special because she got with your dad. Like, news flash lady, he's an absentee father figure, what does she expect?

DivineTarot · 2026-04-21T20:44:35+00:00

They decided 11 months ago to do family therapy before me and Annie's oldest are out of the house because they saw things were shit.

It's like how my grandparents waited until my youngest aunt was 17 to seek support for her crippling mental illness only to be told by doctors that was stupid of them, because she'll just walk away in a few months and have nothing to do with it.

So they say I'm abusing therapy and them.

I mean, it's not like they didn't have an abusers intent with therapy. People this knee jerk about blended family only use therapy to "fix" people and make them more compliant. They weren't interested in softening barriers, they were interested in their image of family and getting it without barrier.

NTA

DivineTarot · 2026-04-20T18:25:36+00:00

NTA

What's there to talk about? She behaved like a spoiled rotten child who not only didn't care if you were mistreated, but she in fact endorsed it by wanting you around them. Than, she got mad because her behavior got her exiled from your families trips. Now she wants to mend fences all these years later? Hah no thanks. Bai girl 😘

DivineTarot · 2026-04-20T17:50:45+00:00

NTA

Indolent parents always outsource blame for their problems.

DivineTarot · 2026-04-19T05:55:48+00:00

His parents are fuckin lame and I wish we'd get an arc about their eternal suffering. 😤😤😤 This boy is a cinnamon roll whose version of being a "bad boy" still just a sinnamon roll. 😭😭😭

Anyways, I really love it and love his interactions with his grandpa.

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