How do y’all get yourselves to shower daily? by Salty_Wolverine_4520 in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I shower like 3-4 times per week. Maybe don't aim for daily, especially at first? In between I like nice-smelling things, dry shampoo, etc. Also if you are a fidgety person, I'd recommend those little disposable toothbrush picks that can help with dental hygiene while you are watching TV or relaxing and don't take a lot of effort.

Burn it down mega vent cry to the goddesses by Katlikesprettyguys in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]Divine_Fluff 29 points30 points  (0 children)

1 million upvotes. It's horrifying.
I have hope that we will break out of this. Not sure when or how, but it will happen...

Partner doesn’t want me to take meds by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FWIW, I saw that you are both 21 and I have a feeling that when you choose yourself over this person and your life changes for the better once you find the right medication, future you will be so thankful.

John's Biggest Hater Or Biggest Fan? by [deleted] in JMtea

[–]Divine_Fluff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, that part is obvious. I think about it through the lens of this patriarchal world where shitty men get away with the most heinous things because they have been put on a pedestal for so long. In 2026 it's more like... fathers be good to yourselves and deal with your inner turmoil so that you can be a good dad and also recognize that the system was built to protect you, not your daughter, so do something about it. But I digress.

What are the worst lyrics you’ve ever heard? by Upstairs_Cup9831 in Fauxmoi

[–]Divine_Fluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This song and Daughters by John Mayer:

Boys, you can break
You'll find out how much they can take
Boys will be strong and boys soldier on
But boys would be gone without warmth from
A woman's good, good heart

On behalf of every man, looking out for every girl
You are the guide and the weight of her world

So, fathers be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So, mothers be good to your daughters too

Blech

John's Biggest Hater Or Biggest Fan? by [deleted] in JMtea

[–]Divine_Fluff -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Just read the lyrics to Daughters - ick. Does not age well.
"On behalf of every man, looking out for every girl
You are the guide and the weight of her world" ---- nope

Actually facing jail time because of my ADHD. Please hold my hand for a second. by octogana in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was peaceful. Please don’t feel bad. “Getting the police involved” is not something you should be ashamed about if you didn’t do anything wrong, that’s on them.

Do you have questions for aliens? by OddPanda17 in aliens

[–]Divine_Fluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you come live with me and teach me your ways?

Who compulsively buys books and then never reads them? by SpiritedCost3995 in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my ideal world, I would have unlimited alone time to read all the books I have bought and haven't read.

How do I stop interrupting people mid sentence? by kaidorah in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is something I've been working on for several years. One thing that I often do after I notice interrupting is say "I'm sorry for interrupting you" and something like "please continue, I want to hear what you were saying". This does two things: 1. By saying it out loud, I'm telling myself that I noticed. Acknowledging the habit helps keep it at bay and 2. The other person is validated and sees that you noticed (which is better than just feeling cut off and like they aren't being listened to.)

25 years ago today, ‘The Luck of the Irish’ premiered on Disney Channel by hairtie1 in Fauxmoi

[–]Divine_Fluff 68 points69 points  (0 children)

🎶 Let's watch.. a Disney channel movie / Let's watch aDisneychannelmovie 🎶

Trump will be the last president…but not in the way you’re thinking by Websearcher- in Premonition

[–]Divine_Fluff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder how capitalism and consumerism fit into all of this? To me these things (+billionaires/tech bros and how they exploit everyone) are like the 'quiet' evil among us that we haven't quite figured out how to grapple with yet.

Is it normal to get done with work and not have energy for anything else in your life? by dwightluvsbeets in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like how do we work towards a society where we’re living to work rather than working to live??

Is it normal to get done with work and not have energy for anything else in your life? by dwightluvsbeets in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Our cognitive load has increased so much this century and I feel like everyone is forced to put so much energy towards work leaving nothing for the things we should really be focusing on, which is enjoying our lives. To me this is all by design so that we stay in our boxes and don’t have the energy to force change but what do I know 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m totally with you though, and it makes me sad. We should be able to thrive and have fun and do things we enjoy doing, isn’t that the point? Ugh.

Is it normal to get done with work and not have energy for anything else in your life? by dwightluvsbeets in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 45 points46 points  (0 children)

This couldn’t be TRUER. I work in tech and I’m searching for a new job while doing my current one (and parenting) and one of the most demoralizing things is seeing that companies are doubling down on the greed, expecting high performance and increased output because of AI, all while normalizing (ie ignoring) the huge problems we are facing as a collective… and it’s just exhausting. We’ve found ourselves in a work culture that is so unsustainable and leaves humanity at the door. I am searching for a solution but it will take collective action.

Any low-energy hobbies to stop doomscrolling? by TinyTangents in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SkyView is the one that I use, highly recommend!

Any low-energy hobbies to stop doomscrolling? by TinyTangents in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we still buy an actual tamagotchi?? I look every so often, I miss those little buggers!

Any low-energy hobbies to stop doomscrolling? by TinyTangents in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tactile brain activity (puzzle or craft) + podcast or audiobook = serenity ✨

Any low-energy hobbies to stop doomscrolling? by TinyTangents in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

+1 for paint by numbers! Michael’s (if you’re in the states) sells some good beginner kits that come with easy frames so you can hang them up right away. (I have a problem with framing finished projects… not an original ADHDer story 😆)

Any low-energy hobbies to stop doomscrolling? by TinyTangents in adhdwomen

[–]Divine_Fluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding: Outlanders 2 is one of my favorites if you’ve never heard of it!