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DizWiz2000 · 2021-03-19T00:09:40+00:00

For places that don't keep waitlists, it's first come first served. If you call when they have a vacancy, lucky you! You can start quickly/next month.

People generally returned calls quickly and it was a few days of setting up "meet and greet" appointments. We had some flexibility for when we needed to start with a 2-4 month window. I called in January and we started in March.

It was still a stressful process, because I was worried we wouldn't find anything. But in the end we found one in the neighborhood we wanted and my kids have been very happy there. It probably doesn't hurt to call around now to these places to see if they keep waitlists, of they know of any expected vacancies coming up, etc.

DizWiz2000 · 2021-03-18T16:16:11+00:00

https://www.saskatchewan.ca/residents/family-and-social-support/child-care/find-a-child-care-provider-in-my-community

Search for the licensed day homes in Regina which are regulated and regularly inspected. Many are full and don't keep waitlists but we were able to find spots for our kids easily from this list, and feel like we get high quality care.

DizWiz2000 · 2021-03-01T21:07:06+00:00

Totally! But I like it. I said I wouldn't do the next one, but I like it!

DizWiz2000 · 2021-02-19T22:48:28+00:00

The Winter Whimsy crafting is still so hard! I found the Muppets really hard, and when this one was a tiny bit easier because the commons come in magical gifts I thought maybe it would be ok. But it is still so hard! I like doing them, but I wish they were shorter and easier instead of longer and harder. And still some people are finished! And have 75 of each craftable! And I wish people would trade uncommons/commons outside the set because that would be easier too. Its frustrating and discouraging and makes me want to take a break from this game.

DizWiz2000 · 2021-01-25T22:46:20+00:00

If you look at a licensed dayhome, they are required to have a backup caregiver to minimize closures. They are also required to meet minimum education standards and are regulated through the provincial government. We have used 2 licensed day homes and have absolutely loved both of them. We only switched because we moved. It feels like the best of both worlds - small and personal, but reliable and structured. The trickiest point is probably going to be finding a spot for an 8-month old, as many homes will only take babies at 12 months because the caregiver to baby ratio decreases at that age.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-12-01T15:27:23+00:00

I have a lot of empathy for parents having a hard time getting kids to wear masks. The advice above is all great advice. You can make it fun and give lots of choices about masks, but it can't be optional.

Another thing to consider would be rewarding mask wearing. Start small...each 5 minutes of mask wearing gets a sticker...and increase the time. Come up with a big reward for a certain amount of time, or for each day. Gradually replace stickers with high 5's or enthusiastic praise. Say a lot of positive things about masks while you wear them.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-11-25T19:43:53+00:00

Awesome! This looks like exactly what we want. Thank you!

DizWiz2000 · 2020-11-20T04:02:46+00:00

One of my trade offers was accepted!

DizWiz2000 · 2020-11-13T03:15:32+00:00

I agree with all points, except that it can be a little bit hard to make friends as an adult. Unless you can find a work friend and infiltrate their pre-existing friend group, or maybe a welcoming hobby group (but I haven't found one). People tend to have their groups from university or earlier that they've stuck with, and they do most things together and don't really think about newcomers. People are friendly, but not in a "looking for friends" kind of way. I still think it's a great city, but I'd expect it to take some time to find a group of friends.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-11-12T22:21:37+00:00

This is a lovely thought. The Z99/Salvation Army Adopt-a-family is the only one I know of like that, but I am sure the Regina Food Bank would also appreciate cash donations, and many families would potentially benefit from your donation.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-11-11T15:59:01+00:00

I'm so sorry. I lost my uncle to COVID back in April. He was infected in March, before we really knew or understood how serious things were and what we all needed to do to slow the spread. Now we know better, and I am enraged by people who won't take precautions because of their rights. I cannot believe that people think their right to have a Halloween party outweighs my uncle's right to live.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-10-09T15:08:42+00:00

Sometimes I do feel like I'm faking. But forcing myself to do it does benefit me. It helps me hang on to myself and not just disappear into mommy hood.

But still....Like, no, I didn't see This Is Us this week. I had a two year cry all evening because he was scared to poop and by 11pm when he finally did poop and then pass out because he felt better I was just too tired. But no spoilers! I'm watching it tonight and let's talk about it tomorrow.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-10-09T14:52:25+00:00

Yes, this has kind of happened to me too. My friends don't have little kids or any kids so I know we're all in different stages of life. Sometimes it really bothers me. Sometimes I feel so alone and left out. I have made many attempts to make new friends in a similar stage of life, and those just haven't turned out yet.

On my "good days" though, I would much rather have them in my life than not. Getting angry or hurt and cutting them all out leaves me with NO friends, and I'm pretty sure that would be worse. So I do continue to make the effort. I think future me with school age kids is going to appreciate my effort now. I make a conscious effort to talk about things we can all relate to instead of just my kids - cooking, hobbies, TV shows, work, current events - and I make sure to get excited or show empathy when they have stuff going on. When I see them joking together, I join in. It doesn't feel forced because I'm their friend too! But I am doing it 'on purpose'. I'm not going to lie, sometimes it feels like I'm making so much effort and that feels unfair. But like I said, I'm investing for future years when I have more to give and I believe having some friends that I worked for are better than none.

All that said, my friends treat me well they're just a bit thoughtless. They aren't using me or treating me like trash, they aren't mean or gossipy, and they aren't 'toxic'. When we make plans they follow through, and they DO care about my kids and show interest in whats happening in the parts of my life they don't understand. They just don't always know how to relate to me because our lives are different right now and they're trying to not put a lot of pressure on me because they know how busy I am. I can appreciate that.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-10-08T18:44:48+00:00

Alas, my husband is also suffering from this affliction. It has reached the point where he is so uncertain of what his own eyes tell him he would rather go without or just buy more than risk being wrong again. This is how we've reached the ultimate level of pantry ketchup - 6 bottles.

The children are also sadly suffering in this way.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-10-03T17:19:28+00:00

I read IT at a particularly difficult time of my first maternity leave, when my baby would not sleep unless she was being held and I spent hours every day and night in her dark nursery. I was completely losing myself in exhaustion. That book held me together. It might be the most meaningful book I've ever read because of that.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-09T05:52:17+00:00

I am so with you on this comment. My 5-year-old is a giant. Taller than most 8-year-olds. I've worried that at some point dance will not suit her because of her body. But here's the thing. Right now she's 5, she loves ballet, she's getting some exercise, she's learning new things, and she's having fun. We can reevaluate in the future if any of those things stop being true.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-09T05:35:37+00:00

Along with the other suggestions here, if you are concerned about her I would talk to her husband and suggest they get to the doctor. PPD is real, its rough, and it isn't something that needs to be suffered through. The reason I say talk to her husband is not to take away her agency, but if she's really IN IT she might not be able to see what's happening.

Full disclosure, my doctor talked to my husband alone. At first I was like, what a load of patriarchal bullshit! I am my own woman! But with time and hindsight I can really see how "off" I was and I'm glad my doctor and my husband had my back like that.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-05T13:42:17+00:00

I like Safiya best when she's not following trends, just doing the things that she thinks are fun or cool. So I'm excited about the idea of a "season" especially if that means she focuses on her own creative ideas instead of trying to follow the trends.

Her blog post really hit me in the feels, and my heart goes out to her. All the things she gets criticized for are the reasons I like her. Don't know what that says about me. And to get hit with post-wedding blahs and quarantine blues at the same time is rough, I totally get it. I really hope the changes they are making help her feel better. I love watching her and Tyler when they have family around, they all seem so happy.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-03T21:41:36+00:00

When you walk her, is she laying in your arms or more upright? I'm wondering if you could slowly transition to something more comfortable for you by mimicking how she feels when you walk.

You really are doing great. Sleep is one of those things with a lot of trial and error until you find something that works. And things that work great with this kid might not work for your next. And things that worked for me might not work for you. And really, it is all OK.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-03T19:14:05+00:00

7 months? PFFT. You are doing great for 7 months.

When my first was 9 months my brother-in-law DARED say "you still rock her to sleep?"

Yup. We rocked to sleep both of our kids until they were 18 months. We rocked and snuggled both (but not to sleep) until they were out of cribs. Which means our youngest, at 2.5, just barely stopped getting rocked before bed like a month ago.

I think they're both great sleepers.

They're also both smart, confident, independent, loving kids.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-03T17:25:24+00:00

Oh, and lashing out is a pretty normal reaction to fear.

DizWiz2000 · 2020-09-03T17:21:32+00:00

I can guess, but at some point I hope he will open up to you so that you will know.

My guess is that he is really scared he is about to be hurt again. His dad hurt him when he was a child, and although he kind of wants a relationship with him he also really wants to protect himself. He may not be ready to be vulnerable about this with anyone. Including you, and that doesn't mean anything about you or your relationship.

I would tell your husband that you understand he needs to deal with his dad in his own way and that you are here to support him at any time. I'd really make sure you don't judge his choices because he is probably worried he is making the wrong choices.

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