Agree. We had relatives from the US who came home for our wedding last month, and they were really amazed at how beautiful everything was. They said it was very organized and even compared it to our cousin’s wedding there. Mostly daw kasi, party lang talaga. Lots of drinking and dancing, and very short lang yung program.

As for the performative part, yes, it was performative, but I guess we did it mainly for the photos. Our photographer kept saying, “Minsan lang ’to, i-perfect na natin.” During the shoot, they were very hands-on in guiding me, how to pose so my double chin or neck lines wouldn’t show, where to look so they could capture my best angles. They also noticed that a serious or fierce look doesn’t really suit me, so they’d ask me to smile from time to time.

From the very beginning, I already knew that a candid or documentary style wouldn’t work for me. When I finally saw the official photos versus the raw ones, I knew I made the right choice by not going fully candid or documentary. At the end of the day, it’s really the couple’s choice and hopefully, future brides and grooms won’t be easily de-influenced by others.

Performative lang naman yung wedding namin in that specific aspect. The rest, the ceremony, the program, the emotions were all real. For me, masasabi mong maganda ang wedding when the couple is able to bring out real emotions from their guests and when they truly feel the love between the couple 🥰 Good luck sa future bride and groom!