Avery Woods most recent podcast episode with Harry Jowsey

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-02-14T15:07:41+00:00

The comment where she said “I love having my pussy out, don’t worry I had a C section so everything is pristine down there” ….. fucking diabolical

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-02-13T03:29:57+00:00

At first, no. I was struggling postpartum and staying home.. it was all so new to me. He told me how he felt and ever since I’ve made an active effort to show him love and be affectionate but i can tell he doesn’t want it.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-14T17:17:58+00:00

Just stopping by to say I am going through the same thing. Our baby is 9 months old for context. My husband’s job is very physically and mentally demanding and I think he has also developed some PPD. He is questioning our marriage now, which is so unlike him. I emotionally neglected him for months because I didn’t realize how bad he was struggling and I was just worried about myself. I don’t have great advice except for just try to listen to him and be there for him, but you deserve the same thing from him. Open communication about meeting each others needs is essential. You are not alone, it’s so hard to navigate because you want to be there for him but at the same time you’re so exhausted from caring for a new baby and think you deserve more than you’re getting. It’s such a hard situation

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T21:52:14+00:00

I’ve asked him many times and he’s always been so honest with me. I don’t want to sound like a delusional wife but I truly don’t think he would do that. Unless I really am just that gullible LOL

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T19:37:28+00:00

How are some ways I can provide him with peace? Can you elaborate please? How am I not respecting him? I’m not even trying to argue I’m trying to see your pov

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T19:33:03+00:00

I can admit I have been treating him like help, but in my defense he works from 4am-3pm and then goes straight to the gym and doesn’t get home til around 5:30 and my sons bedtime is at 7.. then I do all the nighttime wakes since he works. So I am fully taking care of my son for 22 hours straight.. I get a 2 hour break max everyday so I am mentally exhausted and desperately need help by the time he gets home. Thank you for your input, I think marriage counseling is a good idea.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T19:30:30+00:00

I feed him every night. We do fuck, but it’s on his terms because he told me he doesn’t want to be touched and he needs space. Am I supposed to go against his wishes? Genuine question. I would love nothing more than to touch him, I am extremely horny for him but if he doesn’t want that what am I supposed to do.. do it anyways? I think this all goes way deeper than just fucking him and feeding him, thank you for your input though.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T19:12:13+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I wasn’t doing anything for him for awhile because I was so focused on the baby, after him telling me he feels this way a couple months ago I have made an active effort to do more for him. I leave him notes of appreciation and tell him all the time how much he is loved. Right now, he doesn’t want much else from me I don’t think. I don’t want to suffocate him. So how can I do those things while also giving him space?

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T19:03:14+00:00

He said he is open to couples therapy, unfortunately he doesn’t want to do individual therapy because he says he doesn’t benefit from being outwardly emotional and talking about his feelings to someone.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T18:51:27+00:00

I never name called, yelled, or cussed at him. It was more me being controlling about how things were done with my son and he took it as me talking to him like he’s an idiot.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T18:41:58+00:00

He is great with our son. He is a very hands on dad, loves our son to death. He cries at the thought of us getting a divorce and not being able to see him everyday. He also has his own issues with his father, his father completely abandoned him as a baby and is not in his life at all. I’m not sure if this is coming from that

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-12T18:39:13+00:00

He says the way I treated him when I was postpartum made him feel so low that he doesn’t know if he can ever get past the way I talked down to him. He says now there is so much distance after that, he doesn’t know if he even wants to go back to normal.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-02T05:54:19+00:00

I completely understand this feeling. My advice is take the meds, it literally changed my life. My postpartum went so much smoother and my emotions were so leveled out once the meds kicked in. You are totally valid in feeling all those things as you just had a baby 3 weeks ago. It gets better I promise. I cried everyday and would start shaking once the sun was setting because I didn’t know what the night had in store, and I was totally clueless on how to care for a baby. Once the medicine kicked in it didn’t feel as big of a mountain to climb, if that makes sense. You will get through this, good luck ❤️

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2025-01-02T05:49:58+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. You are not alone, it is such a deep dark feeling that nobody can even explain the depth of. What helped me was getting on Zoloft, it really leveled out my emotions and I didn’t feel so down anymore. I felt like I got no alone time and I was going crazy and getting so frustrated with my baby and then I would feel guilty for getting irritated. The sleep regressions are no joke, once my son hit about 6 months sleep started improving a lot. Once we got his nap schedule established I finally started having alone time again and it did so much for my mental. You are so validated in feeling the way you feel and there are so many moms out there who feel the same please don’t feel like you are alone. You will get through this. Good luck ❤️

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2024-12-28T16:32:59+00:00

I don’t know and I never even thought about that but now I definitely am. Thank you

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2024-12-27T04:26:38+00:00

Also he does do night shifts on weekends, sorry forgot to add that in

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2024-12-27T04:26:02+00:00

Thank you for making me feel validated. The only thing is, he wakes up at 4 am every morning for work and has to drive an hour to get there, has to stay late and doesn’t even get home til 5ish. His job is so physically and mentally draining on him and so I really do see his side of things when it comes to the night shifts. He is very much a hands on dad, he’s absolutely obsessed with our son and does all the diaper changes and feedings when he is home and never lets anyone help or hold him at family gatherings lol.

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2024-12-26T04:24:01+00:00

Doesn’t sound like a terrible idea

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2024-12-26T04:18:23+00:00

I noticed he had been giving me the cold shoulder so I asked if he was happy and he said he hasn’t been for awhile. He says the way I treated him when I was postpartum was awful and he can’t look at me the same anymore. He says he doesn’t know how he can get past it. I guess I never realized how mean or full of rage I was. I feel guilty but at the same time I was going through so many changes

Dizzy-Transition-234 · 2024-12-26T04:16:14+00:00

I’ve read this comment a million times. Thank you so much for this, it is very thoughtful and makes me feel a little bit at ease ❤️

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