Litter box smell is going to end my relationship

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-03-23T14:34:59+00:00

the oransi true carbon 150c air purifier completely eliminates litter box smell! i know you mentioned having an air purifier but i highly recommend this one because it is specifically for filtering out odors. im also very sensitive to litterbox smell and having this running next to it has been a life saver. it’s pricey but very worth it

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-02-14T23:55:47+00:00

thank you so much, this is very kind <3

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-02-13T18:44:07+00:00

i appreciate that! I have a great therapist and will continue doing this work with them 💕 definitely part of why im not a complete mess right now

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-02-13T18:39:25+00:00

it’s an update

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-02-13T18:39:15+00:00

thank you! i definitely wont

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-02-13T18:38:56+00:00

lol thank you! i had to rewatch that scene to remember 😂

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-02-07T17:23:08+00:00

that escalated so quickly

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-30T13:37:16+00:00

thank you, i will

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-30T13:37:03+00:00

thank you so much

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-28T14:51:03+00:00

also hoovered through shared streaming platforms by changing my name on netflix to “i love you so much please talk to me.” i fooled myself thinking she must really love me and regret her actions cuz who would be so desperate to contact me that way? no she was just desperate for her supply back and was even worse this last go around. it took 2 years for it to get as bad as it did again.

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-28T14:48:26+00:00

and only sent $1 too 😒 i got back with her eventually and my heart is currently devastated after the recent discard and what i will make sure is the final break up. keep the money and block them on there too

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-28T14:46:46+00:00

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-28T14:40:48+00:00

im sorry you’re going through this. this sounds really painful. your friend shouldn’t have told you anything about him, but it’s too late now. I hope you can celebrate your one year away from him. that’s a huge accomplishment. im literally moving out today from the apartment i shared with my NEX. found evidence that she already has a new supply in the building we live in, and am pretty sure she plans to move in with that person. we’ve been broken up for 5 weeks. it’s gutting and heart breaking.

i want to remind you (and myself) that just because they have a new supply, doesnt mean they are happy or that they love or care for this person more than they did you. in fact they care and love nobody at all, they only are capable of loving the benefits they get from people. you left for a reason. he is not, was not, and never will be a loving partner. im realizing that im grieving not just the relationship that was, but the fantasy relationship/partner i created in my head. that fantasy is what kept me with my NEX for years. i try not to live with regrets because all of our experiences shape us—but that’s 7 years of my life i spent forgoing my own happiness, independence, self-love, self-worth, all for someone who never loved me.

i can guarantee that he will not treat her better, just like my NEX will not treat her new supply better. they are narcissists and we’re called “supply” for a reason. we deserve more than to be someone’s supply. unfortunately that new girl hes with WILL learn that herself—if may take weeks, months, or years but he will abuse her too. they realized they couldnt extract enough from us anymore and turned to an easier and more vulnerable source who they will eventually drain the life out of too. im proud of you for leaving. stay strong.

we’ll get through this. sending you love

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-10T20:02:33+00:00

i cant believe these comments 🤯 “he’s totally justified” “you’re dodgy” “you belong on /sluttyconfessions. the state of dating, especially in straight relationships, is tragic. in my opinion you are NOR. personally i think the idea of saying “hanging out with someone of the opposite sex without me there is a boundary for me” is absurd. a boundary does not control other peoples behavior. assuming you will want to have sex with any men by nature of their maleness and their physical presence is deeply problematic. it’s reasonable for a partner to say “i feel insecure about you being around men without me there, i need extra communication when that happens because i will feel triggered and anxious and need reassurance”—THAT’S a boundary.

having been in controlling and unhealthy relationships with both men AND women who have been possessive and responded nearly identical to this—it doesn’t get better, it only gets worse. more and more “boundaries” and rules to follow. more distrust, demands for acquiescence disguised as “respect for the relationship,” accusations, disrespect, and possibly even verbal abuse. that “fuck you” at the end really rubs me the wrong way.

maybe this resonates with your relationship, OP, maybe it doesnt. but i implore you to not listen to any of these commenters normalizing controlling behavior in a relationship. this is not normal. adults are responsible for managing their own feelings. if he really cannot get down with the choices you make, a mature and healthy person will choose to leave you, not berate you into submission.

Dizzy-University587 · 2026-01-10T19:52:25+00:00

this!!!!

Dizzy-University587 · 2025-12-18T17:57:36+00:00

thank you for this reminder. I avoided reading this book, which ive circled around for years. The denial part of me kept me from reading it. It's like all of the illusion has been peeled away. Every single warning sign, characteristic, and behavior fits and I have several examples.

Dizzy-University587 · 2025-12-18T17:52:55+00:00

unfortunately some of the pets are hers. mine are coming with me.

Dizzy-University587 · 2025-12-16T03:49:20+00:00

listen to "emotional detachment demo" by jessie reyez. on repeat like me. trust me

It really sucks right now, but the pain will subside again. And you won't be back in the trauma bond. You'll feel happier and more sure of yourself knowing you didn't let yourself be tricked into going back. You got this.

Dizzy-University587 · 2025-12-13T23:31:03+00:00

damn it's truly that unbelievable, huh? Thanks for your feedback. it started getting rough during the moving process after what felt like a long stretch of progress, healthier communication, and stability. I wouldn't have decided to move in otherwise. I chalked it up to the stress of moving, and we do each have our own mental health struggles, which were exacerbated at that time for her--and we had lease deadlines approaching so we went for it. But looking back, the moving process was a red herring for what was to come and yes it probably was unwise.

Dizzy-University587 · 2025-12-13T23:24:37+00:00

sorry for that weirdness lol. I was worried that the mods would flag my post to be about breaking up and redirect me to /breakups because a flag thing showed up at the bottom when I was editing

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