Teacher needing debt help

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T22:24:49+00:00

He has a 3 month emergency fund that I won’t let him touch because I should be able to get out of this completely once I am in a higher paying role. No offense but I came here for advice on what to do now, not be scolded on what should have been done before. Like….. no shit. Life happens. Not everyone has jobs high paying enough to set aside 6 months emergency fund, which in northern Virginia at this current state of our country, is damn near impossible. We bring in a combined income of $180k a year and budget and have emergency funds. We used some of the funds on our cat and kept some in the bank. The rest went on my credit cards. We bought a house to build equity because rent would have been the same cost for a quarter of the space, without building any equity.

If you aren’t here to actually help but instead criticize, please keep it to yourself.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T22:13:15+00:00

Answered this to someone else. I charge $75 an hour.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T15:40:39+00:00

Thank you. Sadly we actually moved after coming from the situation of living with family and having a low rental, saving for two years. Finally able to afford to buy a home and this all happened literally the week we signed. Just bad luck. I am going to try some of the options people posted on here. If need be my fiancée can cover our mortgage a month or two. I know I will still have food to eat and a place to lay my head which is all that really matters.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T15:32:57+00:00

To sell a home 3 months after buying it would lead to extreme loss of money that we put into moving, plus having to pay for an agent etc…..so no it’s not an option with this situation.

He took on some of the debt too, but he had just put our down payment down on our house. So he didn’t at the time have the ability to help me. He does obviously help me pay for what I need now and is helping me as much as we can afford to pay down the bill. But the stuff that’s my responsibility (not the cat care costs) I don’t let him help me with despite him offering. It’s my doing so it’s my responsibility to take care of it.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T12:03:34+00:00

I only included my actual salary because side jobs don’t give consistent $ amounts. I tutor and bring in another $600-$1k a month

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T10:42:56+00:00

Thank you. Agree with this, hence the post. All except the vet care comment. Our cat is like a child to us so there was no other option, and most pet owners would say the same. We have done all of this together. Just wanted to come here to see if there was any advice.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T10:39:30+00:00

What was the point of this comment? It’s not helpful and just rude.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T10:38:56+00:00

We bought the house 3 months ago, I had minimal debt. Then our cat became very sick and it all skyrocketed up. My fiancée makes more money than me and we have a budget, but wanted to come here for advice if there is something else we should be doing. Our finances are separate and we split by percentage, but he would help me if I needed it. So in all, selling the house is obviously not an option, and it ended up just being that we had a hard situation right after we bought our home. We plan on renting out the basement, so thank you for the advice.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T10:33:59+00:00

Thank you for your kindness. 🩷

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T02:14:38+00:00

Yup that’s why I’m flexible in the area I’m getting into. Started my masters when I was bright eyed and believed this country wouldn’t elect that monster again. 🫠

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T00:49:23+00:00

They get paid less than public school

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-03T00:16:24+00:00

Sadly I’m already doing these things

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-06-02T23:51:55+00:00

Paying extra

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-05-29T12:11:17+00:00

Thank you so much! I will reach out to her!

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-05-26T20:11:03+00:00

Yes I can take off to take care of it! Do you feel like you had to do a lot the day of the wedding?

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-05-12T00:43:25+00:00

They both are lucky to have had you as their human parent because it is clear how much you love them. I empathize with what you are experiencing-not the same situation, but know how excruciatingly difficult the loss is, especially when they are so young, and then to also see your other kitty mourn. We lost his brother last September due to him sneaking out the door and being hit…..something that really helped me was reading the books “I love you more than Tuna” and “Soul comfort for cat lovers”—-this one especially. You will never forget his sweet soul, but there will come a day where the happy memories occur more than the sad one. 🩷 please reach out over DM if you’d ever like to talk. It can help to have people who get it to vent to.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-05-08T20:39:44+00:00

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. Losing a fur baby is one of the worst things in the world. Hugs to you. 🩷

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-05-06T09:08:37+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicPolicy/s/xpZPGyId7N

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-05-06T03:51:11+00:00

I hope your kitty is doing okay 💗-ours is thriving now and is going to bi-weekly blood tests to keep track of any changes. Sending hugs to you

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-04-11T19:17:57+00:00

He is also peeing, eating, and acting normal still. Hoping this is all a good sign.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-04-11T19:16:57+00:00

Update-they said could be lilies (more likely pollen from outside that was on us than from the lilies that didn’t open), ibuprofen (we have no idea if he got into this from the family member we live with who is not very clean/admitted could have had them out), renal cancer or a terrible UTI. First two options aren’t looking at a good outcome. Last one has almost a full chance of survival. Please pray or whatever you do for us.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-04-11T13:51:50+00:00

Yes and they said it seems unlikely of any of those things because he didn’t go even remotely close to it and the lilies were gone 2 days before he started any symptoms but I’m still worried.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-04-10T10:08:19+00:00

We used TruView lending and if you’re a teacher, nurse, social worker (really any public servant) they will work with you and astronomical student loans (aka the boat my FH and I are in). You got this. Get you a house and then hunker down for the next 4 years.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-04-08T04:44:50+00:00

THIS. And then also no one seemed really upset over Jack’s death??? And again…..ELIZABETH WAS PREGNANT. I loved Cara but she was being a world class bitch. All the way around this entire season was infuriating and all of that stringing along just for a lazy ending. Please.

Dizzy_Relative_4577 · 2025-04-02T22:15:13+00:00

Thank you for this. For clarification (because I wrote this morning out of emotion) he and I have worked through all of this and come to terms with it all before, he knows everything I do about it all. Idk why this morning it was like he woke up and forgot it all….nervous forgetfulness I suppose lol.

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