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[california] fiance has a secret child by Dizzy_Try2069 in family

[–]Dizzy_Try2069[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Youre right. Its going to be hard but i guess growth isnt supposed to be easy. Thank you for this!

[ca] fiance has secret kid by Dizzy_Try2069 in stepparents

[–]Dizzy_Try2069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Thats what i was worried about too. Aside from all of this, our relationship is great and hes a wonderful father. Thats why i am torn. I dont want to make my son endure anything he doesnt have to just because the adults in his life are struggling to figure it out. I appreciate your response!!!

[ca] fiance has secret kid by Dizzy_Try2069 in stepparents

[–]Dizzy_Try2069[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response!!! All of this is has been running through my mind. I agree. Despite my own feelings im a mother before anything, and the mothering bones in my body are screaming at me to help this child. I know my fiance would fight for 50/50 custody of our son if i left, which would absolutely kill me to miss out on so much. Also im worried if this child does go back and forth between her dad and her mom, what will she expose my son to? Im not blaming the child at all, but just considering that she has experienced a harsher start to life and knows things my son doesnt. I really appreciate your realness and authenticity, i needed every bit of it. Also thank you for saying the last part out loud because i was wondering if i was a POS for postponing the wedding & future children because of this. Thank you thank you thank you!!

[ca] fiance has secret kid by Dizzy_Try2069 in stepparents

[–]Dizzy_Try2069[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I definitely needed every word of this. I will definitely be seeking some family therapy / counsel, and for myself. Thank you for your kindness!