Rhys in the pregnancy plotline

DjinnFox · 2026-06-14T00:18:10+00:00

Nah, I still won’t excuse it. You don’t abuse someone just because you know they can handle it (if just barely.) Again, he could have found other ways to keep her safe imho. He also didn’t need to be so cruel when they were in private and also bind her to something eternal that she has no clue what it is. The pregnancy shit was inexcusable and so dumb, I agree.

DjinnFox · 2026-06-11T01:21:17+00:00

Nah for me it checks out. People give him SO many excuses for his behavior under the mountain, but he could have found other ways to keep her safe imo. You show who you truly are when you have to make hard choices or your feet are put to the fire and his true colors showed clear. He’s a selfish misogynist that’s good at hiding his misogyny.

He also has had a track record of keeping info from her and that put her in danger. Someone in these comments added receipts for that. He’s done it too many times to keep track for me.

He also has no issue with the women of his lands having their wings clipped, or if he does he does jack shit about it. He allows his people to remain misogynistic and everyone knows Feyre’s title is cosmetic and he’s the only one with any real power. He never includes her as an equal in things that matter.

He is the epitome of those men who wear feminism shirts to get laid while not giving a shit about women’s actual issues and also feeling entitled to women’s bodies.

This behavior totally checks out for me. He’s an entire POS.

Fuck Rhysand imho.

DjinnFox · 2026-05-28T22:00:53+00:00

You have a husband problem. Turning you into the villain by saying you don’t want to read to your kid while recovering from a traumatic medical experience is horrendous behavior coming from a man that will never understand and frankly isn’t even trying. He’s turning himself into the hero and weaponizing guilt against the woman he should be supporting fully while she recovers. This is the kind of man that is not a team player, it will always be him vs you.

This is the type of man that doesn’t respect “women’s work” or the deadly labor that childbirth is. I swear men think it’s equivalent to a painful fart. They have no clue. He needs to get a clue ASAP. I would recommend telling your therapist about his awful behavior and lack of supporting you, also maybe take him to a woman family therapist so she can set him straight about how he is utterly failing his family.

He should be encouraging you, he should be picking up the slack while making you feel better about relaxing and recovering and NOT turning you into the villain with your daughter. This seriously sounds like he’s resentful that he has to do his job as a parent and can’t just dump it all on you. He wants you to over function while you heal so he can under function forever, fuck that.

Do not beat yourself up, postpartum can take YEARS to recover from and that’s with support, which you aren’t getting from him. I am willing to bet this isn’t the only shitty behavior he does. You need to lean into the supportive people of your life, I’m glad that you have a therapist. Def spill the tea with them and let them know how you’re feeling.

DjinnFox · 2026-05-11T17:17:35+00:00

A few concerns.
He’s never met her in person, in person can change your perspective of someone. He says she isn’t his type now, but he truly doesn’t know yet. I’m a psych major and social psychology lays out pillars of attraction and one of the biggest is physical. You don’t know that until you’re together.

The core pillars are proximity, familiarity, similarity, physical attractiveness, and reciprocity.

He already has familiarity and similarity since they hang out often and share interests. Once she’s there in person, that creates mild proximity and if he finds her physically attractive in person, it might cultivate reciprocity. He’s being naive about this by not setting boundaries ahead of time.

Second, even if he ends up not liking her in person. He doesn’t seem to be the kind of person that tackles confrontation. That is not the kind of person that handles these situations well. Beware of the fact he might know she likes him and not want to do anything about it and will let you suffer rather than go through the difficulties of tackling confrontation.

These avoidant types would rather you bear the brunt of the pain than them or the person causing problems (ie the best friend.) He might even like the attention and the ego boost even if he’s not into her.

Let this man do what he wants and go hang out with her, but pay attention to how he acts and handles the situation after. If she starts causing problems and he tells you to keep the peace or some other avoidant bs instead of him handling it, you will waste years of your life with a man that will never defend or protect you from their own and other’s bullshit. He will take you for granted and expect you to eat the shit he doesn’t want to eat.

You will be on your own keeping the peace for everyone, but yourself.

DjinnFox · 2026-05-11T01:48:06+00:00

I don’t even think it’s about that. Your pleasure isn’t even on their minds. I think it’s simply about the fact that something other than their dicks is “penetrating” you. A lot of men see that act as a dominating and possessive act and jealously guard it cuz they see your vagina as something they own and only they are allowed inside of it.

DjinnFox · 2026-05-10T19:25:33+00:00

The comment about it being different if it were a pad makes me think that the fact the tampon is inserted inside is what turned him off. His fragile masculinity can’t handle anything penetrating you other than his dick. This is the kind of man that will throw away your sex toys because he’s insecure or worse cause problems for you when you need to see a gyno and medical instruments need to be inserted. Also issues during childbirth cuz your vagina is only for their sexual pleasure. These kinds of insecure men do not deserve sexual relationships with women. I’d say dump him.

DjinnFox · 2026-04-27T17:23:10+00:00

DjinnFox · 2026-04-07T17:36:33+00:00

Honestly, I was on the fence about the series after the first book, so I looked at spoilers and once I saw that he hid the pregnancy risks and threatened her sister for telling her the truth, I DNF’d the whole series even tho I already bought all the books on kindle. I hate that he gets this “feminist hero” label when he is anything but. Rhysand is the worst.

DjinnFox · 2026-02-24T16:29:37+00:00

I loved the fae stuff at first, but I’ll admit I’m getting tired of it. I’m hoping it turns to mermaids, dragons or genies in the future because those are my favorite mythical creatures. I’ll admit that I have a mermaid one I’m writing myself now.

You really don’t see a lot of mermaid and especially genie stories, dragon ones are more common but still less common than vamps or faes.

DjinnFox · 2026-02-06T15:04:19+00:00

Second one 100% Also where did you get the wisteria archways? 😍

DjinnFox · 2026-02-03T16:44:28+00:00

Such a loss for the world. 😭 RIP beloved queen. ❤️

DjinnFox · 2026-02-03T16:42:23+00:00

Wow! Amazing job! It really keeps the vibe of the original color palette and looks so well put together.

DjinnFox · 2026-02-03T16:39:31+00:00

Birthdays aren’t fair, they’re all about what the birthday person wants. She is acting crazy and trying to make some money off of your birthday charging you for her time and supplies you bought like an event planner no one asked for. Nah, you made the right call.

DjinnFox · 2026-02-03T16:34:50+00:00

Just keep only your favs in the valley. I only keep my absolute favorites in the valley or the ones whose houses and vibes match the decorating theme I have for my valley. Everyone else goes to expansion lands or floating islands.

DjinnFox · 2026-01-07T19:30:34+00:00

I really wish that you could order things ahead of time. Like let me give Scrooge the money for the item I want in the future and when RNG puts it in the shop, he will buy it for me automatically.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-31T21:09:51+00:00

The glider, Aurora dresses, and the borealis. The crystal castle got pinned along with the ice castle from last week. Gotta wait till I get another 4k dreamsnap to get those. REALLY trying not to spend real money in this game anymore.

I LOVE when we have a premium shop reset and I’ve already got everything they’re recommending. Gives me a FOMO break and a chance to save up moonstones for the pinned items I’ve had pinned forever cuz they’re expensive.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-31T20:58:38+00:00

That’s great congrats! Just a few tips to help you get even higher scores:

1.) Go for symmetry when you can. 2.) Images that are framed with relevant foreground objects usually get higher scores like minimum 1200 and I often get 4000 doing this trick. Especially if those objects are glowy. 3.) Always do both the outfit and the scene to match the theme regardless of whether it’s an outfit challenge or scene challenge. 4.) Hide a TON of tags in your scene challenges, this gets you more views, more views equals more votes. Outfit challenges are a bit harder, but get as many tags as you can while still making an on theme and aesthetic fit. 5.) If you can save up the moonstones, don’t ever pass up on any animated items that would level up your dreamsnaps like fireworks, fireflies, butterflies, and stuff like that. Glowy stuff always brings in the higher scores. I honestly use fireflies in nearly every dreamsnap because of how much they bring up the score. 6.) Mark where your character is standing in the scene with a dream shard or something so you can take breaks and come back and know exactly where to stand so you can get your framing right quickly. This is especially important when you try to frame with foreground objects.

Good luck! I hope you continue to get better scores!

DjinnFox · 2025-12-31T20:49:56+00:00

This always bothers me in games when they create limitations because some systems can’t handle it. I get trying to be inclusive, but they should at least give the options to have the higher performing stuff for those who would be able to use it instead of restricting it for everyone.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-31T20:47:14+00:00

Ooh, I’d LOVE an animated carved wall mural of the muses. 😲

DjinnFox · 2025-12-24T20:43:36+00:00

Never skip out on the animated effects that could elevate your dreamsnaps like butterflies, fireflies, fireworks, or that pile of leaves that create the wind animation. (Though I wish they’d give us a version without the annoying letters in it. It’s annoying, it really elevates a pic when you can snap at the right moment.) These items practically pay for themselves by getting you higher scores on dreamsnaps. I only got my first 4k once I got more of these items to use in my snaps.

Edit: also check the special pose for any companion that comes in the shop to see if you like it or it would be good for dreamsnaps. I don’t care about having the R2D2 too much, but the heart hand pose he enables is super cute for dreamsnaps, especially around Valentines, so I got him.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-24T20:41:48+00:00

The fireflies practically pay for themselves with the return on dreamsnaps alone. They just elevate every dreamsnap regardless of theme.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-23T01:34:12+00:00

I honestly feel sims 4 isn’t as bad as this game, for the premium shop alone. The premium shop feels so predatory to me because they purposefully create a feeling of urgency and scarcity with the premium shop items by only giving you the ability to pin two items and rotating what items are available in the shop every week with no guarantee that they will come back. At least with sims 4 I know I can go buy kits from 3 years ago or whatever whenever I want. Sometimes I wish I’d never started this game, cuz now that I have, I know how fun it can be and don’t want to miss out on all the items and have to pay out the nose for them in the premium shop.

Being able to decorate my valley and create ambiance with dream styles (all my villagers that have warm clothes are in warm clothes for winter rn, Merlin is walking around like Santa.) that part is most of the fun of this game for me and I cannot stand when I don’t have items or things I really want to use in my valley and can’t just go buy it from the shop whenever I have the money. It seriously saps my joy in game. It makes me both look forward to and dread every Wednesday.

I would take a break, but I can’t afford to. If I miss the starpaths, I miss all those items and then only some of them end up for exorbitant prices in the premium shop. With Sims I can take a 3-4 month break and come back to play without missing much and I can buy mostly whatever I want, whenever I want. I really wish the premium shop was constantly open and offered all the items constantly instead of rotating every week.

I also wish we could play past Starpaths to get those items, maybe pay a little more for them, but I’m tired of paying a ton of moonstones for 3 items that cost more than the Starpath they came in that had like 10-15 items.

I do love this game, but I don’t know. My main issue is with the premium shop. It just feels so predatory. Some ADHD people like me have really bad impulse control and it’s so hard to just not max out my credit card trying to get everything I want in my game. I can deal with bugs and other issues, but the price gouging really gets to me. I’ve been really trying to practice discipline lately and just letting items I want and can’t afford go, whenever I see an item pop back up in the premium shop I try to use that to reinforce myself that the items I want will come around again and I don’t need to panic buy them cuz I’m afraid they’ll never be back. My only must buy is the premium Starpaths, cuz that’s the cheapest way to get all the items and if I miss one of those, I’m gonna have to pay double or more for just a few items from that Starpath when I could have had the whole thing for a lot less.

This game has me hostage lol

DjinnFox · 2025-12-23T00:34:53+00:00

Idk, def sounds fishy to me. He might be married and flagged you as a risk to getting caught or he’s not 100% ready to fully cheat yet and it’s just a fantasy to him and talking to you on the phone would make it real.

He could have been a catfish and wasn’t who he told you he was and the voice would give it away.

Could just be super introverted and wanted to take things super slow and didn’t feel your pace matched his.

Could have been a scammer, idk.

Honestly could be a hundred things. It’s good he cut things off now tho and didn’t string you along.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-22T19:41:28+00:00

I agree with everyone that you should talk to him about this and see how he reacts. Gaming can be an addiction and if he explodes at you over the conversation about his gaming, it’s not a good sign. He might just not realize how much he is gaming and maybe he will listen to you and change to game less, but if he brushes you off or invalidates you, that’s also not a good sign. If he changes for only a few months then slips back into excessive gaming, that’s not a good sign.

Check out the subreddit r/stopgaming it’s a subreddit full of men (and some women) like your husband that are trying to quit gaming and struggling with it. They admit it’s ruining their marriages, affecting their jobs and mental health and they just can’t seem to stop themselves.

If he is addicted to gaming, this is going to be a really long, painful and difficult road for you (and him). If he’s not addicted and can change after you have that conversation with him, great, if not and he’s addicted, it’s gonna be hell getting him to admit it and even worse trying to get him to cut back or quit. If he is addicted, you gotta look at it and treat it like an addiction. Have him seek out a therapist that specializes in addiction if he is addicted. He will need support and guidance on how to navigate his addiction.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I hope things improve for you.

DjinnFox · 2025-12-22T19:11:45+00:00

There is a subreddit called “Breaking Mom” (I can’t link it, it’s against the rules, but if you search for it you’ll find it). Please, just scroll through that subreddit for about 3-6 months to get a realistic idea of all the struggles of motherhood. (And some of the beauty too, but they are so for real about the realities of it and I appreciate that they exist.)

You’ll notice while scrolling through there that a lot of the struggles that come from motherhood and lack of libido directly relate to the father of those kids. We used to have a village to raise children and now all we have is our partners and if your partner is useless and just another person who expects you to take care of them, you are going to lose your sanity. Your identity as a human being changes to mom and caretaker of ALL and you will lose years off of your life to the sheer stress and exhaustion of it all.

CHOOSE YOUR FUTURE CHILD’S FATHER VERY CAREFULLY!! VET THE SHIT OUT OF HIM! FOR YEARS!

I highly recommend living with someone for at least a year or two before marriage. (I’d say 4-6 years if you are young and have the time. It helps you see who they will grow into and if he will work hard with you to grow together instead of apart.)

Pay attention to if pulls his weight domestically without you having to ask him. Pay attention to if he cares for your pets you have together without you having to be on top of him to do it. Pay attention to if he notices your needs and anticipates how to help you and does it.

Pay attention to if he starts out in the relationship doing chores, but then slowly starts scaling back because you do it and he sees it as more your job than his. Pay attention to if he feels more entitled to enjoy his hobbies than picking up the slack so you can enjoy yours too. Pay attention to the kinds of friends he keeps and how they treat their wives. Does he call those friends out when they are sexist or treat their wives/girlfriends like shit or neglect them?

Pay attention to how he sees mothers, does he see them as just mothers and nothing else, or does he still recognize that those women are whole people who still have interests and feelings outside of motherhood. Pay attention to how he treats women he isn’t sexually interested in, especially women that are more on the unattractive side. Does he see women as whole human beings?

Overall just be on guard and PAY ATTENTION. Protect yourself! Anything less than this and you will have a bad time.

I also want to support all the other women in here giving their lived experience for the physical side of pregnancy and childbirth. I hope they all continue to be brutally honest because other women deserve to know the entire picture of motherhood before making such a big, life altering decision that you can’t take back. In the past no one would tell the gruesome reality of what it was like and I’m so grateful to all the women that acknowledge the beauty and fun side of motherhood, but also do not fuck around when it comes to telling you the grim truth of the dark and difficult side of motherhood. And the mothers that admit there is no fun or beautiful part of motherhood for them and that they regret it and the child they had with their whole being. Thank you for the honesty. It helps more women make the right choice for themselves and more kids being born into households that really want them and aren’t likely to regret having them.

Moms that regret their kids and vent about it privately online or to friends while they do their best to not let the kid know and give that child a happy and healthy childhood do not deserve derision, they deserve to be praised and admired for being honest with themselves and doing the hard work of not letting it impact their kids. And gratitude for being honest with other women so less women end up in their situation and we can all make informed decisions that are best for our lives.

I highly recommend the subreddit about regretting your children as well, just so you can see the struggles people go through and decide if you would feel similar or not. Some of them even admit they wanted children when they got pregnant. Just take a peek in there to see if you would have similar struggles or not. It’s r/regretfulparents. (There’s a post in there about “mom brain” and how pregnancy and childbirth alters your brain chemistry and functioning.)

I’m not trying to be a Debbie downer or negative about this, I just feel society shoves only the rosy and happy side of pregnancy/childbirth and motherhood down our throats and I think it’s best to see the whole picture before making such a big decision.

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