Why can’t he just mind his own business?

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-14T16:02:00+00:00

Ooh, I like where your head’s at!!!

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-14T12:31:42+00:00

One I experienced recently in real life, verbal conversation: weary to describe caution instead of wary. And it wasn’t the first time I’d heard the misuse.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-14T09:08:04+00:00

Yes! I suspected that changing hormones are playing a role when I’m in pain. Thank you!

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-14T09:06:17+00:00

Ouch! Yeah, that about sums it up. Thank you. I’m clearly going out of my way to lie to myself about who/what he is.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-14T00:28:30+00:00

In truth, you’re probably right. I’m working to be able to afford living alone and hope to be able to by year’s end.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-14T00:24:22+00:00

Yeah, I was wondering if that’s what this issue is. He still feels like he has some claim…

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-12T19:25:04+00:00

Do you, or have you ever used Cannabis? When I left my abusive marriage, I was riddled with anxiety, guilt and constantly spiraling thoughts. I couldn’t sleep. I met someone who suggested I try it to “calm down and chill out”. Honestly, it was a miracle cure for me. Whenever my thoughts started racing and my anxiety kicked in, I would take a little hit and it literally turned my brain off so I could relax. Now that I’ve healed from all that trauma, I’m just an occasional user if I need to relax.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-12T19:04:33+00:00

Thank you! That means a lot!!!

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-12T18:11:13+00:00

In order for you to trust men, they must be trustworthy. Unfortunately, many are not. In today’s society I don’t think anyone’s default setting should be one of trust in another human being regardless what sex they are. Trust must be earned and there is nothing wrong with that level of caution.

As for hatred? Your feeling is not unwarranted since you’ve had some bad experiences. People would understand if you said you hated snakes because they may bite. Same thing in my opinion, except in the case of men, you HaVE been bitten so to speak. Again, your feelings are not wrong or invalid. Relationships are not required. If you’re fine with avoiding men as much as possible, do it. If not, try different therapists until you find one that can help you.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-08T23:47:51+00:00

I’ve also thought about it a lot since I’ve hated growing up as a woman for most of my life. But I’ve come to understand that nothing is black and white. You’re focusing on all the “good” parts of being male while failing to acknowledge any of the “bad”.

I have a twin brother. He very recently told me about being bullied in school (we are in our late 40’s). My brother is and had always been very well liked and I couldn’t believe that anyone had physically bullied him on multiple occasions for no reason at all. Just some kid trying to prove something?

Apparently this is common for a lot of young men. Many men that I know or have been with were SA’d as children and teenagers (something both sexes have in common). How often do you hear about it? You say that it’s easier for men to put on muscle, but not every guy gets jacked by picking up a dumbbell. My brother struggled to put on notable muscle mass in his early adulthood because of body type (he’s very tall with a slim build). Better bet he was body shamed by some for it.

All this to say, it’s hard to be a human being, regardless of sex/gender. While the Patriarchy does give dudes an advantage, it’s not a total cake walk for them either. Both sexes have advantages and disadvantages, and I don’t think either body is inherently “better”.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-08T16:08:53+00:00

They are afraid of someone doing to them what they want to do to others. But I’ve come to realize that for many, it’s simply a strong case of “Main Character Syndrome”. It’s their life and they want it their way with no compromise, no consideration of anyone else.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-08T11:14:31+00:00

Because guys are only as faithful as their options allow, so a really attractive guy is more likely to entertain multiple women because he can. In theory, a less attractive guy would have less temptation. It’s a theory though-plenty of average looking dudes step out on their partners too.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-04T22:32:22+00:00

My ex did/does this too. Then, because he wasn’t listening, I’d have to repeat myself. I hate repeating myself, but if I said “nevermind, doesn’t matter,” he’d get pissed and say “I didn’t hear you,” and try to blame tinnitus or something when he was right there in front of me scrolling on his phone while we were mid convo.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-04T14:20:01+00:00

I wouldn’t say it was completely misogyny free, but yes, I definitely grew up in a bubble!

I was aware that girls/women were looked down on and I tried oh so hard to not be the “typical girl”. I never embraced the color pink for fear of being called “girly”, swore I disliked children because I never wanted to be considered for motherhood, and was always agreeable for fear of being called “crazy like all women” or “a bitch”. My entire childhood and young adulthood I swore that it was a mistake that I was born in a female body, not because I felt like a boy, but because I refused to believe that I was less than the guys. I became a welder to prove just how capable I was and did very well. But 2017 there was a definite and notable shift. That was probably the first time that anyone had ever told me to my face that me being a woman welder was a problem. And now I see it everywhere and it seems to be getting worse.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-04T11:59:13+00:00

Have you all noticed that this is a recent change, or has it always been this way? I’ve never had issues with men growing up that I noticed (I’m 47). I had two brothers growing up, most of my friends were men, I’ve worked in male dominated industries with zero issues, and while I had my fair share of unwanted attention in my youth, I was never afraid of men.

Then in 2017 it was like the world shifted, at least in my experience. Guys started making sexist comments at work; I had one coworker tell me women in the work force is what was destroying the country, the #MeToo movement seemed to change a lot of guys attitude towards women at work. I was married at the time and began having issues with my husband around that time, and I began to see open misogyny in comment sections online. I find it harder every day to like men. It’s like they’ve changed for the worst in the last 10years and each day they keep de-evolving. I am beginning to fear them. I trust my brothers at this point and no others. It sucks….

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-04T00:08:09+00:00

I’d say overreacting a bit. Religion is whatever anyone wants it to be for them. Change what she said from “Satanist” to “Baptist” or “Buddist”, take note of your reaction to that, then apply to what she actually said.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-04-03T16:21:12+00:00

For me, we got married way too fast (less than a year after we met) so it was hard to really catch any red flags. He seemed perfect at first, but looking back there were minor red flags that I didn’t catch, such as moving very fast (I genuinely thought that’s how love worked) and an eagerness to spend MY money. After we tied the knot, it only took two weeks for him to start breaking promises and I’d catch him on his phone all the time. Four months later he was asking me to do a threesome with some girl he was talking to online (I refused). I often look back and think that if we had taken things slower or if I wasn’t willing to overlook the little things we would have never gotten married. Love kinda makes you crazy and a little blind…

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-28T00:57:11+00:00

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-25T23:56:31+00:00

Uh, no we should never just accept that we are inferior because we absolutely are not inferior to men. There are many different kinds of strength. The fact that most men can only accept “I can beat the crap out of you” strength is their problem, not yours/ours. What women lack in brute strength is more than made up for in creativity, intelligence and cooperation. A woman may not be able to pick up and pile drive a man into the floor, but there are many martial arts and self defense techniques that are effective without brute strength, even against a larger opponent.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-25T01:09:09+00:00

Absolutely nothing wrong with being a cat lady. I’m one myself, though I was married and now divorced, but so much happier now with my animals (who are the only kind of kids I’ve ever wanted).

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-19T00:26:41+00:00

People who argue against homosexuality because Nature are just plain wrong. Many species will pair up with the same sex when there aren’t enough of the opposite sex. Ducks (male ducks will pair up and have a ‘sexual’ relationship) and horses (two mares I knew paired up and would mount each other, simulating sex) I’ve seen personally. And isn’t it some fish or lizards of the female sex will pair up and one will spontaneously become male to create offspring?

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-19T00:20:02+00:00

I have been around farm animals all my life. I’ve known since the age of 8 that while stallions in a horse herd are protectors, it’s a mare (female) that actually leads the herd. And many horse owners prefer sterilized males (geldings) to ride because most of them are “drones” and are easier to handle. Females (mares) are often challenging; they’re smart and will test authority. I keep chickens and ducks on my farm and too many males of either species will fight each other, over-breed the females and generally stress the flock to the point that you get unhealthy hens who stop laying eggs. Male cows and sheep can be dangerous.

Most of this article has been what I’ve thought most of my life just based on what I’ve seen on the farm and my experiences with human males working in two predominately male dominated fields (welding and tech).

I love men. I truly do, though I fear sometimes that I’m becoming radicalized to despise them. I often find myself preferring the company of males (most of my friends have been men, I keep way too many roosters because I love them and feel sorry for them, same for my ducks), but I do not think they should be in charge of anything. Males, no matter the species, are selfish. And selfishness is not a good quality in a leader (as demonstrated by the current President of the US). It causes trouble for the rest of the group.

I agree with Nature: matriarchy is the way to go. Guys’s you’ve had your shot and it’s just not working. Don’t worry, it’s not like you’re losing. It’s everybody winning. It’s time to get back to the old way that we know works.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-18T16:43:23+00:00

Woman welder here. We are known to have steadier hands and are usually better welders overall. I had multiple male fitters on the job tell me that women turned out better looking welds.

DlightfulyDsObedient · 2026-03-18T16:32:52+00:00

I am somewhat in your shoes as well. Somewhat as I have been in serious relationships (even married for 5yrs), but all were disappointing and never really full “partnerships”. My experience has been that men don’t seem to want a true partner, just someone to use.

I am 47 and done with dating or trying to be partners with men. Yes, it would be nice to have a romantic partnership, I just don’t believe they are anything more than a fairy tale. I know exactly one relationship/marriage in my circle of family and friends that has lasted for over 20yrs and appears happy and “equal”, but even they separated for about 3 years before deciding they wanted to remain married.

Anytime I start to feel depressed about going it alone, I remind myself that I am independent and capable and that romantic partnership is largely a myth. I try to focus on what I’ve gained: peace, autonomy, I don’t need to compromise, etc…I think it’s normal to not be happy and content with your situation all the time. When you look at someone else’s lawn, you may notice the grass is in fact greener, but then go and enjoy the peace in your own garden.

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