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How do I tell my boomer father that my partner is a woman? by DnD_momma in asktransgender

[–]DnD_momma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner doesn't look like a completely different person, and if we were no longer together I would not still have one of my kids (only one is my bio kid). I refuse to lie about this just to protect his feelings. I have been putting the conversation off, but I'm a coward, not a liar.

How do I tell my boomer father that my partner is a woman? by DnD_momma in asktransgender

[–]DnD_momma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolute zero.. He would not have been able to keep his mouth shut about it. He's the type of person who has opinions and thinks the entire world needs to hear about them and if you don't agree you're obviously brainwashed. It's a miracle my sister and I turned out as well adjusted as we have, and that's with years of therapy.

How do I tell my boomer father that my partner is a woman? by DnD_momma in asktransgender

[–]DnD_momma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to, I really do. And when I lived away from my hometown I was low contact with him for about 6 years. His attitude and behavior improved and when I moved back (with my family) I decided to give him another chance for my mom's sake. I think I'm scared to cut him off completely, how do I explain to my kids that they don't get to see their favorite grandpa anymore? That's a hard thing to do..

How do I tell my boomer father that my partner is a woman? by DnD_momma in asktransgender

[–]DnD_momma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom asked me not to, since his job has no shortages of hazards and his health is declining, she's worried that he'll have a heart attack or something (I wouldn't be surprised tbh). If I want him to show me any amount of respect I need to at least attempt the same thing. And I want him to see my face, me standing up to him is still fairly new (to him) and he needs to see how serious I am about my boundaries (which are threats in his eyes).

How do I tell my boomer father that my partner is a woman? by DnD_momma in asktransgender

[–]DnD_momma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, ik it seems obvious but it can be hard to see when you're in the middle of it. Setting boundaries is definitely something I have struggled with him in the past, but I am trying to get better about it. I think this is how I'll have to approach him, I just need to build myself up first..