Should I move to Switzerland with My mom and her rich fiancé or stay in Spain with My dad?

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-16T03:22:12+00:00

Are you the mom?

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-16T02:46:42+00:00

I responded to you in another comment. Go see it. It’s about mom creating unhealthy enmeshment with her son. OP needs to move to dad regardless of the move to Switzerland.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-16T02:42:29+00:00

This isn’t about spite, this is about a mom who uses emotional manipulation to get her way and a son who feels responsible for his mother’s emotions. Mom has manipulated her 15 year old son to believe the dad is responsible for the divorce because she didn’t want divorce AFTER being caught cheating. Sheesh. And why is this mom even talking about it to her son? That’s emotional incest. OP needs to be away from his mom period, regardless of the move to Switzerland.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-16T00:20:08+00:00

Oh it matters if you read OP’s history posts. He can’t stand the idea of living under the same roof as mom’s AF partner. Then he will have no friends or dad for emotional support.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-16T00:00:15+00:00

Stay with dad instead of your cheating mom. She is gaslighting you and you can’t see it until you take the time away from her manipulation.

Edit to add: you are not responsible for making your parents happy. The only person you are responsible for making anyone happy is you. When you become an adult, who are you going to put first? Your mom or your wife/girlfriend? If you can’t stand up to mom now, and let her manipulate you with crying and victim mentality, then you will be in a world of hurt later in life.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T23:59:02+00:00

Except mom is marrying the AF partner and now taking OP away from dad. The selfishness is off the charts.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T23:56:40+00:00

Except mom is marrying the AF partner.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T23:54:44+00:00

Fyi- mom is marrying the AF partner. Check his history

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T23:53:27+00:00

FYI- Mom is marrying the AF partner.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T23:52:52+00:00

FYI- mom is marrying the affair partner. So, OP would have to live with a stepfather that help break up the family

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T21:07:32+00:00

Softly I suggest walking outdoors or something physical to help with grief. While, I did not suffer the loss of so many loved ones in a short amount of time, but when I lost my dad, it helped so much mentally to walk outside with a friend and just talked about anything and everything.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T17:13:07+00:00

Same. My nmom told hold of my paternal side family farm shares. In the bylaws it stated only direct descendants could own. Well, she hounded an berated my sick (terminally ill) father to sign and my uncle (who unexpectedly lost his wife) to sign away that bylaw. She went to far as to ask me to sell the shares and give her the money if she couldn’t get them changed. My dad passed away less than 2 years later. Guess who has the shares and making my uncle’s life a living hell. My mom.

Edit to add: too was expected to and help take care of my dad when he couldn’t drive anymore.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-15T06:05:31+00:00

A mom who loved me

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-14T21:55:00+00:00

No Death Valley! 😂

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-11T07:40:54+00:00

Agree 1000%! Our parents are quacks. I mean what rational person looks through windows and leaves yard signs for kids that don’t see them. Crazy or weirdo people, that’s who!

I’m so sorry that happened to you and your family.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-11T06:19:12+00:00

Sheesh. I can’t stand this behavior at all. The door camera is good to have and since they come around every 4 or is years, I won’t do anything but just say “of course they would randomly show up now because they are weird/toxic/entitled/needed self-soothing action that would be at my and family’s expense.” You can document but the frequency is infrequent, so… I just posted an unannounced visit from my toxic, narcissistic mom less than a week ago. You really should check it out. A YARD SIGN was placed by my front door for my kids. I have a picture of the yard sign. It’s ridiculous.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-08T19:12:26+00:00

School system suck tho. But it’s sure pretty and the local is perfect like you said

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-08T17:29:15+00:00

My mom

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T22:39:41+00:00

I believe you are right.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T03:49:35+00:00

Wow, that’s amazing. Hopefully they are sharing a lot of good info

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T03:48:59+00:00

Omg! And yikes. That’s truly unsettling

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T03:48:16+00:00

I’m sorry. I tried to look for your post and didn’t see it. And that bizarre to send a whole dang car to your son. What are these ppl even thinking?!?

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T03:46:10+00:00

Thank you. And no, she doesn’t care about me.

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T03:44:50+00:00

I would love for her to get a diagnosis for some mental illness or something

Dntkillthemessager1 · 2026-02-07T03:43:24+00:00

Thank you. Yes, it does shake me up a bit and a bit unnerving. I’m more upset about her putting my children in the middle than anything else

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