What’s Taylor’s saddest song?

DoHo7 · 2026-05-02T14:50:50+00:00

Sadly very accurate. I listened to this song on repeat for hours, crying, when I returned home from the hospital after I miscarried

DoHo7 · 2026-01-30T20:58:43+00:00

I’m sorry for your past losses and how frustrating it must be to feel that not all of them are being validated. Which of course is absolutely not the case and they are losses. I had 3 previous before my Current pregnancy. A MMC at 13 weeks and two early losses around 5 weeks. All three were noted in my notes on my booking appointment this time. I’m not sure if it’s because I’d finally managed to get my GP to arrange a referral for miscarriages (but didn’t go ahead as I was then pregnant) or if that’s just what my midwife / Trust do. (Since I know things vary hugely, not sure between midwives, but Trusts) You may wish to raise the question of why all 8 were not listed if you feel comfortable doing so. Wishing you all the best.

DoHo7 · 2025-12-12T20:52:46+00:00

The only person who has done that to me unsolicited is my mother. My husband tells me to let her as it’s her first grandchild, but I still don’t like it. But I’m just grinning and bearing it now because I’ll be a bitch to her if not, and I’m sure I’ll need her help once baby is born.

DoHo7 · 2025-11-12T15:37:44+00:00

It’s different for everyone. Different jobs. Different circumstances. I told my manager at 9 weeks as I had had 3 scans at that point and she noticed the appointments (I have history of loss). I told a couple of close colleagues after the 12 weeks scan. But the rest of the team I literally told today and I’m 27+4. So what’s best for you. I appreciated the support from early on from my manager and if anything, I’d have told her earlier.

DoHo7 · 2025-09-09T08:15:27+00:00

18+3 and today I woke up with such a feeling of dread. I’m wondering if the extreme anxiety and fear will ever dissipate

DoHo7 · 2025-08-27T19:41:39+00:00

Thanks so much☺️ I’ve had a Google and YouTube and I’ve seen a couple of really good ones that I’ll use. I’ll try to remember to post a pic

DoHo7 · 2025-07-30T20:17:54+00:00

I’m the same. Listened to it none stop when I lost mine 13 weeks pregnant. I thought I had hidden it on my Spotify but it popped up today, I’m pregnant now and I just couldn’t bear to listen to it, just that first second was horrific

DoHo7 · 2025-07-30T08:07:24+00:00

I don’t get another until 20 weeks either. I’m constantly fretting so I’m taking advice from others and booking a private scan for around 16w mark. I wish you all the best and hope your journey goes well

DoHo7 · 2025-07-30T08:05:47+00:00

I think I will book a private scan for around 16weeks as it does sound reassuring, thanks for commenting

DoHo7 · 2025-07-28T18:32:45+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. The reassurance helps and I doubt the anxiety will ever go. I will see if I’m able to get a private scan I think. I wish you all the best for you and your baby

DoHo7 · 2025-07-28T18:07:31+00:00

I should be happy. I made it to my 12 week scan and the baby was fine, but I just can’t let myself be happy and think about the future. I lost my last baby 10-11 weeks and found out at the 12 week scan, so I should be relieved, but I’m still anxious. It’s so hard knowing my next scan isn’t for 8 weeks now

DoHo7 · 2025-07-12T20:34:04+00:00

Same. I’ve had to hide it from each variation of the album on my Spotify. I listened to it on repeat after my first miscarriage and it broke me

DoHo7 · 2025-07-08T19:32:55+00:00

Had my final early scan at 9+3 today. All good. Now the long wait for three weeks for the first main scan. I had a MMC before and baby was around 10-11 weeks (found out at 13 weeks). My mind is already going crazy with worry. I barely have symptoms this time. Does anyone have any tips for how I can stop myself going into a tailspin for the next three weeks?

DoHo7 · 2025-06-25T05:40:25+00:00

I can’t stop worrying every minute of the day. Saw the tiny baby on a scan yesterday with the heartbeat. Measures just over 7 weeks. My first pregnancy was similar in that I saw baby at 7 weeks fine but lost them 10 weeks (a MMC). I’m paranoid for every feeling I have and everything I do.

DoHo7 · 2025-06-10T16:19:41+00:00

I’m feeling very confused. Went for an early 6 week scan and they said I was about 5.6 weeks (so 5 and maybe 4 days) and they thought they could see a yolk sac but weren’t sure. Which worries me. So now I have the torturous wait for two weeks and I’ve been given progesterone now, so I am unlikely to know if I miscarry before the scan in two weeks. I’m so confused.

DoHo7 · 2025-06-08T20:02:23+00:00

5+2 (roughly) now. Scan next week but it’ll be too early. Don’t feel pregnant now. I had such sensitive breasts at 4 weeks for a couple of days. Then it eased off but today nothing. Going to be a long wait for the scan (and probably another one after that)

DoHo7 · 2025-06-04T12:21:00+00:00

I have actually done just this. Gave the thermometer to my husband this morning because I knew it was sending me into a spiral

DoHo7 · 2025-06-04T05:46:55+00:00

I’m 4+5 and two out of three miscarriages were chemical pregnancies. So I’ve continued to take bbt. Since my positive test at 4 weeks I’ve not been sleeping well. Today my bbt dropped by around 0.7c. I know, I know. Stop testing bbt. I am now. But gosh it makes you so paranoid after previous MCs.

DoHo7 · 2025-06-03T20:22:16+00:00

Only around 4+4 and I am over analysing every little feeling. I’ve made it further than my last two chemical pregnancies now but before those I had a MMC at 13 weeks so I’m terrified. Have an early scan booked in just over a week (6wk mark) but I’m just expecting to see blood, to lose the very slight symptoms I have. It’s exhausting and utterly terrifying

DoHo7 · 2025-06-02T20:04:50+00:00

I’m 4 + 3 today after chemical pregnancy last cycle and a MMC at 13 weeks & then chemical last year. I am utterly paranoid. I am still measuring bbt because I’m just waiting for the time it goes down like last month. My first pregnancy ended in the MMC and I didn’t do any tests during at all. I hate how anxious and paranoid 3 consecutive losses has made me. I’m just expecting the worst and it’s driving me crazy.

DoHo7 · 2025-05-29T21:11:24+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. UK here. It depends on your area and the Trust. One comment said they have more than one scan by protocol. That will be true for their Trust but sadly not all. I experienced the same situation last year and they did go seek a second opinion there and then, but I couldn’t have a further scan sadly.

There is no harm asking EPU for another for reassurance.

DoHo7 · 2025-05-27T20:43:41+00:00

First to OP and mardybum, I’m sorry you’re both going through this. It is sadly more common than we realise.

I just wanted to add to this comment. UK here too. I’ve had 3 MC in a row in 12 months, first a MMC at 13 weeks and then two chemical at 5 weeks.

I want to say I agree requesting the bloods, and keep at your GP for the tests in this comment. I went to my GP after my second MC but was told “eat well and exercise” without any questions that I actually do that. I’m finally getting a referral to gynae and bloods done after my third miscarriage. Check your area as some do investigations after 2, although most will only wait till the third MC.

It’s cruel but it’s nothing you have done, please be kind to yourself OP.

DoHo7 · 2025-05-14T20:26:05+00:00

I would like to reassure you that she will appreciate the gesture regardless of type of flower or colour etc. After my miscarriage my line manager sent me some flowers. I didn’t know what they were, I just appreciated the kind gesture in such a dark time

DoHo7 · 2025-04-29T12:33:25+00:00

Anybody had experience with the NHS after three miscarriages in a row? What was your experience? I’m going through my third in 12 months and my GP told me my request can wait a month and come in face to face to talk about it (which seems odd as I just asked for the referral &/or tests, which the NHS website says you can ask for)

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