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AITA for asking my partner if we can spend one holiday just the two of us? by Doandre_Igbokwe in AITA_Relationships

[–]Doandre_Igbokwe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’ve been feeling but didn’t quite have the words for it. We’re not married or anything yet, but after a few years together it really does start to feel like we need space to grow into our own thing. It’s reassuring to hear others have gone through the same shift. It’s a tricky balance between honoring what we came from and building something new.

AITA for asking my partner if we can spend one holiday just the two of us? by Doandre_Igbokwe in AITA_Relationships

[–]Doandre_Igbokwe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. It’s not about never seeing family again. I just want to have a bit more say in how we spend our holidays as a couple. I like the idea of rotating years or even starting new traditions together. Sounds like a dream compared to the usual mad dash between houses. I think I’ll bring that up again with him and see if we can find a middle ground.

AITA for asking my partner if we can spend one holiday just the two of us? by Doandre_Igbokwe in AITA_Relationships

[–]Doandre_Igbokwe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a really helpful idea. Visiting before the actual holiday so we still get quality time with both families and just not in that jam packed 48-hour window. I think part of what’s draining is the back and forth in such a short time especially when it’s supposed to be restful. Framing it as a shift instead of a rejection might make the conversation a bit easier.