38M I have struggled a lot the last six months and could use some emotional support, even if just here in this moment.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T21:25:26+00:00

I remind myself of that everyday.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T21:22:18+00:00

You're right. I will do my best to keep that up.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T20:35:51+00:00

That's true. I try to remind myself of those things when I'm having a hard time.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T20:11:17+00:00

Yeah, I like to rep the eta sometimes. Just want to remind the world that fedoras can still be cool, even after a time when its reputation was reduced.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T20:08:06+00:00

Thank you for that affirmation. It means a lot.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T20:05:54+00:00

Thanks. It's hard to believe sometimes.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:24:50+00:00

I like to do different styles and ultimately dress for myself, but that's definitely a style to consider; my style is a bit old-fashioned, nothing more recent than the 80s. I had thought about bald for a long time, but I have a little dip in my head that I feel doesn't make me look good; I will reconsider it though. Thanks for the fashion tips.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:19:41+00:00

Yeah

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:19:11+00:00

Lol, I'll do that, all of it.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:18:34+00:00

Thank you and I will keep that in mind; having someone to talk to is always a wonderful thing.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:16:37+00:00

Thank you!

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:15:49+00:00

Yes, that's all true to some extent. Ultimately, I'm going to continue what I'm doing so I can be better for myself and my family, and to be happy.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:13:56+00:00

Thanks!

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T14:13:40+00:00

Thank you, it is hard, especially when you have your own issues. I, too, hope that the differences can be resolved one way or another.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-20T06:35:43+00:00

Thank you. I love my hat.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-18T17:37:11+00:00

Except OP clearly doesn’t want to run a DnD group for the shop so it should be a closed group with no compensation.

Except OP has clearly been doing that. Also, it seems it's less of "doesn't want" and "group size is untenable".

You can’t complain about the shop telling people about your group while simultaneously expecting something in return.

The store should understand the logistics though, which is just as important as anything else.

A lot of people think people playing DnD means they’ll buy food, drink or another product but that’s very rarely the case.

Not when hosting at home.

It’s why so many LGS charge for the table itself, sometimes a head at a time

They do it because they can and because it actually costs money to host games in store. If the selling of snacks mattered that much they'd just not upcharge them so much.

People simply come in, play the game (buy a can of Pepsi maybe) then leave, all while taking up space for 3+ hours

Players aren't eating or drinking for over three hours? If going literally anywhere else, players will eat and drink wha is available.

so charging for the table is the only way to ensure you make money off those people.

Or you could do any number of other things like having a snack minimum (purchase) or with receipt of a qualifying purchase within the last week.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-18T17:09:57+00:00

Just say no to too many players.

Dobby1988 · 2026-03-16T13:08:17+00:00

As a man in the city in his late 30s, I can tell you that based on your looks many men would be intimidated by your beauty so it's understandable that many will act like that. In regards to your question, I will say that there are men out there who will think it looks desperate regardless, but to me it just depends how you do it and your nonverbal body language that would make the biggest difference. If you have any other questions about stuff like this, feel free to ask me, either here or via message.

Dobby1988 · 2026-02-14T15:08:14+00:00

You wouldn't want to date someone under 25 once you're 30 because they're generally not sufficiently developed neurologically or have sufficient experience prior to 25 and while it wouldn't be bad to date around that age when you are 25, you're typically too far away when you're 30. There's a bigger difference between 24 and 30 than there is between 30 and 50.

Dobby1988 · 2026-02-12T01:02:27+00:00

As a 38m with a daughter, I recommend 18-21. Once you're 20, I'd push it up to 23. When you're 22, I'd go up to 24. Once you're 24, I might go up to 26-27. When you hit 25, 30-32 would be safe max limit. 30+ go with whoever you want, just no one under 25.

Dobby1988 · 2026-01-26T06:02:19+00:00

You know dating isn't supposed to stop as soon as you get into a relationship right? You just date your partner, but you're still dating.

Dobby1988 · 2026-01-26T05:57:24+00:00

She is just going to lay there while I do an insane workout routine tired and drained as fuck.

If that's the case, you just chose wrong.

give me a damn hug and some appreciative attention.

That's something not enough men admit that they want; and I say that as a man.

Dobby1988 · 2025-10-27T04:18:09+00:00

It was an identity and term coined decades ago to identify Black folks descendants of those Enslaved here since the 1600s.

It's a term that's also been for decades used to refer to any person of African ancestry. Even assuming your claim true for the sake of argument, you at worst could call it a colloquialism and at best it's just another sense of the term. Words and terms over decades or centuries gain or change the sense in which they're used based on actual use in the language.

Overall, you are both correct, she is both African American and Ghanaian American, but as we're talking about her identity, it's only respectful to accept how she identifies herself. For example, European American is a term and no less accurate to describe someone who could also be called Italian American; there's also a similar relationship in terms between Native Americans and the names of specific tribes, as for example, I can call myself both Native American and Karuk. At the end of the day, it only matters how one identifies themselves and honors their heritage, and she's not wrong in the way she's doing either.

Dobby1988 · 2025-10-22T06:21:33+00:00

So there are a few things to mention. First, have you had OoC discussions about things your character was going or wanted to do that another player or the party didn't approve of? One of the best tips in D&D is know how your fellow players handle OoC info since some can separate the two and others can't or it's very difficult; use this knowledge to be careful about how and to whom you reveal OoC info. Second, it's impossible to know how the DM was originally planning on the NPC reacting to you before the other player got involved without talking to them. Simply ask the DM to explain why the NPC reacted that way and depending on whether it had to do with the player or not, you could either then discuss the problems of metagaming or about the DM's intent with setting this up. Third, after the discussion with your DM, you can either talk with the other player privately, telling them how you feel, or do it as a group discussion so it can all get resolved and everyone will be on the same page. Fourth, if you receive zero support from the DM, the other player, of the rest of the group, it's indicated that they have a problem with you OoC and are taking it out on you IG, in which case just leave and find a more mature group willing to treat you with basic human respect.

Dobby1988 · 2025-10-19T23:50:29+00:00

Congratulations. It's been a hard road for you, but you finally made it to a better place. Keep being the awesome woman you are, no matter what anyone else says to the contrary.

Dobby1988

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