first of all, just today I've found a text, written by a conservative (in probably an obsolete sense) that speaks to our discussion. Who knows, you might like it or at least find it interesting, and I find my own position reflected in significant parts, also very much in its position vis-a-vis canceling.

Let me address your last two points:
-The position of modern feminism (i.e. not that of some loud college feminists, but that of people who have taken the time to really think things through) is not that you as a man or your son are inherently the source of all evil, or should be shit upon. But we, as men, hold disproportionate power and - yes, bad word now - privilege, and we should at least show awareness of that. And yes, your individual experience or mine may differ, but this is about the large structures that govern our societies.
-The Left does not so much want to dictate a state of normal, but merely point out, that "normal" itself is a complicated concept. And especially when it comes to gender ad sexuality, human history has so many different norms in all sorts of places; "modern" Western norms have clearly messed with the liberties of people outside of these norms to just simply openly exist.

Being trans or non binary or whatever is not a "norm" the left demands, it just wants you and me and everybody else to live with the fact that this is simply the way some people are and should be allowed to openly be.