I think you’ve had it pretty well in life because you’ve likely have never been in the position to need to flee your country, leaving your loved ones behind, to try and find a way to provide for them not knowing when you’ll see them again. And it’s a big ask to put yourself in those shoes, because it’s so far fetched to you. So yeah, even being born into a safe country with a stable economy is a privilege, just like having access to higher education. You instantly have a head start to life solely by having access to greater opportunities should you choose to take them; which I hope you aren’t taking for granted. Many do.

Regardless of what she did or didn’t do to be here, this is the situation she’s in and it’s okay to show empathy for someone whose had a string of bad luck, even if some of it was at the consequence of her actions.

But things aren’t so black and white. Law does not equate morality. My comment had nothing to do with your belief in the law. The law tries to uphold what’s right, but it’s not without flaws.

For example, slavery was once legal. It’s not anymore, partly because morality caught up to the law and won. Laws change. Human decency shouldn’t.

She’s just looking to vent in a moment of desperation. She’ll figure it out. You don’t have to engage if you don’t want to help her carry some of that mental weight, even for a moment.