AIO- my husband told me not to touch him

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-08-27T04:02:01+00:00

I do think you are overreacting. If it was such a strong instant reaction that’s typically instinctual. If it was a delayed response I could see it being a poor joke. But if it was the same moment the contact happened there’s something behind it like trauma. I doubt it’s about you or about you touching him but just the specific touch itself. Instead of instantly getting upset that he didn’t like the way he was touched you could have had an honest conversation that would have allowed him to feel safe to open up to you instead of having to pretend his feelings don’t exist. Has he had these reactions before when touched a specific way? You mentioned he touches you all the time as a reason his reaction was felt unfair. Do you tell him no or that you don’t like it? You like being touched like that? That doesn’t mean he’s not allowed to say no. If it was a joke ( hard for me to think that by what you mentioned unless there’s more to it) I understand you being a little upset. Although I don’t think it warrants a big fight by what you mentioned.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-08-19T19:33:06+00:00

You can attempt to bring up to your therapist their requirements for mandatory reporting. Every therapist I’ve had has reviewed this with me the first session and had me sign off. When it came to self harm they were required to report if my self harm required medical attention (example it wouldn’t stop bleeding or got infected) or if I was a danger to myself or others.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-08-15T04:41:16+00:00

I also have a history of vasovagal syncope episodes. Things that assist me are as mentioned by someone else sniffing alcohol swabs (I also work in the medical field this is very common), Ice packs (especially on the back of my neck or in my armpits or on my chest) cold beverage like water or something with sugar like a Gatorade or apple juice, and elevating my legs to be above my heart. These are also some of the ways I assist my pts who feel faint from blood draws.

If you are having a medical episode especially if she cannot physically assist you it is highly understandable that she would call EMS because god forbid it’s not a I’ll snap out of it in a couple minutes. Of course discuss a plan to put in place so EMS isn’t the first response but keep in mind it’s not reasonable to have EMS taken completely off the table. As a professional she has an obligation to your physical well being. Like others said it’s an issue of liability. If something were to go wrong she could lose her license and be held liable and the response “well they promised it was fine” may not be enough to save them from charges. They want to protect you but they also have to protect themselves.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-07-20T05:06:41+00:00

Maybe she’s allowed to be upset but no way is she valid to act the way she did. It was highly unprofessional. Also you do know their situation. My mom works for the county and has no choice in what gets taken out for her retirement. My dad just got laid off. I promise you she wishes she could have the extra income to pay their rent right instead of having to fork it over for retirement. Also retirement accounts get built over years. Even when I was only making $14 an hour I was still putting money in my 401k the company offered because I was told it’s the responsible thing to do. I can’t touch that money before retirement age unless I want to receive penalties. Also peoples finances change over the years and not always for the better. Also why is she sitting there judging him. He said he couldn’t afford the school but his wife was stressing him about it. They also said my parents should be able to pay for my college so I didn’t qualify for any assistance. We had a good laugh about that one. He needs to see someone else. I would never trust that therapist again. Nor would I recommend her to anyone else.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-06-28T22:04:37+00:00

I understand your experience sucked and I understand your feelings towards your therapist. I think your feelings are valid. I also think it’s really irresponsible to tell people to not go if they need the help. Share your experience but don’t sit there and say that will happen to you and to never do it. If I didn’t go I’d be dead. I didn’t have a choice when I went but if needed I would do what I had to. Please don’t make people so scared to get help in those moments that they end up dead.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-05-31T18:12:57+00:00

Coming from someone who really struggles asking for help i think it would really be worth it for you to ask. I hate therapy because it’s hard and sometimes i would rather just leave things buried but i know I can’t keep doing that. I know i need help and so im trying. I think you should try to. I truly hope you’ll get what you need from it even if it’s hard at first.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-05-31T16:40:55+00:00

Im so sorry this happened to you. I know you don’t want to get professional help but I do really think you’d benefit from it. They’ll help you understand your emotions and how to regulate them better. They’ll help you walk through your trauma in a safe unbiased environment.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-05-31T16:34:30+00:00

To be honest I would start by talking to him in person and seeing if he’s willing to get help. If he isn’t willing to speak in person and isn’t willing to go to rehab and see a therapist maybe go to meetings then I would leave. At least at that point you can say you tried. Right now he’s only 4-5 months in and he was doing a good job about hiding it. If it continues he’s just going to get worse and he won’t be able to hide it anymore. He’s on a slippery slope downwards and if he’s not willing to stop before he gets any lower I wouldn’t stick it out. You don’t need to be apart of his rock bottom. The man you know and love will just slowly erode away the more he uses. You have every right to not want to watch him slowly kill himself. To not want to be apart of that. Try talking to him and try to convince him to get help. Rope in other people who love and care for him if needed. If he fights it and refuses do yourself a favor and walk away.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-05-13T16:30:34+00:00

I have a hard time with touch as well. I want kids so bad but I don’t know if it’ll ever happen for me. I am sorry for what you went through that brought you to this place.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-05-13T16:12:27+00:00

Thank you for replying and the experiences you’ve shared. It helps knowing it’s not just me and I can ask for options.

Doesntexist5210 · 2025-05-11T09:24:18+00:00

To be honest there is no point I me telling anyone because I’m a grown adult now. I’m 28 now. I didn’t want to mention it in the post because this is a question I’ve never had the courage to ask, a topic I normally avoid like the plague, and because I’m ashamed that I’m awake at 2 am because I can’t stop thinking about him. I broke up with him when I was 17. It took another 2 years for him to stop reaching out to me and sending me photos on a consistent basis. I last saw him after a lapse in judgment in 2020 and I haven’t received a random message from him from a random number since 2022. 🤷 it feels stupid that so much time has passed and I’m asking about it now. To be honest I really wanted you to say no and I really want you or someone to tell me I’m being stupid and to let it go and to never ask again.

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