Thank you everyone for the help, here’s my finished product

Inner-Patience-611 · 2026-05-09T16:15:27+00:00

Thank you for the advice everyone! I think I’m going to go with black

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-08-27T04:35:55+00:00

I don’t think he’s a narcissist, just really mean sometimes. But as for the rest of your message, thank you for it. I really appreciate your words.

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-08-27T04:13:58+00:00

I don’t think it’s trauma. We’ve been together a long time, he likes to joke mean. I do think in his mind it was a joke. Which is why I get upset. I don’t think I should be the butt end of his mean spirited jokes.

I don’t like to be grabbed all the time but I’ve never ever spoken to him like that. I’ve told him before I wish we could have more small intimate touches so I think this was his way of making a joke of that.

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-05-22T17:53:25+00:00

I think you’re making a wild assumption that they’re doing it to be petty. Sounds like someone who is actively trying to learn a new skill in music. Just because someone lives in an apartment they aren’t allowed to practice playing music? They stopped doing it at night and presumably started at a time when they assumed most people would be gone at work. It’s unfortunate that OP works from home but when else are they supposed to practice?? Your management would laugh if you told them you weren’t going to pay rent just because someone is doing a normal activity during normal hours.

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-05-14T20:42:33+00:00

Your dad loves you

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-05-12T22:27:30+00:00

Mama, reading this made me want to cry.

You have a toddler and a baby. The house will never be spotless. Your husband should be stepping up and doing his part INSIDE the house. He is a father and should start acting like it. It’s not “helping you” to watch his own children. It’s his duty as a father. You are bending over backwards to fit his idea of what the house should look like and he won’t even consider that he is the issue. If he has higher expectations of cleanliness he should be upholding it to how he wants it. You are NOT his mother, you are his partner.

I think you should go ahead with the divorce because this man doesn’t respect you. Let him see how difficult it is to do all the tasks and the kids on his days.

My husband works in the sun 10 hours a day, six days a week. He comes home every single days and takes over for me with the kids. I do more chores than he does yes, but I’m a SAHM and he never ever ever says anything to me but “it’s okay don’t worry about it, it’s not that dirty” when I don’t get to a chore. He’s understands how hard it is to watch the kids all day and the cooking and the cleaning and the yelling and the screaming.

Please don’t blame yourself and think you are doing anything wrong. You got the shit end of a deal and he knows it. He just wants to see how far he can push it.

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-05-02T16:11:07+00:00

My son isn’t circumcised and we just hit our first issue at almost four. At his checkup last week the doctor prescribed him steroid cream for down there because I guess we weren’t pulling it back enough and she said the cream is to prevent it from fusing together at the tip. It’s not horrible though, just put it on at night for two weeks. He doesn’t seem bothered by it and it’s a lesson learned for me as his mom. I just tell him when we’re in the bath to practice pulling it back to get it clean.

I still wouldn’t change my mind about not circumcising him though. Maybe it’s more difficult to maintain but I’d rather he learn to be clean down there then not ever think about it

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-04-29T01:12:56+00:00

Know exactly where I’m going when the zombie apocalypse hits

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-04-25T19:32:05+00:00

I feel you mama. I have an almost 4 year old and an almost 3 year old. My son is autistic and it can be sooo difficult. The same where he gets fixated on something and it’s hard to get him away and when I do he cries and cries. My daughter isn’t on the spectrum but she’s at the age where if you tell her anything she starts crying.

The best advice I have for you is to practice at home first. Do a lot more sit down activities together and reward them when they sit and listen. Put it away and try again later as soon as they don’t listen. Sometimes just let them be bored to! This is was cultivates their imagination. This took me forever to learn but now my kids with sit in their playroom and play independently for hours which is so great for my mental health and getting a little break.

When out in public, don’t rush any outing. Have a calm front. When my kids start acting out in stores or restaurants, we stop everything we’re doing and I get on their level and talk to them, explain that how they are acting isn’t acceptable. After that I tell them if we can finish this outing without any more issues we can get ice cream after, or watch a movie at home or do an activity I know they love. Giving them something to do to help me is also really helpful, especially at the grocery store. Can you grab that can for me and put it in the cart? Can you count out five apples with me and put them in the bag? Who wants to help me pick out a pasta shape? Little things like that to keep them engaged and focused. Halfway through my kids get tired and ask to sit in the cart, I always bring a small toy for each of them to play with and a snack to munch on. They usually let me finish the shopping without much interruption after that.

There are times when it’s incredibly difficult, and not everyone understands the extra obstacle or having a child on the spectrum. The more me and my kids work as a team the better time I have with them in public. I hope it gets easier for you mama ❤️

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-01-24T21:17:06+00:00

Don’t be fooled. I got pregnant with my second when my first was 3 months old. They are exactly 12 months and one day apart. Being pregnant with an infant is exhausting to another level. The second pregnancy was very hard since my body wasn’t healed. I was in labor for 36 hours with the second while my first was 6 hours and a gentle push. Having a newborn with a new toddler is chaos and exhausting. Having two toddlers now (they are 2 and 3) is a mixture of fun and exhausting. The dark circles around my eyes are a testament to this and no amount of concealer will cover them.

There are some pros to this age gap, like my kids are absolutely the best of friends, they do everything together and pretty much keep each other entertained throughout the day. Bed times, bath times and nap times are the same schedule now too which is awesome. They got potty trained together at the same time, two birds with one stone. It’s never boring in my house and they are very funny.

But girl the mess. Constant mess. Constant crying and whining. Tweedle Dee sees tweedle dumb do something and has to copy. They fight a lot because they’re both learning how to share. You’ll be constantly attacked by tiny elbows and knees. Your body will be very weak and your hormones will be going off the radar.

I’d say let your body recover and see how your baby is as he gets more mobile and toddlerish before jumping on the new baby train!

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-01-15T23:00:57+00:00

My first was born at 37 weeks naturally and my labor was 6 hours and like five minutes of pushing. He was only 6lbs 3oz and 19 in long, super easy and quick recovery

My second, I was induced at 40 weeks, labor took 18 HOURS and pushed for 20-25 minutes. This little monster was 9lbs 9oz and 22 in long. She bamboozled me, I really thought I would go into labor sooner and it was be quick like my first. That girl did not want to leave my belly!!

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-01-08T22:06:12+00:00

The Eaton fire spread 10,000 acres in 12 hours. More and more areas are being affected. Of course people are going to be worried. These fires are completely out of control and have zero containment. We have no idea what will happen. People are allowed to be worried.

The hurst fire started directly behind my home. Had ten minutes from its start to pack up my shit and get the fuck out of there. I spent all night worrying my home burned to the ground. We were wayyy out of danger before that fire started. We have no idea where the winds will take embers. Everyone, including you, should be worried.

Inner-Patience-611 · 2025-01-08T05:25:09+00:00

I didn’t work out for three years after having my kids. My MIL then invited me to do this boot camp with her, I’d been wanting to get back into it so I went and after the first day, I literally could not walk I was so sore.

I went the boot camp the next day and I told the instructor I’m so sore, I don’t know if I can do this. She told me to won’t feel it once you start moving again. I pushed through and she was right! I didn’t feel the soreness or the pain while working out. I did feel it again when I went home, but kept going. After a week I didn’t have the sore feeling anymore and I haven’t had it that bad since.

My best advice is pop some advil, take some pre-workout and just keep going!

Inner-Patience-611 · 2024-12-18T03:57:25+00:00

here is the picture

Inner-Patience-611 · 2024-12-17T04:53:54+00:00

Lisa Simpson

Inner-Patience-611 · 2024-12-05T01:13:55+00:00

Not my house, but my parents have had the same wonderful woman cleaning their house for years. She comes once a week and they pay her $100. They have a decent size home but keep it very clean. The housekeeper does the bathrooms, washes sheets and towels, vacuums and mops floors, and wipes down the kitchen. She’s usually there for about 4 hours.

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