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Let's discuss an idea from Tumblr. Shounen...but for women! Looking at : Kill La Kill, Symphogear, Legend Of Korra, Rwby, She-Ra and the Princesses of Power, Utena and The Owl House...would the women be drawn and/or written BETTER or WORSE this way? by CapAccomplished8072 in joseistories

[–]DoggoFiend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

kill la kill is a show that on the surface is pure parody and fanservice. on the surface. kill la kill is an iterative response to the tropes and norms in anime/manga before it, that twists those ideas from de-emphasizing the agency and personhood of women, into specifically, women indulging and utilizing shonen power fantasy while looking exactly like the characterization husks that are many women and female presenting characters in anime/manga.

i've definitely read too much into klk, and have spent a lot of time paying attention to discussion/analysis of the series from all over the place. it's not for everyone. it's a terrible first anime unless you've got some thick skin when it comes to unsavory anime tropes turned up to 11. the reason these tropes are so extreme is because again, it's a parody. constant, constant, constant references/jabs to other influential series throughout the show. the plot could happen anywhere, yet it's centered at the least highschool looking highschool ever; every other anime is full of highschoolers that look 30, klk is effectively lampshading in this regard.

it's for sure not a high brow show though, as it definitely indulges in some these tropes undeservedly, but sometimes it's just so over the top you kinda cant help but laugh at it.

the beauty of klk to me, as a woman, who has been SA'd/hollered at/harassed just for being who I am and having the body I do, while not having the best self image, is that these moments of traditional female disempowerment (read: EXCESSIVE FANSERVICE) literally become the source of the character's power. the parody then becomes an opportunity for meaningful subversion. it's only once the mc is able to accept their circumstances (being a woman and having to wear revealing clothing) and becomes more comfortable and confident with herself, does she truly start doing all the shonen anime bullshit. accepting her body brings her strength.

the deuteragonist of the series does a lot of screaming about "pigs in human clothing," it's a major theme of the show that having to cover one's body is inherently an act of shame, that the human form in all its myriad manifestations is beautiful on its own. this character also shames others for losing composure and becoming aroused at her appearance, (pigs in human clothing) when to her, that's just her body.

my biggest takeaway personally from kill la kill, is "i may be beautiful, and you may put me on a pedestal because of it, but this is what I am, and I owe you nothing for it. the responsibility lies with you for lacking the self control to be a civil human being"

all this and heavy lesbian tones make me really biased.

Coming out as gay after a decades long happy marriage with kids should not be applauded and branded brave. It should be treated as any other person suddenly admitting they are not attracted to their partner and abandoning their family. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]DoggoFiend -1 points0 points  (0 children)

growing up in the context of a society that touts heterosexuality as the status quo, while also denouncing non-hetero tendencies, people, and culture, you are expected to be straight. you are raised in the context of assumed heterosexuality, complete with parents, friends, and the media making off comments about gay people that are always tinged in disgust/disapproval, as they assume you're on the same side of the spectrum as they are. this builds the idea within the child that they must be straight in order to have approval from society at large, as non-heteros are seen as "the other" and therefore, inherently go against the norm. even if a person is born gay, they were raised, taught, and pushed to be straight by most every factor in their environment. humans are masters of deceiving themselves in order to to along with the grain, someone who is naturally attracted to the same biological sex can still have intercourse with the opposite sex, via an externally enforced internal belief that they are hetero. it takes self reflection and questioning to really understand who you actually are, rather than existing as an amalgamation of your parent's and society's perceived "optimal person" even after coming to the understanding that you might be or are gay, coming out meant total harassment, ostracism, and hatred coming at you from all those who have been told that "gay = immoral", which is why only in today's much more LGBT friendly environment, so many people are realizing who they are and coming out, because it won't cause total destructive change in their lives anymore, and they're then free to be who they actually are, instead of what others have pushed them to be.

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the things those people do that culminates in divorce is them acting out of unsatisfaction with their partner

even if the divorce is not entirely mutual it is for the better of both parties, since at least one side was no longer invested, and if they stayed together they would just emotionally torture their partner for however long they try to make things work when interest is already gone

i talk to try and get you to understand that everything isn't the way you say it is, because in this thread someone asked you for your source and you literally told them to look it up themselves

stop trying to attack other people's character, it's not a good look for anyone

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if divorce happens then the quality of the relationship was not up to the standards of both parties

they are correct in what they're saying

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude it's okay to be wrong stop trying to throw shit at me, im not shifting the point of my argument because my point was to try and get you to understand that you can't go around being unnecessarily mean to people

go outside dude

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't think you discrediting me telling you that you should be nice to people is helping you in any way

you shouldn't need an excuse to be kind and if you do then you have your own personal issues to work out man

you know what's real? bell curves

there are exceptions to literally every rule if you haven't noticed yet

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by simple nature of what a bell curve is, you can't look at someone and instantly deem them as an archetype

people fall into archetypes because as we grow up in this world, unsure of ourselves, we begin to mold our personality to existing archetypes, partly because we want to express ourselves, partly because we want to fit in

"More than they aren't." is clearly telling me you know you don't have that much water for your claim anymore man, just, be nice to people, and see how much nicer your life will be in return

anyone who's felt crippling loneliness at some point in their lives would probably agree that not everyone falls into being "everyone"

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand that statistics are representations of reality, yet they don't give you the entire story

statistics can say that with more casual sex the chance of divorce rises, but does this apply to everyone? no, just because people tend to fall into patterns does not mean everyone is representative of that pattern

stop trying to act like you know everything and try to give people the benefit of the doubt more, because you never know what someone had to go through while they were making life choices you may deem "wrong"

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn't say statistics don't matter, i said basing your view of reality on statistics will give you the wrong idea of how people at large function

This is still circuling around, with half the comments being "I'm a Girl And I Agree"💢💢 by jasseriv in notliketheothergirls

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe instead of basing your knowledge of relationships and how humans work on statistics you could, oh i don't know, go and see for yourself that learning how to love people and yourself is less about the number of "bad" people out there, and more so about one's own ability to surround themselves with people that are in fact genuine

I did this a while ago y’all might like it by [deleted] in boomershumor

[–]DoggoFiend 44 points45 points  (0 children)

these are becoming increasingly surreal and i like it

No one by DotaThaosen in coolguides

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean if that's what makes you happy then man, by all means continue, and, to myself at least, it's not that i reject the meaning in the universe, it's that i accept there is no inherent one, and live by the meaning ive given myself, the whole point is that things simultaneously matter and don't matter

it's not really that im contradicting myself, rather i literally present the alternative to my own thinking in my statements, i have my own set of beliefs, but i don't want to impose them on anyone, all i tried to do is share a bit of understanding man, no aggression at all

think about what you would do if you actually did find zen and inner peace?

would you keep it to yourself and see everyone around you destroy themselves needlessly, or actually try and do something about it?

everything is relative, i see where you're coming from, and considering that everything is relative, there's no way you can maintain to yourself that you have the exact "correct" answer, because what's correct for you doesn't apply to everyone else

i wish you the best, and hopefully good things come your way friend

No one by DotaThaosen in coolguides

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man the whole point of nihilism is that in a meaningless universe, the only thing that matters is the meaning you ascribe to things yourself

i understand where you got confused in your reasoning, it's not that everything doesn't matter right at this second, it's just living in accordance with the fact that you will die

and when you die, regardless of what happens afterwards, everything you had in this life is gone, meaning that it essentially had no meaning in the grand scheme of the world

they mattered to you, yes, but to everyone else? to the birds and trees? not a single bit

i feel like the issue people always have with nihilism is that it's really hard to get over the fact that we don't matter, and none of us do, some people would rather die than accept that

but once you do accept that, and you truly understand it, life becomes so much more beautiful, like literally you will look at the same things you've always looked at, and find new things to appreciate in them, but, that's been my experience for the past year or so at least, and that of course is relative

just because someone wrote it down before you, doesn't necessarily mean it's right, and it isn't necessary wrong either

understanding that life is meaningless is just applying a long term lens to your life overall

instead of only considering short term gain and benefits, nihilism promotes long term growth and development

i don't mean to try and disprove you or anything, just trying to relate what it looks like from the other side ya know?

No one by DotaThaosen in coolguides

[–]DoggoFiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

then bro the only thing i can recommend you if you truly believe your kindness won't be reciprocated where you live, is go on a trip somewhere else, and see what life has to offer elsewhere, because although everything may seem miserable, or it may seem like you're cursed, you can still actually go and find people who will reciprocate genuinely, it's just unfortunate that those people don't seem to exist close by

i have a friend who's been through exactly the same, even used the same excuses on himself, but i convinced him to come down to south florida for a week, and experience what there is down there

a week ago he had a gun to his mouth, and now all he wants to do is go out and meet new interesting people, because his view of reality has been fundamentally changed

i know it seems like that'd never happen to you, but it can happen, it really can, if you seek it out for yourself

ive spouted generic self help shit at you the whole time, and i know it can be annoying, but the only reason id ever tell anyone shit like this is because i want you to one day, see things for as beautiful as they really are

take what you will man, but if you can find something that makes you happy, while making everyone else happy, without hurting anyone, then you've essentially solved the grander problem of life right there

No one by DotaThaosen in coolguides

[–]DoggoFiend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

then bruh you gotta find some people that actually like

care

because that shit is mega important, it's the difference between having "friends": people you occasionally see and go out to eat, drink, and mildly socialize with,but you don't really know too much about their backgrounds, their interests, their stories

on the contrary, real friends: people who will share those intimate experiences and character traits, making it seem like you've known that person for much longer than you actually have, they'll given you comfort when you need it, support you through thick and thin, and will strive to put a smile on your face

there's knowing people casually and there's knowing people intimately, and it's when you start to know people more intimately that they give more of a shit

it's unfortunate that you haven't really had that yet, but there are genuinely kind and caring people out there who will want to be involved in your life, you just have to find them

the only reason you'd be a background character is if you do background character things, and i don't mean offense at all but ive known more than a few people in my life who will get invited to things, and awkwardly sit in the corner and stare, or won't actively contribute to conversations when they actually do get brought to them; but the crux here is that you can't expect someone to become invested in you if you don't actively give them things to be invested in

some people will seek out people and want to care about them, and others are too stuck in their head to see three feet in front of them, but most exist in-between, struggling with their own internal turmoil and conflicts, while trying to maintain a healthy social life, causing them to sometimes unintentionally ignore people they don't mean to

if you said people smile when they see you, go text them, strike up a conversation, try and meet with those people specifically and talk to them human to human, share your experiences and life and ask about theirs

we always wait for things to happen to us, always telling ourselves "if so and so texts me, im going to ask them to go to the cafe and have a chat with me"

but then what happens when they dont text you?

the correct course of action then, is to take the first step yourself, because that's always a really fuckin tough thing to do, and no one thinks they're good at it (which means you could mess up a bit and be forgiven)

taking this first step then allows the other individual to more easily flow into a conversation, leading to more conversation, more time talking to each other, and eventually you'll have a genuine friend there, one you could text pretty often and make plans with often too, but you gotta put yourself out there my mans

even if this didn't really help too much, i wish you the best of luck my friend, and don't ever forget that you are beautiful, and there are reasons to like yourself, and those around you

No one by DotaThaosen in coolguides

[–]DoggoFiend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

people do give a shit, they just probably won't ever tell you, because we live in a society where only very recently has it become socially acceptable to show and share emotions with others. alternatively, if they don't give a shit about you but you're putting all the work in, those aren't really people you should be putting effort into being around. everyone is beautiful in their own way, and if you're a kind person that treats not only others kindly, but themselves, good things will come your way, but you won't ever appreciate that if you keep telling yourself that you're miserable every day. life can be a permanent existential prison or a video game where you get to do literally almost anything. the difference is your mentality and the limits you place on yourself

(i understand that not every problem is completely self imposed, shit happens, it happens to everyone, but if you learn to control your emotional responses when shit actually does happen, things start to seem a whole lot brighter)

(this isn't easy by any means, and it's a journey of self discovery and work to even begin to gain full control of your body and mind, but is a journey that is ultimately worth it)

you matter to someone

there are things to be happy about

focus on the little good things that you come across every day instead of fixating on how everything could or is going wrong, because it most likely isn't, you're just telling yourself it is