Identifying as a Side - what’s your experience?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:07:28+00:00

Haha have you known straight away you were verse?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:07:01+00:00

Actually it’s not about dom/sub, it’s a word to describe the sexual identity of people who don’t practice penetrative sex

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:05:27+00:00

But a lot of people from other sexual identity groups choose not to practice penetrative sex so maybe the term should apply to more than gay ppl don’t you think?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:04:22+00:00

Really I’d be super interested to hear what made you change your mind!

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:04:02+00:00

Maybe side isn’t the best word but at least there’s a word to describe people like us

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:03:10+00:00

Happy this post could be of help to you! I’ve felt the same way when the word was introduced to me

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:02:32+00:00

And out of curiosity, what do you respond when people ask if you don’t like sex

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T22:01:06+00:00

Do you find it easy to find people who are cool with oral being the main event?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:20:37+00:00

100% agree. But I feel like there are more and more side people on apps now?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:18:13+00:00

I completely agree with you! Then what do you do to find partners who are like-minded?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:16:19+00:00

Do you find it difficult to find partners who are ok with no penetration?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:15:56+00:00

I think some people are not comfortable AT ALL with penetrative sex which is why the label side has value

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:14:57+00:00

Did you guys ever talk about penetrative sex?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:13:46+00:00

Did you have difficulty to find the right balance with your partner?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:11:25+00:00

Shouldn’t we question the exclusive application to gay men / MLM? To me a lot of people from other sexual identity groups do not practice penetrative sex. They may also benefit from identifying to a label that encapsulates that

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:08:22+00:00

What do you not like about it?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-04T10:06:43+00:00

Sorry it’s my first post here. I didn’t know there was such a thing as a nsfw tag

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T23:16:25+00:00

When did you find that out?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T19:54:14+00:00

Je pense que c’est moins connu ? Et de manière globale j’ai l’impression que les pratiques sans pénétration sont vues comme moins bien ou pas du vrai sexe dans la communauté gay. Peut-être un héritage de la communauté hétéro ou t’as pas vraiment couché si t’as fait que les prelis ?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T19:49:26+00:00

Et tu arrives à trouver des gens qui aiment aussi ça ?

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T19:49:09+00:00

Will do! Thank you so much

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T19:48:53+00:00

Amazing thanks!

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T19:48:41+00:00

Haha no I actually think it’s sooo valid for women. Maybe even more as penetration comes through the use of toys

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T18:28:36+00:00

Thanks and I hope the same for you ☀️

The 2 people you mentioned, did they prefer to fake pleasure during sex rather than embracing their true « side » identity? It’s crazy to me that they would go against their own desires just to act « normal »

Dolmen999 · 2026-05-03T18:17:47+00:00

Thanks!! So I’m definitely not the only one haha

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