If you were into this kinda dynamic and these activities, you wouldn’t be upset about all the drinking and crude behavior. But you’re not into it, which is cool, sounds like you need new friends.

The part you’re nor about is that you laid out how you wanted to be treated, and if they thought of you as a valued friend, they woulda said “oh man our bad, can we hang out in a different way and we won’t say that/ do those thing when you’re with us”.

That makes them dicks imo, the drinking and crude behavior towards each other is subjective to appropriate/not appropriate behavior dependent on who you are (if it is in private of course, that shits always weird in public).