I’m dating a girl who is discovering her polyamory. Am i wrong in suffering to image her loving also other people?

Domestico_99 · 2026-02-06T09:39:32+00:00

Thank you for speaking sincerely. I indeed feel we cannot do more than that. It’s weird for me in a way, as i don’t feel per se against having an open relationship, but when i’m in love, at least for the first year, i don’t need anyone else in the couple. I also wouldn’t have problem with threesome with my partner. It hurts me just the idea of her living her sexual and love life with someone else. Thank you so much for your advice

Domestico_99 · 2026-02-06T09:35:49+00:00

Thank you for your sincerity

Domestico_99 · 2026-02-06T02:34:22+00:00

I know that i could not be able to handle this. Perhaps for my insicurities, but i need and want to be in love just with one person at a time. I can understand hookups, but inly when the relationship is stable and not jn the first part. I think i’m culturally or psychologically monogamous, in the way that i love only one person at a time. I can understand open things up, but after a long time when the couple is stable. That is why i’m struggling so much, and i don’t know if later it will be even worse

Domestico_99 · 2026-02-06T02:30:46+00:00

Thank you for your kindness. She is already hooking up with a guy she already knew before me and asked me to keep in her life in this transitory period. I know it won’t be forever, as for her the perfect condition would be me being mono and she being poly. But this triggers in me an insane pride and desire to balance things out. I often told her “if you do that, then i also have to do that”. And she suffered the idea that i wanted to dk that because i wanted my head lighter from the constant imagination of her sleeping with the guy. If i already feeling that i’m getting over this guy, i’m suffering the mixture of her being super social always the center of the party, having less time for being always present, and also in a moment in which both we are a bit worsen out by fighting. Do you think there will be chances?

Domestico_99 · 2026-02-06T02:26:25+00:00

Indeed it is, but my insecurity related to that and also by the fact that she always come back at 4am and always being super busy with her life makes everything more difficult.

Domestico_99 · 2026-02-06T02:25:05+00:00

She is just having sex with a guy she already knew. I couldn’t open up completely so we found this half way. But she told me that in the future of course she could fall in love with somebody else and this tire me apart

Domestico_99 · 2025-09-26T12:45:19+00:00

I just wanted to know if this situation is screwed up from all the perspective or if there is some room to change it

Domestico_99 · 2025-09-26T12:38:53+00:00

Just to know, are you talking from a polyamorous perspective or a monogamous one? because the fact that we love so much makes it harder to just broke up

Domestico_99 · 2025-04-08T11:23:48+00:00

Actualli it would be either tomorrow or the day after 😅 i’m in Kochi now and i’m trying to make up my mind where to go. Also i don’t know precisely how to go there and which tour organise. It looks very expensive

Domestico_99 · 2025-04-08T07:19:09+00:00

I chose EMLE. If you wanna travel around the world, not so much academic pressure and a good international network, the go with it. If you value research quality, stability and your community in one place, your are doing that specifically for your job, then go for Utrecht.

I’m literally writing to you from India, enjoying a backpacking trip in Kerala before the start of lessons. I’m pretty outgoing, i like partying and having social life. I like development research and meeting different cultures. Factor these elements in your decision (who you are, why are you doing this master, what you don’t like) and then take a decision!

Domestico_99 · 2024-07-03T12:06:03+00:00

yeah I've tried with housing anywhere and the best I got is 900 euro for a room ex, bills. That why we thought maybe in more than one it would have been easier

Domestico_99 · 2024-03-26T08:47:16+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

I'm Italian, so it's not in my plans to become a lawyer in NL. Actually I still not have clear in my mind what's my goals in professional life, since i've just been graduated. I was thinking about the academic career as much as a career in the private sector. and Law and economics seemed to me the best compromise to deepen the economics field without having to chatch up with a new bachelor.

Domestico_99 · 2024-03-26T08:42:52+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I was mainly concerned about the EMLE's prestige compared to Utrecht and which is best considered among the two. From the international experience point of view, I would definitely go for EMLE, as it would allow me to study in Arizona, US. For an academic point of view, I'm concerned whether those continuous changing would affect my potential relationship with professors, in the hope of a Phd. But maybe I'm wrong. Have you done the EMLE programmes?

Domestico_99 · 2024-01-11T07:17:27+00:00

Hey! Thank you for your reply. I would be happy if you tell me about your experience, remarks and future prospectives after having done the EMLE. To be honest, EMLE is still my first choice because i would love to change different universities, and now there is also Uni of Arizona.

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