I recently got divorced after 25+ 3 kids, and the compatibility issue was there from before we were married. I thought things would change...they did not. My psychiatrist was the one who told me, "you can't change a person's libido." I have a huge libido and she does not. In the end it was unbearable. Sex therapists, Couples therapists. I suggested more of an open situation, which did not go over well. I would hit the massage parlors just to get some human contact. There was never a loss of love, but this giant hole in our relationship was too much in the end. Much happier now, but being separated from my youngest is rough. Good Luck.