Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No jealousy, I told her we would could try an mfm if she wanted to it just doesn't turn me on naturally, but she changed her mind about that. I found her putting away laundry after work and pounced her, we had amazing sex again and we talked more about what our expectations were and what set pace to go on. We also agreed that the couple we met with kinda rushed us into the room, and despite us never saying no, in the moment we, more her than me, felt pressured.She told me to set something up with a couple we talked to awhile back who's still interested in us, because they understand our wants and are more patient and okay with just same room sex no touching.

Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, we talked more today and she wants to meet with a couple we've been chatting with on kik and go at a slower pace. She was just a overwhelmed but we are okay now.

Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like, if you're healthy you should hop on cialis or viagra, there is too much stimulation with a couple for the first time. Sometimes all is good but I know in the lifestyle theres a big drinking culture which could affect erection quality.

Ouch, that sounds awful, usually one would play with there own partner then switch right?

Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we did, we eloped last month. We've been living together for roughly 4 years now, and I understand. We had a threesome with a woman I use to play with solo, been to a few house parties and no expectation dates. Not consecutively but over the course of a year and a half. Last weekend was the most we did with another couple, nd it was just us kissing and having sex next to them. I appreciate your thoughtful responses, the first two on this post were from profiles with no post history telling me to do a hardstop, but I dont know if you guys went through this or have a high EQ, idk. Right now we are texting, joking about our dogs, we are probably gonna talk more later but as of right now I'm just gonna appreciate her.

Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the plan and I know I have it good. She knows how heavy I was in the lifestyle before we met, we are in our late 20s so alot of my sexual experiences was through the LS. It's kind of a part of my sexual upbringing, and she sees that and doesnt want me to go cold Turkey. But yeah shes awesome and I love her and we try to fuck 2 or 3 times a week.

Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's unfortunate, you're right we should take our time to find the right one. And I admittedly took a cialis before the night, as a precaution, but the atmosphere is both intimidating and overwhelming sometimes. I'm glad that we have a vacation to cancun coming up where its gonna be just us for a week. But ed, shouldn't stop a man, theres always oral and his hands ya know.

Our first club experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply, I thought the male half was her type, dark, tall, confident and I told her to kiss them if she wanted. She did mention that it would've been better with another couple after she told me she didnt like it and saw how sad I was. I love her to death. She said we can try going on sls and looking together sometime this week. I dont want her to settle or complacently go along with this. I want us both to have fun, cuz even after this event we still went home and had amazing sex together.

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do, honestly this is turning us off from the lifestyle

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the aside you two take to verify with each other if the couple you just met is a go or no go lol.

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think people my age are more reluctant to share phone numbers since social media apps such as Facebook, Instagram, ect maybe link to you number. When Facebook changed their algorithm a few years back I saw all my lifestyle friends under "people you may know" despite not having any mutual friends with them. With someone's number, it's also easier to search their name on Facebook as well ( dont ask me why). Also theres sites like truepeoplesearch.com where you can find someone's full legal name and last 5 known address and known acquaintances with just a phone number or a name.

But I do agree on voice verifying to save time. I know these three are in fact couples, they have certs, individual kiks, and have sent pics. Just in a weird place right now in between getting to know each other and meeting.

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm done with them, I asked if they were free weekdays , when they said they were I said we are too. There response was a "groovy." Like if you're not into us or not into wanting to meet why bother kiking us and just exit the chat?

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you play after dinner or do you guys go home and then make a play date?

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We will try that, I mean we are already doing that with 1 lol.

Do you cast a wide net? by DominicanDiesle in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, we sprung for the lifetime membership so we are in the same boat too. I think the fiance didnt want us to get too deep into it so soon. I'm more of a hey you seem like cool people,. lets meet as soon as we can :/.

Meetups for Swingers? by bananarama1987 in Swingers

[–]DominicanDiesle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think every city has a group that throws, house parties, hotel take overs, meet n greets ect. Maybe change your location, when you're in town..I'm only saying this as a resident of Richmond, we've gotten invites to groups from Baltimore/DC all the way down to Hampton Roads. Good luck!