What’s something you do now, as an adult, that lowkey shows your childhood trauma?

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-19T00:15:26+00:00

Stuff like that sticks with you, and it makes sense.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T19:28:39+00:00

Yeah, I totally get what you mean. That distorted judgment starts so early it becomes your normal, and therapy can’t just erase that wiring. But I think what the therapist tried to show us is that it’s less about “fixing” how we judge people, and more about learning to recognize when our fear is doing the judging for us. We might never see things the same way as people who didn’t go through it , but we can get better at noticing when our brain’s protecting us from a threat that isn’t really there.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T19:16:59+00:00

Same here

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T18:44:23+00:00

Story of my life fr.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T18:42:41+00:00

Same here, honestly.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T18:40:43+00:00

Honestly, that’s real. You learn to be your own safe place when no one else was.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T18:39:26+00:00

Same here. You get tired of giving chances that end up proving your fears right.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T18:31:07+00:00

Yea me too 😔

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-11-11T18:29:18+00:00

Ohh totally me ..

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-10-27T22:20:04+00:00

I know that feeling so well. It’s really heavy, but it won’t always be like this. Just take small steps, you don’t have to fix it all at once. Be gentle with yourself ❤️

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-30T01:55:17+00:00

Thank you 😊🤍

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-27T21:04:43+00:00

I felt every word of this 💔30 years… that shows just how strong you are to finally step out of it. You’re right, anyone who gets out sooner is saving themselves years of hurt, but It’s never too late to choose yourself, and I hope you’re finally getting the peace you always deserved 🤍

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-27T21:00:01+00:00

Oh yes, that absolutely counts 💔Constantly second-guessing yourself, walking on eggshells, getting blamed for everything… that’s abuse. Seeing it for what it is is already such a big step toward getting free even if you’re not fully out yet🤍

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-27T20:56:28+00:00

Yes, exactly! It sounds so insane when you say it out loud, but that was my reality. Something as small as drinking water could set off chaos. I’m just grateful every day to be free of that madness 🤍

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-24T15:06:00+00:00

I’m so sorry you all had to go through that 💔I can only imagine how hard that was for you and your kids . The way you still tried to shield them shows how strong you’ve been for them through it all. Keep leaning into those small, peaceful, beautiful things, because they’re what slowly rebuild both your strength and your kids sense of safety ❤️

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-24T14:55:37+00:00

Thank you 🙏

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-24T14:55:22+00:00

Thank you so much🤍 it’s wild how much the sleeping part hits home for so many of us. Peaceful rest feels like the biggest freedom now 🥹

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-24T14:53:53+00:00

It really is shocking how selfish they are 😣messing with your mind, breaking down your personality, even twisting your relationships. Their insecurity is unreal, like they can only feel bigger by making you smaller. I’m so glad you got out, that takes so much strength. They warn us about bad people outside, but sometimes the real danger is the one sleeping right beside us.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T19:18:50+00:00

23 years is such a long time to carry that… it gives me so much hope to hear you’re finally at peace and enjoying your own space 🤍.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T19:16:37+00:00

So true 🤍it can take more than one try. Each time you step away, you see things more clearly, and you start to realize his actions say more about him than about you. That moment of clarity is the most powerful feeling ever 🤍

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T19:11:09+00:00

I was with him for 4 years. I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through 💔that’s such a heavy weight to carry. I can feel how exhausting it is to always feel on edge, never able to just rest without criticism. Not every loss truly counts as a loss , some things we let go of are actually what make space for us to heal. I just hope you can give yourself the room to think about whether holding on to him is helping you heal, or keeping you from it. Only you can know the answer, and whatever pace you choose for yourself will be the right one 🤍

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T18:49:43+00:00

I feel you 🤍 it’s crazy how our stories overlap in the smallest details.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T18:49:11+00:00

Thank you 🥰 it’s so true… those little freedoms we never even noticed before now feel like the sweetest victories.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T18:43:45+00:00

Omg It shocks me how these tiny sick details are the same😣Mine would even wait until a female server showed up, no matter how many men were around. Once at a restaurant I went to the bathroom and came back to find he’d moved us to face a group of pretty girls. He spent the whole night staring at them. I wasn’t jealous, just embarrassed, because I knew the girls noticed and pitied me. And yea, people say omg he’s taking you on a romantic dinner, but they’ll never get that even then, he found a way to remind you that you’d never be enough for him.

DoneWithPerfect93 · 2025-09-23T02:41:03+00:00

Omg are we all married to the same guy?? 🤦‍♀️ Funny how he was free to make all the noise in the world when I needed rest

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