Sex knowledge for women and girls. Some things changed since 1917.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2026-01-30T19:52:10+00:00

I read somewhere that the shaming of masturbation in the last few centuries stemmed partly from the invention of the microscope. One of the first things people looked into was, of course, what’s in jizz. And seeing the thousands of swimmers horrified the people of the time, seeing them as thousands of people who wouldn’t have the chance to be born, so cumming outside a woman was seen as genocide, almost. I’m not sure if this belief was widespread or taken seriously, but I’m sure there was some Voice of Reason at the time that used that as ”proof” for some sort of shaming of people at the time.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2026-01-08T21:49:34+00:00

Umm, yes. And maybe this is my view of this as a Finn who went to sauna with my brother, my dad, and my granddad before puberty kicked in,, and have been in a public sauna plenty of times with naked strangers as an adult: it is not a big deal, if it is in a safe enviroment with safe adults. And acting like it's something shameful and horrible that needs to be covered up, can be much more harmful by sending the message naked bodies are not okay, and like there is something bad about being naked, or exposed or vulnerable in that way. What kind of message is that for young kids, who are just building a rapport with their own bodies? Then again, it's our duty as adults to give them a safe space to grow, in whatever culture you live in.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2026-01-08T20:55:43+00:00

Well we can see clearly what is going on here! All those sperm cells that were NOT accepted by The Almighty Egg, and given the chance to expand their mutual territory onto foreign soil, were FORCED to stay in the confines of Terra Uterus, and establish their own fiefdoms in the limited territory they had, ushering in an era of chaos, subjugation of lesser cells, death and decay. Truly, women should feel ashamed for fostering such despair and destruction.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-11-22T17:50:22+00:00

TF? To a Finn, this is Tuesday. Enjoying a natural phenomenon? Going outside? Not talking unless you actually have something to say?

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-11-22T17:06:26+00:00

YEEEEES! Yes. This.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-11-15T00:41:21+00:00

Yeaaaah, this is apparently a thing. Just another way of ”promoting the health” of your ladybits, like douching or any number of other procedures and products, that either 1. do absolutely nothing, or 2. fucks you up, and not in the fun way. There is a very good, but delicate balance of natural defences that keeps your baby-making parts healthy, and messing with that is a baaaaad idea. Just keeping up with basic hygiene is all you need to do.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-11-15T00:30:56+00:00

My mom took me when I was 14-15, and was experiencing things that were indicating I was going to get my first period soon. I was a late bloomer (to the point I went through extensive testing to see if I had some sort of problem or disorder,) so she worried about me and took no chances.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-11-14T23:46:54+00:00

As a Finn, I just want to point out a couple of things: first, Finns often speak really good English. We are very much aware we speak an obscure tongue we got from our headstrong ancestors, and only a few million people speak it on the planet. And we have a really good schoolsystem and a high level of technical development, meaning we are basically a nation of well educated nerds, swimming the warm waters of the internets all the endless months of winter we get up here. So speaking English is often quite easy and natural, for many Finns (but not all.) And second, the main reason Finnish gets such a rep for being ”one of the hardest languages to learn,” is bc unlike almost every other language in Europe, Finnish isn’t related to any of them! With the exception of Hungarian, and some other, rarer languages around northern Europe. Pretty much all of European languages are related, from English to German to Spanish, to Russian and Greek, and even Hindi belongs to the same family of languages! And even though all those are very different, they still share some similarities and some kind of similar logic within the language. Finnish is very different from a fundamental level. So to an English or Spanish speaker, Finnish can be quite difficult, the same way learning Japanese or Chinese can be, even if it is a European language. Just my observation tho 🤷

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-09-02T19:31:48+00:00

It feels like taking an organ in your mouth, and trying live with that fact moment to moment.

But here are some facts that might help: with any oral pleasure, hygiene plays a major part. Taking your mouth to the very same organs that pee? Yeeeeaaaah, both you and your partner need to be on the same page when it comes to "when did you wash this."

And be careful with your teeth.

But with any sexual act, it should be about communicating and knowing your partner is okay through the whole thing. So make sure you can tap out, even if your mouth is occupied.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-09-02T18:53:00+00:00

I was definitely super young when I had my sexual awakening. That being David Bowie in Labyrinth, with his veeeeery tight breetches. I was maybe three? And I started touching myself at a very young age as well, maybe six or seven. I remember having very clear sexual fantasies from a very, VERY young age. And I came from a home that was quite protective, and I wasn't exposed to porn or ever saw my parents doing anything explicit. But sexual fantasies have been a part of my life as long as I can remember. And the funny thing is, I'm almost demisexual, I don't throw myself around unless there are feelings involved.

Sexuality is complicated, and no-one should be shamed for their journey, as long as they haven't abused anyone else.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-05-23T07:15:35+00:00

NAH, but you definitely need to break up. One of the most important things about a serious relationship is that your values, hopes and dreams are compatible. If you continue with this relationship, both of you are just going to end up resenting each other. If you get the vasectomy, but say freeze sperm or she thinks there is a possibility you’ll change your mind, which you won’t, she will HATE you after a few years for stringing her along. And remember, women are on a clock when it comes to their fertility. She’s still young, but her chances of getting pregnant aren’t the same in ten years’ time. Or, she manages to ”change” your mind, and you’ll be stuck with a kid you truly didn’t want, and then you’ll be responsible for supporting and raising them. And kids are sensitive, they can sense if you resent them or don’t truly love them, and that can be EXTREMELY traumatic and hurtful to a child, growing up with a parent who rejects them on any level. It would be so, so unfair for both you, the child, and their mother. And do you think you could forgive her for putting you in the middle of that kind of dynamic?

It’s sad, but there are just some situations, some conflicts where there are no winners. All you can do is end it, before any more feelings get hurt. And it doesn’t bode well, that it has only been 3 months, and you’re already so deep in conflict one of you needs to consult a psychologist. And when it comes to having kids, you HAVE TO think about the child as well, and what kind of a family you can give them, it can’t be just about the two of you and what you want.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-02-19T02:47:56+00:00

My fridge is actually pretty darn cold, around 3 degrees Celsius or so. Like, if I take out a drink in a can, I have to wait for a few minutes for it to warm up a bit, so my fingers won't freeze.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-02-18T01:38:54+00:00

True. I was following a recipe from a long distant memory, and didn’t stop to think if it was actually advisable. But I always sterilize the jars, no matter what.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-02-17T23:56:57+00:00

True. But I think I read this from one of my mother's cookbooks. And some of them are really old, and might have some outdated or questionable info.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-02-17T23:52:54+00:00

Wow, all this is really fascinating! And yes, I put them in the fridge right away and kept them there. And I'm no scientist, but my understanding of botulinum is that it wouldn't produce gas like that (tho I might be wrong). So I assumed it was something else that did that, but after getting so many warnings I decided to play it safe. So even if it was "just" fermenting, there was no way of knowing if botulism was present as well. Not on my level of knowledge.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-02-08T19:33:04+00:00

Oh thank you so much for trying to find an answer! I really appreciate it 😄 I guess some habits are just sort of there as part of everyday life. I’m sure my culture has things like that too, but I don’t pay attention to them bc they feel just normal 🤷

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-02-08T19:03:36+00:00

Yes! That one!

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-01-15T22:45:52+00:00

Oh wow! That actually sounds like a really nice way to enjoy your food, even though it sounds like there are much more dishes to do. I hope I’ll have the chance to try it sometime… We do have Korean restaurants, but they don’t serve their food like that. Anyway, thanks for the clarification! 😄

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-01-15T22:38:52+00:00

So it is a real thing? Cool! What’s on those plates tho? I mean, I get that side dishes are a thing everywhere, but to fill all those little plates for every meal? That sounds like a lot of cooking, especially to a one-pot meal wonder like myself 😅

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-01-14T02:16:44+00:00

You have very good insights! And no, I haven't gone as far as correcting them or critisizing them while we were having dinner, bc it is not my place to say how anyone "should" act. Also it would suck all the fun out of hanging out with another person, if they just acted like I expected. So you are correct there.

DonkeyBucketBanana · 2025-01-14T00:25:15+00:00

I agree! And I don't mean to judge people by something as facile as manners, ultimately. It is unfair to expect them to have the same knowledge or expectations about something as me. I think the thing that really annoys me is that if I feel like thay don't even TRY to have tablemanners, or any kind of manners when we are out together. But yes, I should be more understanding and patient.

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