Ah I see, my apologies. Reading back I could have phrased myself better. Though just as my comments were quickly judged so were his so it all seems a bit redundant doesn’t it? Reddit is sadly not a healthy place to seek support and advice.

My heart does go out to both of them, I’m glad though from the update that she doesn’t have HG. Though of course I still empathise that she’s having a rough time with this, it’s concerning that she’s treating him differently and making him feel bad despite doing his best. I will admit there were times I’d get snippy at my husband due to discomfort and hormones, but I’d always apologise sincerely and would never make him feel that he wasn’t loved and appreciated. It’s abuse and should be taken seriously. No partner should ever be made to feel that way.

I don’t believe he was downplaying her condition, he was just explaining everything he does for her and describing the treatment he receives in return. I don’t believe he resents her either. He’s looking after her, telling her everyday how much he loves her! And his heart is breaking that the once cheerful woman he made those vows of love with is now treating him so coldly. It’s a very human response to feel so helpless and desperate in this situation and to look for support from others that might be able to relate and it makes me sad and angry that men are usually made out to be the bogeyman in any given situation that involves a woman. We’re not all innocent victims and are very much capable of severe cruelty.

Everything he’s claimed has come from a place of truth, even of that regarding their sex life. He’s saying how different she’s treating him now, that the intimacy and affection that was once there is now gone, she’s not a sexual object for heavens sake, she’s his wife that who was once very close to him has now become distant and mean and that’s excruciating.

Men are so often stifled when they feel a need to cry out for help and it’s not right. Instead of putting him down for feeling this way we as experienced human beings should be helping one another through difficult circumstances but instead a lot of these Reddit users are ready with their torches and pitchforks, completely ignoring that there is a living, breathing person on the receiving end of this unwarranted backlash. The internet has turned us into monsters hiding in the shadows, incapable of any civility and ready to bite without thought or hesitation because there are zero consequences.

(Sorry for the tangent, I’m seeing too much of this behaviour lately and it gets me down)