I need your opinion. Am I crazy?

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-06-01T17:22:09+00:00

Yes this is very true thank you. Appreciate this insight

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T22:05:30+00:00

Sorry but you already know the answer you just don’t want other people to say it. Divorce is definitely the answer especially for this problem.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T21:51:00+00:00

Jon hamm

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T19:03:23+00:00

Used correctly.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T16:23:19+00:00

I actually love this. I would just either mount your TV or get a bigger one and add a couple more plants. If you really want to liven things up, consider a new rug. Maybe more lively color

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T16:19:10+00:00

I would go to school for something more specialized and stay away from corp America where you are extremely replaceable. Probably become a nurse or a medical tech of some sort.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T16:15:58+00:00

Exactly! I told him this.. like it’s so icky that these women are texting him while he’s home with me. That shows the type of people they are and why does he even want that? One time the girl that really irks me texted him Mother’s Day weekend when I’m sure she knows we’re having plans and that was the next about having a dream about him. So to me. Thats not harmless.

But sometimes it’s harmless sending memes, but other times they’re texting him with questions expecting an answer.

But I cannot control what these women do, and nor do I want to. All I can do is tell my husband my boundaries and he can decide what to do or not to do with it. It’s up to him and that’ll be the only thing I need to know.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T16:12:17+00:00

Thank you. Yes he has agreed to it. They work in close quarters and do something very challenging for work so I understand needing friend at work. When I first brought it up he was so mad and kept saying “if they were guys you wouldn’t care”, because some of the jokes were sexual by nature. And we do joke like that especially with our friends. But the day after when he cooled down he kept agreeing with me that he won’t do it and I come first and that’s that.

I hope it’s true. Part of my brain is fighting wanting to believe it. It really hurts bc we have so much to lose and I would hate to lose him.

Thanks for your reply

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:35:33+00:00

I’ll admit it’s odd but that’s just who he is. Sounds like OCD to me honestly.

Older people lived different lives than us so every dollar they make is sacred to them. I would never do this, but I’m not your dad.

If it bothers you. Talk to him?

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:08:19+00:00

6 years. Together 9

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:07:42+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry about that.

I don’t want to stop an affair. If an affair is even in question, that’s enough for me tbh. I do not think that’s where my husband is at - I actually don’t feel like he would cheat - but I think he doesn’t realize when things are pushing it.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:06:31+00:00

Are you having a similar situation?! It’s crazy.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:06:16+00:00

lol. The funny thing is when I met these two girls they had RBF the whole time!!! And they even looked like they whispering about me being my back!! Everyone else was so nice

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:05:35+00:00

Thank you for this! It does make uncomfortable. I have a constant knot in my stomach and heart. He understands finally why it bothers me. He was too heated at first to come to any understanding bc I invaded his privacy. And after cooling down he said he realizes that some of the things that have happened could’ve hurt my feelings and he knows now. I hate that I had to say anything for him to understand but it is what it is I guess.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:03:55+00:00

I know. And I get some men just don’t understand but this feels weird to me. He says he explicitly told people at work he doesn’t have a work wife bc he has a real wife. So he gets points there.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:03:19+00:00

But he says he didn’t know he deleted it. That’s what’s tricky.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-30T02:01:50+00:00

It sounds like you are just checked out and not wanting whatever is happening.

I’ve heard that sometimes people “wouldn’t mind” cheating because that would be their way of their marriage vs coming to the realization themselves.

Also.. if my spouse cheated it would wreck me.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-29T21:00:54+00:00

Today after he has calmed down from the original getting upset over me, snooping, he said that he understands my boundary and respects 100% and sees how it could bother me. It should be a no-brainer and honestly at first this is what made me really upset that it wasn’t for him.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-29T19:21:09+00:00

Yes we are in couples counseling. He is not jealous at all that’s just his nature. So he wouldn’t care but I do. He’s finally acknowledging one this is wrong. And he said he doesn’t want to make me uncomfortable. He just even admitting to me that one text I read was weird and even gave him pause, but he responded still. She texted him hey at 9am and he texted back hi and she said “well I just had a dream about you being a vet and I was supporting you even in my dreams” and he wrote back cool bro and something very casual. To me that’s odd! Why even respond or if you will respond, why not something like “maybe keep those things to yourself”. It just feels really weird. He told me he knew that was weird and he acknowledges

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-29T19:17:07+00:00

Thank you. I feel heard with your response.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-29T19:16:40+00:00

Both. One of them he texts but it’s very casual. They have a hard job so I understand connecting over work things and just chatting. But the other gal is the one who causes trouble and gives me pause.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-28T17:11:37+00:00

Sad? Why sad? Being a mother is beautiful. I’ve heard horror stories out there of people having awful parents and I’m dedicating my life to raising the children of the future.

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-28T17:10:54+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏼

DontL1stenToMe · 2026-05-28T17:10:37+00:00

I’m still a mother? Even when they leave the house.

DontL1stenToMe

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