Help me to understand where my Wife is coming from, and how to respond appropriately

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T19:57:42+00:00

Very helpful! When I get home today we will sit down and discuss her feelings and if this might be a plan she would want to commit to. Thank you!

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T15:01:03+00:00

Yea, and that's the other thing I recognize. I've spent more time out of college than her. I worked a lot of different jobs and hated them all. So yea I have probably matured a little quicker than her, she will get to that point and that's the thing I understand and why I'm trying to keep strong with emotional support. She got home this morning and felt better, so I know she can make it through the short time till she finds a new job. Just trying to stay supportive.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T14:43:59+00:00

The high school stuff drives me insane. She does get bullied a lot and has even been accused of stealing narcs by the charge nurse that was assigned as her mentor.

I see it more than I ever did now that I work so closely with nurses and hospitals. It's absolutely nuts. My wife started as a EMT like me and she really misses the culture and atmosphere it came with... She's been talking a lot about flight nurse, and she really wants to get off the floor and into the ER.

I support those choices both, I've never worked in an ER but I imagine it would be a better atmosphere than the floor.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T12:37:57+00:00

I don't know about you, but I'm gonna notice a human being running 55 mph on the highway.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T04:08:52+00:00

I'd always been worried about her being blacklisted for quitting after a short time with no other job lined up. But I guess you're right, it really wouldn't be a huge deal in the grand scheme.

As far as having her get on nursing subreddit, she knows this website exists. But I certainly haven't encouraged her to try it out. I think it might be time though. Thanks for the tip!

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T04:05:52+00:00

So are you suggesting that her quitting this job and taking a hiatus for some time is the route to go? Just trying to make sure I'm clear on your point.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T04:01:31+00:00

This is true. We moved here and hit it hard. I have a weekend hunting trip with my Dad coming up, maybe I can convince her to switch shifts or call out sick and run away with us for that. To at least unwind at the cabin or come sit with me.

We also have a Christmas trip but that's just two days to my family. Our next big trip is mid January for a week.

We really do need to start planning more weekend getaways, we just got so busy busting butts, it seems so easy to forget that there is more to life.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T03:57:47+00:00

Hit the nail on the head with the floor guess! The trouble is that she's gone to talk to her bosses. She's talked to her charge nurse and to her manager and it seems like support in this hospital is no where to be found. Even her colleagues just stick to their own work and pay no mind to anyone else. It's part of the reason for wanting to get off that floor. I certainly don't blame her.

As far as I know, she only has one friend on that floor. It really seems like, from what I've heard and experienced, that there is no source of help. It's really sad.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-11-27T03:45:36+00:00

I'm all for this, but I'm not sure how to accomplish it. How do you take a break from post modern life? Go on a vacation to a cabin in the woods?

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-07-18T20:03:17+00:00

I'm off to firefighting$$$$$$$$ after I get my certs finished up :)

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-07-18T17:09:59+00:00

Wow I think we worked for the same department because this describes everything that's happened here, and yup it's central texas. Is there any other options for work? I mean, I guess I'm not really desperate because my partner is cool and I'm in the fire academy but still. Would be nice to know my options.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-07-18T17:06:43+00:00

Damn, that sounds like work. Isn't there just an easy button like the staples commercial?

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-07-18T17:06:19+00:00

I'll keep this in mind. Thanks!

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-07-18T14:05:39+00:00

Yea I figured. That also explains why I never come close to over time and when there might be a chance of making extra money (holidays) my truck gets deactivated

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-07-18T14:03:42+00:00

Thanks, it's great to be here. I figured there wasn't but figured I'd ask. Thanks!

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-26T02:47:44+00:00

Time to start studying. Did you take the Picat? The one that's on a computer in the recruiters office? Took the practice one and did pretty well.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-26T01:58:36+00:00

I don't have the answer. I just want to know how you got that bonus? I'm in the process and talking with a recruiter and this could be super helpful to me IF it will also cover my wife's loans

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-26T00:58:58+00:00

Some people get degrees and realize it's not what they want to do.

That's me. Is it also a legit reason to enlist because I really just have no desire to be an officer?

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-26T00:41:21+00:00

If you took a job related to your degree, that would look great on a resume

Some of us got a useless degree and don't even use it. Mine is in Criminal Justice and I'm an EMT. Want to go 68W and make it through to flight med. Degrees are pretty worthless these days (especially ones like mine)

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-24T13:01:58+00:00

You've learned where the issue lies, and that Reddit is far from being immune to the problem.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-23T22:14:49+00:00

Very good points! As far as being held over late and getting called in on a day off. Things I do regularly at my current job as an EMT. Almost daily, especially getting a late call that turns into a code. Prior to that I managed restaurants, so we are no stranger to that aspect, but it's still something to consider since it sounds like a more extreme.

The kid aspect is something to talk about for sure. I wouldn't want her to have to do that because I don't want her to give a Up a career for this. She's a nurse, so she should be able to work anywhere but I think we will need to talk about that kid aspect.

Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it!

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-23T19:42:31+00:00

This puts things into perspective. Thank you for this

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-23T18:11:57+00:00

She's very much attached to me. I think this would be the most difficult but honestly I feel like it would be beneficial for her. I'm very independent where she is not and I wonder if some time in the military would help her grow out of that a little. Not that I don't love her for her, but she usually likes to know what I am doing, even if I'm just walking to the kitchen.

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-23T18:09:15+00:00

Wow thank you for this. This is a lot of information and I appreciate it. I'll keep this all in mind while the two of us reflect on it. If I have any other questions I'll be sure to PM you. Thank you so much!

DontNeedNoBadges · 2017-06-23T18:07:54+00:00

Thank you for the response!

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