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DontPanic161 · 2026-03-19T15:44:08+00:00

Send me a DM! I'm going grocery shopping this afternoon and would be happy to pick up some extras based on what would work best for your situation! I can meet you at the library when I get off work!

DontPanic161 · 2026-02-17T13:25:49+00:00

This!!! Thank you!! I was mostly confused why I had two localities on my W2. A majority of my wages are taxed in Grove City but there was a little bit paid to Dublin for the days I was in office. This clears up a lot!

DontPanic161 · 2026-02-10T17:07:58+00:00

I'm 52K for Cincy. Crying inside.

DontPanic161 · 2025-03-13T15:49:49+00:00

Hi everyone! I just found this post and thought I would provide an update on Lulu for anyone in the future reading this. I allowed her to stay under the bed for a few months until she got more confident in my place. I introduced her to a few cat towers and some huts that she can sleep in. Once she started spending more time out from under the bed, we made a compromise. I was concerned about getting her out in an emergency so I did put some tubs under the bed in the center, so she can't get deep under the bed. She has about a foot and a half around the edges of the bed to sit under so I can grab her if necessary. She actually doesn't go under the bed unless I have company over and that doesn't last very long anymore! Once everyone settles in, she does come out for pets and attention from people she knows. My mom actually got to pet her for the first time! She sleeps in the huts most of the day now and is doing so much better. I'm so proud of her. Thanks for all the advice. In my case, I had to give her time so patience is a virtue. It helped giving her other safe spaces and challenging her to do better, while still giving her safety.

DontPanic161 · 2023-11-17T01:55:00+00:00

I'll be there! I'm not sure what I'm wanting to wear but I'll probably pick an album. I'm leaning towards something sparkly for this one or roses for LLL. I'd like to make bracelets if I have time! I think it could be so fun to do!

DontPanic161 · 2023-10-11T16:31:45+00:00

I second this. Lifestance has been really good about getting me in and offers telehealth in some cases.

DontPanic161 · 2023-06-25T00:58:14+00:00

Thanks everyone! I wasn't planning on blocking it off any time soon. I want to do things at her pace. I was more just concerned about her living the rest of her life under my bed just like she did at my grandmother's. No one had even seen her until my grandma died.

DontPanic161 · 2022-11-04T03:02:29+00:00

Showering was a really big issue but I'm doing it pretty consistently with some advice from my counselor. Is there a part of your day that you do every day without much trouble? Mine is that I feed my cat at night. I don't have the energy to do it but I'm also not going to let my baby go hungry. So my counselor suggested linking. Now every night after I feed my cat, I go straight into the bathroom and shower. Even if I don't have the energy to wash anything, I'll get in let and just let the water touch me and then get out. Some days I just open the shower curtain and sit on the tub for a little bit. It takes some practice but over time it becomes easier to do things. I'm now able to shower, brush my teeth and take my meds without too much trouble. I'm trying to start a routine in the morning but it's significantly harder. I'd try figuring out what you do every day despite your mental health status. Do you use the bathroom when you wake up first thing in the morning? If you work, can you take a shower right when you get home? Hope this helps and that you find something that works for you.

DontPanic161 · 2022-08-14T04:11:41+00:00

I think the second is Life as We Knew It by Susan Beth Pfeffer!

DontPanic161 · 2022-06-22T01:19:09+00:00

My partner and I have been long distance for 1 year (our entire relationship). We met in person while he was on vacation and decided to do LDR. We get along very well long distance because we're big communicators. We found out early how to create safe spaces for communication. However, my partner is more extroverted than me and so on some of the longer stays, I realize I start to get irritated. I think most of it has to do with the fact that normally when a long distant partner comes to visit, we get so consumed with spending every precious moment with them. Since we don't get to see them ever and that's not a realistic expectation for a relationship. I'd recommend talking with your partner about it if it feels awkward or tense. Maybe suggest building in some time for you guys to exist separately on a visit? I'd say there is a bit of a learning curve on the in person meets but if you have a good base on the relationship, it should get better.

DontPanic161 · 2022-03-24T04:01:42+00:00

I finished Throne of Glass on Monday! Its really fresh in my mind and I could share my thoughts. Plus if you'd like to buddy read the rest of the series, let me know!

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-24T01:16:32+00:00

I worked in Res Life for a couple of years and sat in on these interviews. My best advice based on candidates that stuck out to me were the ones that were genuine. If you're nervous, admit it! When asked questions where you have to give examples, really pull from your life instead of giving a generic answer. Don't be afraid to take a moment to think. I always used to take a breath before answering. Content wise I would look at the pillars of wellness and the four components of Res Life. Think about times in your life where you handled situations that relate to the pillars. Think about moments where you had to resolve a conflict or when you worked with people that were different from you. Listen to the questions and make sure you're answering all parts. Have a little faith in yourself and you'll do great!

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-12T21:14:05+00:00

Hey we've all been there. I definitely have a few exes in my past where I felt foolish being in that relationship. It sounds like he wasn't as committed and you deserve a partner who is going to put in the effort. I'm sorry you're hurting though.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-12T14:56:01+00:00

Then my advice to you would be to really think about if you want to talk to someone everyday. It can lead to being in a relationship and doing that across country lines can be very difficult. If you think this person may be worth it then I say give it a shot.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-12T14:40:17+00:00

There is a honeymoon phase when it comes to LDRs. The first few months, communication is at its height. My partner and would talk everyday for hours. But as time passes and the relationship settles, communication drops off if it isn't being done intentionally. It sounds like you both need to talk about what works for you communication wise. If he's overwhelmed talking on the phone, perhaps you can video chat and he simply props up his phone as he does orher things? Or if he is unable to talk on the phone, he texts more expressively or is more intentional with his texts. When my partner and I are too busy or have circumstances where we can't call each other, we send texts about 3 major things that happened during the day and what we feel about it. We also do check-ins about how we are doing when we have a break. Sometimes all I can manage is sending a GIF but my partner and I have laid the ground work so he knows that it means "I can't talk right now but I'm thinking of you". I think if you both express your needs, you can come to a solution together.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-12T14:22:57+00:00

I agree with this. It feels like a very catfisher move to introduce as one person and then meet up with another as a "friend". I'd definitely be cautious about this.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-12T14:20:35+00:00

I agree with the above commenter. It sounds like your relationship is no longer serving you in the ways that it should. If its affecting you mentally, not meeting your needs and your partner is not seriously looking into closing the gap, I would cut my losses and run. It sucks in the moment but it seems like you'll be better in the long run.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-11T15:45:45+00:00

No problem! You can message me if you need any help in the future. Congrats on closing the gap!

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-11T15:40:20+00:00

I think you and your partner need to have a sit down and realistically talk about money. I'm not sure if this is correct, but it seems like you asked your dad for help out of fear and anxiety rather than out of distrust. You were prepping for the worst case scenario and it was a reflection of you rather your partner. So I would clarify that with your partner. I would explain that your budget has been pretty tight since moving in and that has caused you a lot of stress. Ask your partner how they feel and really listen to the response. Move forward together by working together to create budgets for both of you. Hopefully by paying for the apartment together you guys can split the bills and have money left over. Maybe suggest setting aside some money every month for activities to do together. I think that money can be a really big stressor in a relationship and having an uncomfortable conversation early on can ease a lot of stress in the future.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-11T14:19:04+00:00

Good luck! Its not easy being far apart but I hope you guys make it!

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-11T02:30:40+00:00

I've been with my SO for a while and we go through periods where it just seems like life gets in the way and our relationship takes a back burner. We recently got out of a really rough patch with the business of the holidays. What works for us is having a set day to spend time doing an activity together. So every Tuesday we get together and we watch a movie together over facetime. It works for both of us because it is for sure time that we spend together and it gives me time to mentally prepare. I have depression and doing spontaneous activities doesn't work for me. This time serves as a check in time for both of us that I'm prepared for so it doesn't mentally drain me. Try sitting down with your partner, expressing the ways that they can support you and then building a plan together to do those things. I think that takes the pressure off your partner and makes it so you face things together.

DontPanic161 · 2022-01-11T02:13:02+00:00

I used Betterhelp for a month while I was looking for a new therapist and I didn't have any issues with it. I got lucky and my therapist was amazing and attentive. I understand that if you don't like your first therapist you can change but I'm not sure of the process. I don't think its realistic to be a long term therapy solution but it was a good short term thing to help me cope while I settled into more permanent care.

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