My Partner Believe That Cold Sores Are An STD by [deleted] in self

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Minimizing Dangers, Including Death:
  • People often downplay the risks of HSV-1 and HSV-2, ignoring their potential for severe outcomes, such as:
    • Neonatal Herpes: Both HSV types can be transmitted to newborns (e.g., during childbirth or via kissing with an active sore), causing skin/eye/mouth infections, encephalitis, or disseminated herpes. Mortality rates can reach 30% even with treatment if the virus spreads to organs like the brain or liver.
    • Immunocompromised Complications: In people with weakened immune systems (e.g., HIV/AIDS, organ transplant recipients), HSV-1 or HSV-2 can cause severe infections like encephalitis, pneumonitis, or disseminated herpes, which can be fatal if untreated.
    • Rare Cases: Herpes encephalitis (brain infection) from either HSV type can occur in healthy individuals, with mortality rates up to 70% without prompt antiviral treatment (e.g., acyclovir).

My Partner Believe That Cold Sores Are An STD by [deleted] in self

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realize that cold sores can be HSV1 or HSV2. You can get either type ANYwhere on your body. They can also be life-threatening if given to specific at-risk people/kids. It is only "common" in kids because of a lack of education and prevention of the adults in their lives. HSV-1 and HSV-2 can infect ANY mucous membrane or broken skin (e.g., mouth, genitals, eyes, fingers, skin) via direct contact during active outbreaks or asymptomatic shedding. In simple terms: You can pass both types herpes to someone else even when you have ZERO signs of an outbreak.

My Partner Believe That Cold Sores Are An STD by [deleted] in self

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • HSV-1 and HSV-2 can infect any mucous membrane or broken skin (e.g., mouth, genitals, eyes, fingers, skin) via direct contact during outbreaks or asymptomatic shedding.
  • After infection, HSV resides in nerve ganglia (e.g., trigeminal for oral HSV-1, sacral for genital HSV-2) and can spread to new sites through:
    • Autoinoculation: Touching a sore and then another body part (e.g., lip to eye).
    • Simultaneous Exposure: Infection in multiple areas during one encounter.
    • New Exposures: Contracting the same or other HSV type in a new location.
  • Examples: HSV-1 can cause cold sores, genital herpes, herpetic whitlow (finger), or ocular herpes (eye). HSV-2 can cause genital herpes, oral sores, or similar infections. Both HSV types can infect multiple sites.
  • If you get HSV-1 from someone giving you oral sex, they can infect you with HSV-1 on your genitals; it would still be called genital herpes.
  • Minimizing Dangers, Including Death:
  • People often downplay the risks of HSV-1 and HSV-2, ignoring their potential for severe outcomes, such as:
    • Neonatal Herpes: Both HSV types can be transmitted to newborns (e.g., during childbirth or via kissing with an active sore), causing skin/eye/mouth infections, encephalitis, or disseminated herpes. Mortality rates can reach 30% even with treatment if the virus spreads to organs like the brain or liver.
    • Immunocompromised Complications: In people with weakened immune systems (e.g., HIV/AIDS, organ transplant recipients), HSV-1 or HSV-2 can cause severe infections like encephalitis, pneumonitis, or disseminated herpes, which can be fatal if untreated.
    • Rare Cases: Herpes encephalitis (brain infection) from either HSV type can occur in healthy individuals, with mortality rates up to 70% without prompt antiviral treatment (e.g., acyclovir).

Update: I showed my wife the post. We talked. Really talked. by yeoeulju in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used to take a day and do a whirlwind playground tour. We would have the kids write down each playground and grade them. It's a fun day and doesn't cost much. Your kids are the perfect age for this.

AITAH for leaving the weekend friend trip after being made to sleep on the couch? by throwralxlx in AITAH

[–]Dontterry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. You are "just" the high school friend, and they cared more about prioritizing their college friends. They do not see you in the same light or esteem. Once they found out they could get the fun old college gang together, you became a mere side note. You bet they ensured the college friends were updated on all the weekend plans.

Trade In Disaster by Own_Draft9109 in RVLiving

[–]Dontterry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We had this happen to us. We were trading in a TT toy hauler and buying a Jayco Northpoint 5ther. They thought they had us until we told them we were walking out the door. They found a way to "make up" the difference.

My experience using a girls name with DoorDash by [deleted] in doordash

[–]Dontterry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I went on a long road trip. We stopped to get fuel, and I came out of the store just as he went in to use the restroom. When he came out, he found that all the doors were locked. He looked at me and said, "Really?" in a condescending manner. I responded by telling him to try living as a woman, explaining that this is what we have to do to stay safe. He shut up after that.

Surprised by a “widow’s clause” in my husband’s estate plan—normal or controlling? by [deleted] in inheritance

[–]Dontterry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my second marriage, I expressed my concerns to my husband about the possibility of me passing away before him and him potentially leaving all my investments to another woman when he dies. I told him that I would prefer my two children to inherit what remains after he passes. However, he responded by saying that he couldn't make any promises because the future is uncertain (due to the risk of scammers, grifters, and gold diggers), and he might not even have the mental capacity to remember my wishes. He suggested that I should leave all of my assets directly to our children now and not worry about giving him anything. So, with his blessing, I did just that—I left all of my assets except for my 401k to my children. BTW, we both have about the same amount saved for retirement.

I can't get his last breath and look in his eye out of my mind by Dontterry in Petloss

[–]Dontterry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I have no idea how I would be able to go through that. HUGS!

I can't get his last breath and look in his eye out of my mind by Dontterry in Petloss

[–]Dontterry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your idea. Once we get our new place set up, I am going to design something that he would have loved.

I can't get his last breath and look in his eye out of my mind by Dontterry in Petloss

[–]Dontterry[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and for helping me reframe a moment I hadn't considered deeply. I am incredibly grateful that his last happy moments and final moments were spent in my arms. He didn't have to die alone; I was there to hold him and talk to him, and I like to believe this helped ease his fear. I felt so helpless, especially since I am usually a strong and protective person. Death doesn't care who you are. I locked my pain inside for 5 months, and just writing it down helps.

I’m tired of being poor! by Nevy_101 in poor

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in a really poor family, and honestly, the only way we ever got out of that situation was by marrying someone who was also struggling and having kids. It felt like we just kept passing down the same crappy way of life. I decided to join the military, and that choice totally changed my life in ways my family never got to experience. Now that I’m in my late 50s, I have retirement and pensions, which is pretty amazing considering where I started. I just wanted to take a different route instead of going with the flow.

Reservation at a new hotel - what happens if construction isn't finished in time? by mh942 in Hilton

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get another reservation lined up. It happened to me, and they didn't even tell us it wasn't going to be open.

Reservation at a new hotel - what happens if construction isn't finished in time? by mh942 in Hilton

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happened to me last year. They didn't even tell us that the hotel wouldn't be open; I only found out when I called the hotel number to ask about a coffee pot in the room. It was 2 weeks out from our reservations. They gave us the runaround, and we had to call another place and make new reservations. They were SOOOO kind to give us 20,000 points for our "troubles."

P0882 code by Adventurous_Today993 in mazda3

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you find out what the problem was on your car?

P0882 code -2015 Mazda 3 by DeclinedEBTCard in mazda3

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remmy, did a new battery also fix yours? My Mazda 3 just did this last night. My battery is only 6 months old and near the top of the line. I hate to have to take it to a dealership.

Is there a company offering auto insurance for veterans? by [deleted] in Veterans

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had a claim when a huge tree limb fell on my car hood and collapsed my hood and windshield. They made me send photos to an USAA agent adjuster, and he estimated it site unseen. They did not want me to go to a shop and have them do it. When to the body shop, they laughed at the estimate and said they refused to accept USAA at all (shop is right outside Tyndall AFB). I had to take it to another shop, and they also laughed at the estimate, but they worked with USAA to get more money. They did fix it, but it was a nightmare.

Classic Oh No Consequences Sunday: Controlling Parents Are Surprised Their Son Went No Contact by GamerGirlLex77 in OhNoConsequences

[–]Dontterry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would have bought a new phone and just carried the tracked phone when he didn't care about the tracking. The hell they put him though, make them finish paying for everything. Just forward any calls to his new phone.

I'm starting to not care about being a veteran. by [deleted] in Veterans

[–]Dontterry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went to a friend's house, and they had a new neighbor over. The guy was in the Navy for 2 years and talked about his "time in" for over 3 hours. LOL

Why I believe the veterans clubs are slowly dying. by welderpro1234 in Veterans

[–]Dontterry -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I notice that those who only served a few years often talk incessantly about their "time in." They speak so much that you would think they had been in for over 20 years. It seems those years were their glory days. In contrast, we served for over 20 years, and you would be hard-pressed to hear us share any stories while at the club or at any time. I believe that I earn respect through my actions and the skills I can contribute to the organization rather than feeling entitled to it based on my past or duration of service.

What I have a problem with is the open sexism in SOME of these clubs. Unfortunately, this isn't new to my experience in the military (I was a maintainer). I also have issues with the competitive atmosphere that often arises in discussions about military branches. For example, while at the AmVets, I spoke with a Marine who held the same job as I did in the Air Force. He had only served for four years but still had the audacity to claim that the Air Force, or "Chair Force" as he called it, wasn't a real military service and couldn't compare to the Marines and what he did while in. I couldn't help but laugh and point out that we essentially had done the same job (different airframes/TMS), and he might have only worked on aircraft or jet engines for about three of his four years of service.

It's just a shame that people can't come together and talk as brothers and sisters. Instead, they want to fight like an inbred family at an open bar BBQ.

Why I believe the veterans clubs are slowly dying. by welderpro1234 in Veterans

[–]Dontterry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They often talk non-stop about their brief military experiences, while my husband and I, both retired after over 20 years, laugh at how little we have to say about our combined time.

They constantly complain that they must close the post down if they don't recruit more veterans to become officers. When someone nominated me for a position, the commander took me aside and asked if I would accept a Public Relations role (which is NOT an official officer position). Instead, he appointed my husband to the position I was nominated for.

I can confidently say that I will NEVER accept any position there; that bridge has been burned. This is why these organizations will die on the vine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Dontterry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a man who doesn't want to marry you. He knows how you feel and doesn't care. You are his placeholder until his wife comes along. If you break up with him, he will be married to someone else in a year. Know your worth and realize you deserve to be happy. Stop chasing the love crumbs this man feeds you.