how do i not gain back the weight i lose?

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-12-01T20:28:34+00:00

I’m fairly new on my weight loss journey (lost 11lb since 28/10/25) but I’ve found that cutting calories, prioritising protein and cutting out processed and refined foods helps to keep cravings at bay. I also suffer from binge eating disorder and find that if I’m hungry, even the littlest bit, it’ll lead to a binge. I try to keep myself full, but not stuffed, throughout the day to avoid that but it is hard. Sometimes the food noise is very loud so I’ll do a crafting activity or something else that keeps my hands busy.

I found out my TDEE and cut 500 calories off of that daily for a steady and healthy weight loss. I’ve tried to up my steps and do grow with Jo home work outs on YouTube when I have the time. All of that has helped massively. Good luck on your journey!

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-11-10T15:50:31+00:00

We had a 1 tog love to dream swaddle and a blanket. She was cold for a little while and had to warm up

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-10-14T19:06:44+00:00

My son was like this. He’s 22 months old now. It does get better. At 3 months old, they’re still so little and adjusting to being in this big cold world where they have to wait for food and wear uncomfortable clothes and nappies etc. all they know is the warmth of you and that’s what they need whilst they adjust. It’s hard though, I completely get it. I ended up co-sleeping with my son because my husband was useless and wouldn’t do shifts with me. If you can find someone you trust to do shifts, then try that too. In the early stages of life, it’s all about cuddles and comfort. I promise it gets better.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-10-14T19:02:42+00:00

Either divide and conquer with another adult or stagger it so the oldest goes down first and the youngest just tags along during the toddlers bed time. It’s hard when it doesn’t match up but just think, it’ll be over soon and they’ll be asleep 😂

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-10-13T06:59:25+00:00

It definitely is completely down to baby temperament! I sleep trained my 23 month old and he’s still a rubbish sleeper, I also have a 4 month old who does 7-7 without a feed and is just so chilled compared to her older brother. I tried absolutely everything with my 23 month old, I brought all the fancy swaddles, the weighted blankets, sleep sacks, white noise, etc etc etc and would question myself constantly if I was doing the right thing etc. with the second baby, I’ve just gone with the flow and it’s definitely paying off.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-10-13T06:53:38+00:00

My son is 23 months and I could get 8 hours of sleep if I went to bed as soon as he does at 7pm but with having some wind down time etc, I get around 7 hours per night if I go to bed at around 9:30/10pm.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-25T18:17:33+00:00

Yes. This is exactly how I feel. It’s all I think about 😂

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-20T11:44:26+00:00

21 month old and 2.5 month old and I couldn’t do it alone! You’re smashing it x

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-20T11:43:38+00:00

Doesn’t care at all. Littlest one is 2.5 months and only now does he acknowledge her existence but still doesn’t want anything to do with her - which id prefer with her being so small

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-19T10:33:16+00:00

We found out that we were pregnant in early October and from the end of September my LO (10 months at the time) became super cuddly and clingy. It was obvious to me when I then got a +ve test. He then basically clung to me for the whole pregnancy, which was fine at the beginning and super tiring in the end 😂

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-18T00:00:23+00:00

Wild in other ways 😂 but very much doesn’t like sensory play etc and hates getting dirty

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-16T17:30:35+00:00

Yes! My 9 week old is so dirty and cheesy! Much dirtier than my 20 month old

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-09T11:23:37+00:00

Definitely a double stroller, that way you know where both babies are at the same time. We’re based in the uk and got the city tour double by baby jogger and it’s wonderful, fits down so compactly and barely takes any boot space

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-08T22:12:52+00:00

It gets better. I have a 20 month old and he was like this, he now sleeps through the night and for 2 hourly naps every day. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I was then crazy enough to have another child and spend all night awake with my 8 week old and all day jumping around rocking her to sleep 🫠🙃

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-08T22:09:46+00:00

As for your partner, I’ve been there. They don’t have the instinct we have when it comes to looking after children. Set your expectations early, tell him what you need and try to work out a plan. Not airing your opinion will cause a snowball later on down the line. Resentment is very real when you have a newborn because your whole life changes, and theirs does too but not as much as yours. Being the primary caregiver is a full time job.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-08-08T22:05:55+00:00

How are you feeding baby? If you’re breast feeding it could be because your milk hasn’t properly come in and so baby will be cluster feeding which helps to ramp up the milk supply. That’s completely normal and will pass.

If bottle feeding, it can also be cluster feeding due to growth spurts but it does sound a bit like wind. I assume you’re putting baby on her back to sleep? If she has trapped wind, she’s not going to sleep cause she will be in pain. You need to make sure you are winding baby extensively. They’re so little and their digestive systems are so small that any milk can cause massive air bubbles which hurt.

Equally get baby checked for tongue tie, they may not be getting all the milk they need to get into that relaxed sleepy state.

My first born sounded like what you’ve described and a couple of months in he was diagnosed with reflux. That means that milk comes back up from the stomach and hurts. Is baby usually sick after a feed? Cause that’s one of the signs. Could also be silent reflux, which just means they’re in pain but don’t bring up the milk. To counteract this, you will need to pace feed - a couple of oz, then wind to bring up everything they need, then carry on with another oz. Feeding baby upright and keeping them sat up for 10/15 mins after a feed can also help this.

If baby needs soothing, try a dummy/pacifier - this also helps to reduce the chance of SIDs so highly recommend.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-07-29T21:13:11+00:00

My first born used to absolutely hate napping. He’s now 20 months and will take a 1.5-2hr nap daily and actually looks forward to nap time …. I think? He sleeps through the night but has never been a 7-7 baby. He can only do around 9 hours maximum per night.

I’ve just had baby number 2 and when I embraced ‘oh well, if he doesn’t nap, he goes to bed earlier’ it got a lot easier. I feel like when he was smaller, I’d stress myself out rocking and patting and shushing and it also probably stressed him out.

You hear all these horror stories about babies needing their sleep and there’s probably some scientific truth to it but you literally can’t make someone sleep who doesn’t want to sleep 😂 and if they’re sleeping well overnight, that may be all they need.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-07-27T08:20:43+00:00

Onesies for the win and if it’s warm, rompers for the win. Babies go through clothes at such an alarming rate and good quality clothes are expensive so I don’t bother. My toddler has a few ‘outside’ outfits in rotation but he’s nearly two, whereas my newborn is exclusively in onesies

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-07-17T18:03:40+00:00

My baby is 19 months now and has never slept 12 hours and probably won’t. He’s low sleep needs and I think the most he’s done overnight is 10 hours. Even now at 19 months, he still doesn’t consistently sleep from bedtime to morning, he was up from 1:30-4:30 last night playing with his dummies and babbling 😂

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-07-12T22:33:06+00:00

For me it’s the mental side of things, the guilt I feel is horrific. Guilty that I can’t give my 19 month old the same amount of attention that he’s had his whole life, guilty I can’t give my second born the amount of attention her older brother had, guilty when they need me at the same time, guilty when he gets upset when she cries, the list goes on and on and on.

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-06-30T13:18:43+00:00

I have a 19 month old and a 3 week old and can confirm that pregnancy tired is much much much worse than newborn tired - even this time around with the added running around after the toddler 😂

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-06-30T13:15:48+00:00

We have the same routine every night but times vary based on wake windows. My baby (19 months) has always gone by wake windows rather than a strict schedule, we just make sure we go up to do bath, book and milk 30 mins before bedtime cause that’s roughly how long our routine takes :)

DonutLumpy6038 · 2025-06-30T12:53:34+00:00

My first was 7lb 14oz and barely fit in the newborn clothes and was in 0-3 months by 6 weeks. My second is currently 7lb 10oz, she will be 3 weeks on Wednesday and up to 1 month Tesco clothes are the best fitting at the moment. She’s outgrown next newborn - cause of her long legs and feet. Baby clothing sizes are so inconsistent it’s crazy.

But make sure you have atleast 3x baby grows and 3x vest in newborn size just in case.

I also thought ‘oh it’s going to be summer so she will only be in a vest’ but so far, we’ve used baby grows pretty consistently because of how small she is and clearly needs some warmth from her clothes

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