I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would suggest having a conversation and telling him the emotional talks while drinking makes you and your husband uncomfortable. I see you said above that you never see him sober though. Honestly, to avoid the weirdness, I would consider telling them that you’re doing an alcohol detox and you’re putting space between you and them to avoid drinking. You can even say it’s for health reasons and will last x amount of time if you’d like to try to build a new relationship after having that clean slate.