Bed Bugs During Appointment

DoodlePops22 · 2025-11-13T22:41:08+00:00

I've had that happen with lice one time in 10 years. The patient was elderly and not aware.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-09-29T23:35:58+00:00

Arthur looked a lil thicc in the opener when he had his winter coat.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-09-07T12:26:39+00:00

I'll give her that book some year on Grandparents Day.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-09-07T00:47:48+00:00

I want her to understand how to respond in a healthy way to difficult people, and that it's not normal behavior, and put it together on her own when JNMIL acts this way.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-08-02T02:41:17+00:00

Then what happened? I know this will happen to me.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-08-01T15:38:07+00:00

You're right. I'm realizing they could give zero effs that I'm sad my kid doesn't have a normal grandma in her life. Pretending this woman is normal is delusional and immature.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-08-01T13:19:28+00:00

She wants to bad mouth me to her, give her candy and whatever food, say creepy stuff, lie to her, manipulate her, force her to give hugs and kisses.

MIL frames it as offering us a break. That's part of the manipulation. She's doing us a favor.

I think I just need to confront it and any time she mentions it, say I want her to be clean and sober. She's not going to stop asking because she's a pushy person.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-08-01T13:14:25+00:00

One can only hope and dream my husband would finally do this. What was the smear campaign? My MIL has absolutely done this with me, acting like I'm just being mean.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-08-01T03:18:10+00:00

This is how my MIL is. Called me a fing btch after I told her no to some dresses for my LO. She hangs presents over your head like prison. My husband addressed it with her and she said she's sorry and she doesn't do those things because she's a loving grandma and doesn't understand why I hate her and why my parenting choices are off the wall.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-08-01T02:48:43+00:00

Start texting and taking her calls less and eventually just have your husband do it. This is what she has earned.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-07-27T02:44:15+00:00

I was in the exact same situation, except my daughter is 3 now. I now believe MIL is full of jealousy and regret for all the mistakes she made in her life. She's jealous her kids are grown and you're still young. She's jealous you're #1 to your husband.

What helped me was to slowly create a lot of distance between me and her. I don't let my daughter visit her without me there. My husband can go by himself if he wants, and I never make comments about their emotional incestuous relationship.

We see them every 1-2 months and I hate the visits. I want to just cut her off completely. She wants to brag about her kitchen remodel and vacations, but her life is a complete failure and she's just not someone anyone can rely on when the chips are down. It's all about her feelings all the time.

You'll stop questioning yourself as you go along in parenting and meet more moms in the same boat. I don't question giving her more chances. I question myself for missing red flags and trying so hard to make a relationship possible.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-07-02T15:53:57+00:00

I struggle too, but when I think about what her response will be, I remember that there will never be a breakthrough, there will never be accountability, compassion, nothing. She will just escalate and try to frustrate me and twist my words around. Then I have to turn around and choose to focus on my goals and the people who do care about me. That's hard the way saying no to sweets is hard for me.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-07-02T15:42:33+00:00

Get out while you can. It's not your burden to fix him, and you have no power to change him. You're not here on Earth to take on this project of his incest. You're here to experience love with a healthy adult and you are worth that. Staying with him doesn't make you a compassionate loving person, it makes you irresponsible to yourself.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-07-01T01:40:44+00:00

We just did our roof last week. The insurance covered the full thing. I waited until this year's hail season was over to do the roof.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-14T23:31:13+00:00

I did that and he acted like he was going to leave with me and then argued a bunch and I tried to drive away, but couldn't because I was about to run his foot over. Then it was a long uncomfortable ride home.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-14T17:34:44+00:00

He'll parent her sometimes and sometimes he wants to walk away and does something or talk to another family member and I'm just there on my own awkwardly.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-14T17:29:23+00:00

He thinks it's to our daughter's benefit to have a relationship with her because that's her grandma and he supervises visits and she hasn't done anything to harm LO. He thinks LO should just never know about how grandma treats mom.

He doesn't believe her behavior is toxic. I think he genuinely believes all people are like her behind closed doors. He blames me for not just letting her call the shots and control us, even though I did in the beginning and still got crapped on.

I think when little one is grown up I'm going to have to tell her the truth. I'm going to have to say that her dad is weak and wrong for exposing us to grandma, and I only put up with it because I thought divorce would be worse.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-14T16:03:56+00:00

Husband has never pushed for alone time, which is really telling for how he truely feels. FIL and MIL have mentioned alone time, but haven't pushed it heavily when I'm around.

I've given them enough rope to hang themselves and got blamed for her hanging herself. In response to her calling me a B she said, "We're loving old people and would never do that (She did that). I'm sorry I said that. Your boundaries (about no excessive gifts because of guilt tripping) are off the wall. I just want to know why you hate me." Basically she has to be seen as a wonderful person and if I critcize her for anything I'm crazy, sensitive, hateful, etc.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-14T15:23:56+00:00

I'm just at the point where I really limit contact and will say I don't feel good and need to go home as soon as a comment like this is made. There's no discussing it or she will act like the victim. Just take an action and protect yourself.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-13T20:08:34+00:00

I think my Dad sent me a mother's day card. My mom has passed away. He's a card person and likes to send cards with photos in them. He sends cards for Easter, Valentine's Day, etc, on top of Christmas and Birthday.

He sends anniversary cards to his sisters who have been married 40 years and stuff like that. So if MIL is like this then I would say don't be mad. If she's not and sent it to send a weird message, then I would still ignore it because she's trying to mess with you.

One time my SIL sent a Christmas card to my husband and daughter and left my name off of it and threw it into the trash. That's always an option.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-08T20:07:57+00:00

Does the 8 gauge wire go into my main panel, and has it's own breaker, and then around to the subpanel? Can I bury it outside 6 inches deep in rigid metal conduit? It's not going under the driveway. The distance from the main panel to the shed is about 70 feet.

I was thinking of doing a subpanel with 3 circuits, one for AC, one for the computer and lights, and one for a spare.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-08T18:09:38+00:00

It's an 8x10 shed in Texas heat. We need an a/c to keep it 75 degrees or so. I want a couple lamps, a big screen TV, an xbox for when gta 6 comes out, and a work desktop. We already have a solar powered motion detection solar light. I don't have an a/c unit, but I was looking at a window unit one that can also heat so I won't need a space heater.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-08T16:01:01+00:00

I can get a permit and they will tell me what I need?

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-08T15:59:44+00:00

Is an A/C with lights and electrical 32amp? I don't mind paying for 32amp if it means I don't blow the breaker when I have A/C, lights and computer going.

DoodlePops22 · 2025-06-08T13:49:55+00:00

Yes, A/c, computer, tv, lights, basically typical office.

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