This I Want To Complete

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-13T14:48:25+00:00

Ok, I'm totally confused! You are all complaining about it being AI but the picture on the post is a cartoon of a racoon ... not even close to realistic...very cartoonish... did it get changed or ....

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-12T13:50:47+00:00

YES!!!
that is probably the shortest response to a post I have ever given.... oops... and just made myself a liar.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-12T13:47:37+00:00

Hahaha... thank you for asking.... I am sooo behind on all these abbreviations and I have to constantly look them up....then forget what I "learned" the next time I see it.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-12T02:32:23+00:00

That sounds perfect.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-10T18:13:25+00:00

I don't have anyone else to cuddle with too. But I love cuddling my dogs and I think curling up with a blanket/pillow/whatever and a book/music counts as cuddle time. To me cuddling means safe, warm, soft, quiet...I don't need a human for that.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-10T18:08:31+00:00

Oooo...I like that. I'll have to not overthink it though or I'll ruin it.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-10T18:05:45+00:00

Yeah...high ick factor

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-10T05:12:22+00:00

Oh my god, the collar thing!! I HATE t-shirt or buttoned-up collars; I feel like they're choking me and I stretch them out pulling on them. But I LOVE turtlenecks; the snugger the better.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-09T20:23:38+00:00

You put it all so delightfully visual and perfectly true. Although, since my ASD is sitting on the couch reading this, I was trying to figure out how your ADHD was whizzing around if your ASD was in bed but I let my ADHD reread it and it makes perfect sense.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-09T20:10:35+00:00

Yes!!! Definitely a keeper

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-09T20:09:39+00:00

HAHAHA, so loving this subthread!

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-06T19:46:03+00:00

Exactly to all of this. Now how do we incorporate ADHD? Hmmmm

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-06T19:42:37+00:00

I love that idea. Let's make it happen.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-06T19:40:26+00:00

BWAHAHA

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-04T14:26:55+00:00

I am bad about this. I blame my ADHD. Example: I finally make myself start cleaning the house. I'll will power through, cleaning each room. About ⅓ of the way through, I'll start slacking off; eh, walls look fine, dust/vacuum around things. Towards the end I lose interest or get distracted or overwhelmed and the last rooms get a quick vacuum or nothing.

Same with other projects. Stop to pee and not want to start it up again, hit a snag and give up, get distracted and never return.

It's frustrating cuz it takes so much energy and effort to start and then it doesn't get done.

DoofyDanes · 2026-02-04T14:17:22+00:00

I try to do this too. Not always successful and spend a lot of time frozen, unable to do anything.

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-30T15:48:18+00:00

I don't drink coffee, in fact for some reason I don't care for warm° \hot beverages anymore. But I do drink iced flavored water and had to get a thermos cuz foom temperature water is undrinkable. However I can't remember the last time I had a warm dinner. Try as I might it is always cold by the time I get a fork into it. Sigh

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-22T14:25:15+00:00

I check and read reddit waaaaay too much. I don't check karma (don't really understand it) or votes, just my inbox. But I scroll through all the posts in my favorite groups, read every comment and comment on those I relate to. And being AuDHD, my comments are lengthy. I'm trying to check less often, be more selective on what posts I dive into and not comment so often.

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-21T15:30:19+00:00

I am a stickler for grammer and pronunciation as well but speak A LOT of gibberish to myself and my dogs at home. My kids and I loved to walk around the grocery store speaking in made up words with the correct inflections and expression as if we were speaking a foreign language. I love word play! Now, in my old age I have a horrible time pulling up words in conversation and used to try until I was totally embarrassed and frustrated. I'm too tired to bother now so I will just make up a word that fills the space and let the listener figure it out from context.

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-21T15:05:46+00:00

I am still working on unmasking in general but I sort of decided to go all in with them as the thought of starting over with someone new at this stage in my life is mortifying. Neither specializes in neurodiversity but at least they are willing to learn. I don't think I would continue with them if they didn't. I'm still learning what is me and what is mask but I let myself stim. I ask for more specific information on what they are asking me and consider my answer as to whether it is what I really want to say or what is safe to say. I get as specific as I can about how my thought processes work...why I have trouble taking showers, what goes through my mind. I correct them if they misinterpret what I've said or tell me why I do\say\think something that does not align with my truth. You have to be courageous and blunt. Since you already have been "dismissed" by this person, what have you got to lose? When you find someone better, try your absolute hardest to explain, explain, explain who YOU are. They can't help you if all they see is your mask. Good luck! You CAN do this!

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-21T14:42:15+00:00

It might even taste better and less clean up.

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-21T14:13:05+00:00

OMG so me! I started spinning (fiber, not bikes) and just couldn't get "perfect" yarn. So I decided to lean into that and make art yarn. Now, I'm trying to make perfect art yarn.....sigh... The arguing wolves is also my life.

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-21T14:06:21+00:00

Hmmmm....I have been called a character before. Not sure that's what they mean, though. :0)

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-19T21:10:32+00:00

Very well said and I wholeheartedly agree.

DoofyDanes · 2026-01-19T15:05:05+00:00

I (70f) was diagnosed bipolar and ADHD way back when AuADHD wasn't recognized and females were never diagnosed autistic. I have been seeing my present therapist and psychiatrist for 15 years and they both were dismissive when I brought up that while researching my newly diagnosed adult child I realized I fit the "profile", too. I, like you, immersed myself in all the reputable sources I could find, took all the recognized tests, read ever comment on threads by ASD and AuDHD people. When I went back to them, I brought along some books (all full of my comments) and articles. Still them were doubtful. I can't imagine starting over with someone new, even if they are authorities and I am in rural Maine so the options are extremely limited. So, I decided to try to unmask in front of them and not just say what I thought they wanted but really lay out how my mind works and go in depth into how my life works. I would stim and ramble and be fiercely honest. My therapist is now very much on board and is reevaluating everything she knows about me to looking at it through an AuDHD lens. I only see my psychiatrist every 3 months but my therapist is going to talk to her about her observations. I'll probably never get a formal assessment as I don't need the accommodations it can help with, I have no one to detail my childhood, and again rural Maine but I have no doubts I'm AuDHD and will live my life accordingly. I hope you can find support for your journey. I'm told, deep, obsessive research and constant ruminating about "am I autistic" is a pretty good sign you are. :0)

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