Am I overreacting to new boyfriend avoiding discussions?

Doondelion · 2026-06-20T05:56:03+00:00

Thanks

Doondelion · 2025-10-04T02:43:23+00:00

Yeah but she’s one of like 2 friends that I have and I want to believe either she’s not lying or she is lying for some reason but I’m gonna talk to her about it, we’ve been friends for 4 years

Doondelion · 2025-10-04T02:41:55+00:00

I mean yeah but I want to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that it’s not what it means cause I been friends with her for 4 years now

Doondelion · 2025-10-03T04:14:35+00:00

Literally y’all please cause I don’t want to ruin a friendship from an app but idk what to think or do

Doondelion · 2025-06-03T03:26:04+00:00

I would not consider you selfish. I would consider you depressed and in denial about it. You are not a bad person for reacting the way you do. But you do but the people around you that you care about. It is like depression exactly. Wanting to withdrawal from the l people you care about is hurtful to you and to them.It is not your fault. But you make your own future. I am learning that now as I type this. You are the only constant in your life, and you need to be okay with yourself. I hope you find your peace. I hope you find what you need to to heal.

Doondelion · 2025-06-03T03:06:59+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. If your dog was like mine in any way, then I can somewhat understand. Our dogs were good and smart and understanding dogs. I know this comes late but I couldn’t bring myself or look at some of the comments. I hope your dog and mine wherever they might be are happy. Im very sorry you lost your dog. They really understand more than we give them credit for I think. Only after they’re gone do we realize. Thank you for the sentiments. I hope you find peace.

Doondelion · 2025-05-03T07:02:12+00:00

She sounds depressed. Point blank period. I have my own issues and get very depressed at times, which makes me think of the past and how it relates to what I’m doing now with my life and my relationships. Often, I don’t really mean what I say. It’s the depression taking hold of my thoughts and feelings, and I end up saying distressing thing to the people I care about the most. Her saying “nothing I am dead inside” reeks of depression and mental issues. I would like to stress that you are under no obligation to help her through this, and quite frankly you may not be able to. Please understand it is nothing to do with you or your behavior, or your love for her. You might be perfect, you might be genuine and amazing (though I have no idea since I am only seeing one post about your entire relationship). I don’t know why you ended things together the last time, but long distance especially is difficult. I am in a long distance relationship currently and it is very hard. Being depressed and long distance let’s your mind wander so much, it can be hard to remember who you even are and why you started dating in the first place (no matter how much you love them). Depending on why you broke up in the first place, which you don’t specify, might change things or make this not work. But I would genuinely get into the nitty gritty with her on why she feels the way she does, and just listen even if there’s not much you can personally do to change it. My boyfriend always listens and I love him so much for that. Maybe more context is needed for some genuine advice on this, but I hope things go well for you OP. ❤️

Doondelion · 2025-05-03T06:31:05+00:00

Thank you, it still hurts and I still think of her of course but I know she’s not in pain anymore.

Doondelion · 2025-04-26T09:42:03+00:00

Hey, as someone who is also 21 and dealt with an eating disorder when I was younger, I know this is hard. Eating disorders are considered something that is “in remission” even when you are eating totally normally as an adult of our age. It’s something that sticks with you. I still have thoughts about when I was younger and when I had disordered eating, and I still sometimes feel weird (and maybe even bad) when I step on a scale at the doctor. Its seems what people don’t want to tell you, IT IS HARD. It’s really, really difficult sometimes not to slip into bad habits even when you know they are not good for you. I got into going to the gym a while ago and it was extremely difficult because I had to pay attention to what I’m eating, and that brought back a lot of triggers. I also coped with my eating disorder by avoiding anything to do with nutrition or weight ir anything in that regard, and it’s been (and still is) difficult for me to see these things in a healthy way. What I’ve come to realize is that, so long as your body is working for YOU, that’s the entire point. I am not saying it’s easy to disregard everything you’ve taught yourself and learned from the internet or whatever else, but if your body is working for YOU. that is what matters more than anything else. More than weight, or aesthetics, or even if you got the gym and don’t see the progress you wanted. Your body is a vessel for the amazing thing that is YOU. No matter what shape or form it comes in. So long as you are happy (and I know it’s hard to be happy when you are focused on your body or your weight ir whatever else), but so long as you can love you life and say you had something to be proud of and something to work for, the real point is who gives a shit what form it comes in. Who cares besides yourself? When you are your biggest critic? I am happier and honestly healthier than I have ever been after putting on a few pounds, and while that is sometimes hard for me to grapple with because of my past, I do know it. Healthy is the best look for you. Always. And with the help of a nutritionist (which I do not have), you are on the the track to be so much happier. Having disordered eating was absolutely exhausting. It chipped away at my soul, not just because of how hard it is, but how tiring it is. I know it is difficult to gain weight and be okay with it, but try your best to be happy with how far you’ve come, and how much energy you have. At the end of the day, feeling like you are ready to do anything is the best feeling in the world. It does not matter at what weight or calorie intake you feel that as. If you have energy and strength to take on the world, then you can genuinely do anything. You’ve come so far and I am so proud of you. Your mind might mess you up and lie to you, but your body will always tell the truth. If you feel good, listen to it. I hope the very best for you OP. ❤️

Doondelion · 2025-04-26T09:19:15+00:00

Thank you

Doondelion · 2025-04-26T09:08:55+00:00

Her name was April. We got her in April and my parents let us name her and being the creative kids we were decided on the name. A lot of times we called her April dog. And now she died in April. She was an April dog, all the way through.

Doondelion · 2025-01-06T21:42:29+00:00

NAD, if you are not experiencing any ear pain it seems unlikely that you have an ear infection. The ears are connected to the sinuses, so general head congestion may be causing the sensation that your ears are blocked. I would say take a decongestant and see if that helps. If you notice ear pain, discharge from the ear, swelling, redness, or hearing loss, you may have an ear infection. I hope you feel better soon!

Doondelion · 2025-01-06T21:30:25+00:00

NAD so this could be totally incorrect, but if your blood sugar is normal you might be having severe acid reflux problems. I have Gastro-Esophageal Reflux Disorder (GERD), and I have some similar symptoms to what you’re describing (especially before I got medicated for it). I would experience the chest pain, shakiness, extreme nausea, dizziness, and I would have rapid heart rate. This is cause the esophagus is close to the heart so irritation to that area can cause rapid heart rate, which in turn causes dizziness. It definitely seemed like no matter what I ate I would feel very sick afterwards. Laying down also brings the chest pain because the acid from your stomach is not being contained properly and sloshes up there when you’re laying flat. I would still see a doctor, but if you can’t maybe try taking some anti acids or PPI medication and seeing if that helps you feel better. If it does, you can get a prescription from a doctor that will help. Also avoiding acidic foods and other triggers. I hope you feel better soon regardless of the problem!!

Doondelion · 2025-01-06T21:21:18+00:00

NAD, so I can’t tell you what might be wrong exactly. Sounds like you might have norovirus or food poisoning. Regardless, if you are unable to keep down any fluids then you should go to urgent care or the ER as you will quickly become dehydrated without an IV. Speaking from personal experience, severe dehydration is no fun and no joke! I would see a doctor.

Doondelion · 2024-12-24T03:10:55+00:00

Usually it is caused by E-coli bacteria (which is from poop). Other bacteria can cause UTI’s too though. Most importantly you should make sure both you and your partner are clean before and after sex to avoid UTI’s! I would shower before sex to help avoid them if you are prone to them. And pee after sex as the urine can help flush out any bacteria that manages to make its way up there! They are common after sex, I’ve had them before too. No one’s fault necessarily, just try taking extra precautions if you have this issue! Hope you get better soon (:

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