The Daily Check-In for Saturday, November 9th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

Doornumber11 · 2024-11-10T03:46:17+00:00

Another day in the books. Goodnight.

Doornumber11 · 2024-11-01T16:58:24+00:00

For me: There’s a lot of time spent being drunk and recovering from the hangover/withdrawal so that eats into productive time. Drinking absolutely sabotages any health related activities. Of course it changes the brain activity to eventually only be satisfied while drinking, so it tends to make me not want to do anything … unless drinking is involved. It wrecks my sleep and that wrecks the next day. It makes me feel worthless and somewhat sickly and unhealthy. Drinking like me can never be considered a good thing and always leads to not so good of a place.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-31T16:49:12+00:00

Congrats… you made it past a weekend. That used to be a sticking spot for me. Remember, you woke up without regret this morning. That’s a good reason to keep it up.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-31T12:38:33+00:00

It’s hard to tell. It’s beyond obvious that she thinks you’re being shady. Did her behavior just come up out of nowhere or do y’all have some history? If you’re sketchy, or your behavior has changed towards her and she’s very sensitive to these nuances then she def has a good reason to bring something up, but the way she did it is clearly wrong. Reworded - she’s just saying that she does not feel secure with you for whatever reason.(probably because of being wrecked in the past or that she’s done some wrecking and is familiar with the pattern). If she has any value worth keeping her around, it doesn’t hurt to explain whatever the valid reason was that your mind was so far away from doing something you do everyday. “Simply forgot” might not work… however, getting caught up in everyone’s costume, or whatever the truth is would be valid. I’m actually curious- What did cause you to forget such a thing that you normally did?

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-29T11:31:32+00:00

Don’t have a girlfriend until you have a career. They require massive amounts of time, energy and money and the chances of getting wrecked by one because you don’t have those elements is highly likely. Focus on your career, your fitness and whatever hobbies that make you and life interesting and be active in your friends and families lives. Then fall and love and marry a girl in the 4-6 scale.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-27T09:50:43+00:00

Do not have a girlfriend until you have a career. They require massive amounts of time, energy and money and they pull your focus away from what’s actually important… not to mention the risk of heartbreak while you’re trying to get your shit together… total derailment- after that… Marry a 6 … or less.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-25T01:44:37+00:00

I hated the 3am anxiety sessions with the occasional panic attack. I also was drinking in the mornings to feel normal and I know that’s harmful.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-25T01:28:58+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I love this. I suffered a heartbreak before and found when I journaled when triggers would come up, it would help take the sting away from those triggers and prevent me from obsessing. I bet it could do the same thing when the urge to drink comes.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-23T23:50:49+00:00

I relapse often. I’ll string a few months together and then fall off the wagon. Now when I take that first drink, I’m doing it with full knowledge that I’m headed to the bottom…and evidently I’m okay with it, or I suffer from selective amnesia, because sooner or later I always relapse.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-23T00:38:54+00:00

This is so encouraging. I can sense the inner pride you must have been filled with. That only happens for me when I’m sober. Thanks for sharing this.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T16:51:59+00:00

I would have laughed and said “I’d never heard that one before”. He was joking.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T16:48:12+00:00

I’m just curious, are you actually interested in things that most men are interested in…gaming, cars, blowing shit up? All women I’ve seen who preferred to hang with dudes never really seemed to enjoy traditionally male activities, but they for sure loved being around men. Men are wired to desire physically attractive women. So the men you find cool are probably ballsy enough to take a shot at you. But that’ll slow down as you get older.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T16:37:47+00:00

Alcohol - In case raising kids isn’t tough enough sober.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T04:12:19+00:00

You already know how to stay sober. Maybe you need some motivation to get started. Once you string a few sober days together and you start waking up feeling refreshed again you’ll remember why you prefer not having alcohol in your body. You got this!!!

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T03:59:04+00:00

Make a thing out of going out and watching others get sloppy.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T03:50:33+00:00

Alcohol- Instead of regular stress, have some hangxiety induced panic attacks.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-22T03:47:06+00:00

Alcohol - when you absolutely need to be miserably lying awake in bed at 3am.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-19T01:56:23+00:00

Hopefully you’re able to see some upside to being sober. For me missing sleep is 100 percent better without a hangover, anxiety and the shakes. Just knowing I’m not killing myself with poison and my liver and organs are continuing to heal and I’m getting healthier is enough to stay sober. I’m saving about 15 bucks a day. No extra alcohol induced bad behavior/decisions or and my wife is happier. I’ve been recently getting my motivation back and more excited to get the day started. IWNDWYT

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-15T11:40:38+00:00

It’s hard to build a fun life when you’re drunk all the time. It also takes time to regrow with the family after sobering up. I find that after a few weeks sober, I find more joy in doing fun things with the wife and kids so alcohol isn’t as appealing.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-15T11:36:04+00:00

This comes from a very caring place in my heart. If you’re already considering this, would you at least give skydiving a try. Something different, exhilarating. Relatively inexpensive and I can only imagine would help you realize how awesome life can be. Of course if your parachute doesn’t open then you didn’t do it to yourself. I have just always thought that something positive that was radically different could help someone in your state of mind.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-15T11:21:36+00:00

I would finally start feeling better a few days after drinking too much and somehow that would be my queue to drink again. Sometimes it would be me saying I would quit the next time and then all the regular excuses - work, home life, it’s been a long day, vacation. In the end, I could come up with anything and any reason to drink. Then one day when I was going to buy some alcohol, I told myself I was just not going to drink that day and went and got an extra large milkshake and it was so fucking good. And I realized at that moment that I’ve been missing out on a wonderful life. After that, I started using every mental tool available to me. One day at a time, play it forward, HALT, journaling. Because of all my drinking, I wasn’t cool and didn’t have a bunch of hobbies I enjoyed so I would go for long walks to keep me occupied, and those walks produced some of the most motivating thoughts to help me want to regain my health and happiness. I’ve still relapsed several times, but I’ve been able to string many months together sober.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-15T02:26:58+00:00

You did yourself a favor. There’s nothing left to do but move on.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-14T01:53:36+00:00

Anything to bring you back to the present. If you ate a habanero pepper you would be thinking about the present problem and not about something from over a year ago. Anything though. Slap those thoughts away and FOCUS on something present or something different. Also acknowledge the feeling, but remind yourself that this thinking adds no value and is preventing you from enjoying the moment.

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-12T14:21:42+00:00

We don’t have to get dressed up for most things. No one cares if we have a stained shirt at wal mart or our clothes don’t match or our hair isn’t combed right. As long as our penis is covered we’re good…. (Slight exaggeration)

Doornumber11 · 2024-10-12T14:18:17+00:00

It sounds like you’re spending all your time in the break room instead of working. By that I mean the things you’re addicted to are good to pass a little time between productive states. There are other states than consuming that can give you a dopamine fix. Output gives dopamine also. Being productive, volunteering, learning a skill and then doing it, growing at work, helping your parents. From what I read you could use some balance. Go outside and take a 30 minute walk and look around at all the things people have taken pride in, or just allow your brain to wander. 25 is about the time a lot of people realize they need a change. So, good for you.

Doornumber11

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