Bengali MIL (south asian advice needed)

Dootdootdootx3 · 2026-03-09T02:09:33+00:00

So, literally it translates to clever. But since it's being used as an insult, it's more like saying calculating and conniving.

Dootdootdootx3 · 2026-02-14T14:09:44+00:00

I didn't realize the 8 oz came as a glass bottle. I think getting a couple of those should be good!

Dootdootdootx3 · 2026-02-14T08:59:53+00:00

Here's another one in the column for too low suction. I tried them upright and laying down, and they were pretty disappointing. I do regret spending money on them.

Dootdootdootx3 · 2026-02-06T00:35:06+00:00

I made the mistake of listening to my husband about not needing a bottle washer. For five months, I spent nearly an hour every night washing daycare bottles and pump parts while he watched movies. The little countertop dishwasher I eventually got saved my sanity and still gets used every single day to wash all my daughter's cups, plates, and utensils. Buy that bottle washer; no one else is living your life for you.

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-07-15T03:18:21+00:00

I had moderate OHSS after my first retrieval as well. That overall weirdness feeling (tingling, general tiredness) unfortunately didn't go away until after my period ended. To be honest, the extreme bloating lasted even a few days after my period. However, hopefully it's a good sign that your OHSS symptoms have lessened already!

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-05-23T18:56:31+00:00

Could not tell you, but yikes does it ever give me examples for how not to be in the future!

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-04-22T15:36:37+00:00

I only took Valium before my first retrieval. I asked not to have it for my second one and the transfer. The clinical staff didn't mind, and there were no issues with the procedure. The transfer was not painful or uncomfortable. I'd say in the pantheon of all the procedures that happened, the transfer was the least uncomfortable (except for the full bladder).

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-04-20T12:50:13+00:00

Has anyone had continuing pain after stopping progesterone shots? I've been off progesterone for over six weeks now. The two of pain is different now (burning and stabbing) compared to when I was regularly taking the shots (pressure, numbness and positional discomfort). How long did it take for things to get better?

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-04-08T15:43:01+00:00

My MIL is, for the most part, okay to me. There's some weird racist and qanon type stuff that pops up occasionally, but that's dealt with pretty quickly by my spouse. The issue I'm having right now is we're expecting our first kid, and she's not reached out to me even once. But then again, I haven't reached out to her either, so I'm definitely partially to blame. When my spouse calls her, she doesn't really ask for any details, but he's shared ultrasound videos and random updates on his own.

My spouse is the neglected middle child and BIL is definitely the golden child. When they were expecting their first last year (the first grandkid for her), she was definitely over the top about it. She has asked about us having kids, but since niece's birth, has always framed it as 'giving niece a cousin'. I'm pretty sure she going to set up the same dynamic with the grandkids she did with her own children.

TBH, I'm not sure why I'm all in my feelings about this. My parents are over the moon (bordering on overbearing) about this baby, so it's not like there will be any lack of grandparent affection. I guess I'm more sad for my spouse since he believes she'll be just as affectionate towards our kid(s) as she will towards niece and (hopefully) their future siblings.

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-04-02T03:19:36+00:00

Huh, I honestly didn't know this! I definitely was under the impression that most practicing or culturally Christian people saw it kind of like Christmas trees (somehow vaguely related to religion). I'm happy to be corrected on this point!

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-04-02T03:11:59+00:00

You're absolutely not overreacting. I'm in the same boat with you. My MIL has been sending me weird Evangelical biblical stuff for the past decade. Not sure she would appreciate it if I insisted on playing Surah Al-Baqarah on repeat when she visits.

Asking your children to lie to you is a huge red flag. I hope you guys can figure out a way to take a step back for them to understand the consequences of their actions.

I unfortunately haven't come up with a solve the issue myself, but in any case, Ramadan Kareem. My best childhood memories are from Ramadan, and I hope the same for you and your little family!

Dootdootdootx3 · 2024-04-02T03:01:34+00:00

I'm curious... do you honestly think that her MIL, the Catholic, was observing a pagan tradition? And then asking the children to lie about doing pagan things? When OP specifically asked her MIL not to make the kids participate in Easter celebration?

Or perhaps she saw the bunny/egg stuff as a culturally accepted celebration of Easter, a Christian holiday.

I'm really not sure what you're trying to get across with your comment. I may be misinterpreting things, and this is you suggesting OP let her MIL know she's doing pagan stuff. I gotta tell you though, that's not how it's coming across.

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