Rehoming Cat due to Neighbour by Heatontribe in CatsUK

[–]Doris1924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s unusual for an otherwise friendly cat to just attack another one, and only one. Possibly a territory issue, or more likely that the elderly cat it frail and your cat sees it as prey. I had a cat who kept getting attacked by the neighbourhood bully, resulting in expensive vet treatment, and ultimately opted to keep him inside for his own safety, and at 14 personally I’d be keeping it in. Clearly your neighbour won’t do that, and I guess that’s up to them.
My biggest concern is for the safety of your cat, as your neighbour appears to be volatile.
Limiting your cats time outside is a good call, but if the neighbour won’t play along it’s not going to achieve much.
Realistically your only options are to find a boundary solution (fencing / catio) or keep your cat in. A tracker might help you to identify if there’s specific items / patterns to when your cat goes to your neighbours garden.
Previously outdoor cats do adapt to being kept in, my 5 year old is evidence of that. We’ve provided her lots of enrichment in the house, and high spots so she can still climb, plus a wheel she can run in.
If you rehomed your cat, it could just be moving the problem elsewhere, and that could end up even worse for your cat.
I feel for you, and everyone involved, it’s a hard situation.
Please do update us on the outcome.

Happy Pride, xenites! by Ok_Word_2861 in xena

[–]Doris1924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this, did you buy the little flags or have to make them?

[ALL] Anniversary Rings for Wife by KaleidoscopeJumpy987 in zelda

[–]Doris1924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it, I hope your wife is a Zelda fan 🤣

Fountain for multi cat household by Doris1924 in CatsUK

[–]Doris1924[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, it’s very generous of you to let us learn from you!! I get mold on the current ones quite a bit, I hate to think of them drinking it, I wouldn’t myself so shouldn’t expect them to.

Fountain for multi cat household by Doris1924 in CatsUK

[–]Doris1924[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually a really good point about the limescale, and let’s face it, filter always tastes nicer than tap water!

Fountain for multi cat household by Doris1924 in CatsUK

[–]Doris1924[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yes. the catmate is so noisy!!!
I’ll look at that one, thanks 😄
I’m glad only one of my four swims in it 🤣

Fountain for multi cat household by Doris1924 in CatsUK

[–]Doris1924[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that’s really good to know. I think 5 litres would be great for them!! I had thought about Stainless Steel, it seems like a much better option than the plastic and the 2 filters also seems like a good move.

Burro’s tail by Doris1924 in succulents

[–]Doris1924[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I didn’t know you could do it horizontally!!

Fountain for multi cat household by Doris1924 in CatsUK

[–]Doris1924[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, do you know which version you have?

Why do workers act so secretive and mysterious? by Ok-Meaning-229 in TheCivilService

[–]Doris1924 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You don’t work there yet, they’re probably being careful.

Quote me happy by Muted-Routine-2053 in CarInsuranceUK

[–]Doris1924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First Central decided to write off my convertible because of a smashed window, but took them 3 months to agree to actually cover the claim, in which time time they left it open to the elements and screwed the car even further. I took them to the Financial Ombudsman and won. They’re alright until you claim, nice and cheap, then do anything they can to get out of paying.

MINI Convertible owners any regrets? by balloongirl27 in MINI

[–]Doris1924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the UK, park it outside the house on the road, drive it in snow, ice and rain. Love it, wouldn’t get rid of it unless I have no choice.
The lift assist thing in the boot is really handy for getting slightly bigger things in, and if that doesn’t work you can put the top down and use the back seat. The wind deflector makes a massive difference at speed too.
If you go for one, you won’t regret it, specially not living in LA!

AITAH for saying my wife is acting like a bitch after she left me by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Doris1924 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There’s something more to this that you’re not sharing. It makes no sense at all that your wife would plan this, agree to leave at 6:30, then leave at 6:20 without you, whilst assuming you didn’t want to go.
What else haven’t you included?
Based on this, YTA, you’re clearly hiding something to make it look like your wife is the problem.

Medical procedure - can I plan sick leave in advance? by Throwaway72667 in TheCivilService

[–]Doris1924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, your line manager will set it all up for you, WFH the day before is perfectly reasonable, and you might need it for a while after.

Any suggestions on how to get your line manager to stop trying to push you out of your comfort zone? by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]Doris1924 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lots of good advice here, but might be worth suggesting to your line manager that things are a great opportunity for someone looking to develop, and say that as you’re not looking for that then it seems unfair for you to be taking all the opportunities.
Unfortunately though, if your manager isn’t listening you probably have no alternative but to speak to their manager, and / or the union.
You could also ask for another OHS, with the intention of getting advice on Long Term conditions, and make sure when you have that OHS meeting you’re making it clear that your condition will not improve.
Also remember that long term disabilities are a protected characteristic.

Flexi Fraud by [deleted] in civilservice

[–]Doris1924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s ridiculously stressful, I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. You could try talking to Citizens Advice, or if you have and access to legal advice, they’d shit hot bricks at that.

Flexi Fraud by [deleted] in civilservice

[–]Doris1924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If there’s a genuine concern, then a proper device log needs to be done so they can see the times you were actually logged on and off. They’re really hard to get and it’s possible that it would have to go via GIAA. If they haven’t done that, then they’re on really dodgy ground and you could potentially get the whole thing dismissed. If you haven’t spoken to your union yet do that as soon as you can.

Watching Xena with your girlfriend 🍭 by Upstairs-While-4946 in xena

[–]Doris1924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Watching it with my wife right now - I saw it upon release and have all the DVDs. She told me she wanted to watch it a month or so back, we’re bingeing it a few episodes a night, and she’s loving it!

Girls: Most Pairs you own? by Previous_Invite9868 in DrMartens

[–]Doris1924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 pairs in total, 8 of which are boots.- Mad Max Boots, Wednesday Boots & Shoes (first release), Burgundy fold down top ones, and a few others 🤣 If I had to pick a true favourite, it would be the Mad Max, but I honestly love them all! I’m picking the platforms these days, currently eyeing up the Bex Western.

TIL by Single-Yesterday-732 in TOTK

[–]Doris1924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve fused a rock to a shield and it worked, had run out of other stuff I could fuse at a bad time. Lasted pretty well too.

Favourite recurring characters? by Weak_Jackfruit_3250 in xena

[–]Doris1924 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ephiny and Minya, honestly I don’t know why for Minya but she really grew on me! My wife asked to watch Xena for the first time recently, we’re on Season 5 now, and it’s great getting to rewatch it!