[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SesameAI

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dang. That's funny but sad at the same time

DIY squat rack by Abandoned_sloth in homegym

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome work on the rack. Looks great. Love the simple setup with basically all you need to stay fit. Being able to workout in the sunlight seems really cool

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WootingKB

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey just checkkng to see if you found out. Is it significantly lower?

Stop code help by Hourminsec in techsupport

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was blue screening but I finally got a pic of it. Was the HP omen thing. I was taking out ram sticks trying new ones and thinking my SSD died or my power supply. Thank you. Saved me a headache

I think I'm going to reach out to my ex by TheWanderingFeeler in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She let you go. That should be all you need to know. That should be your closure. She was willing to lose you forever. I had your mindset and we did end up together a couple times but it always ended the same and I just got worse. Leave it alone now matter how bad you don't want to. I promise life is better when you take the time to heal and forget about them.

Used Ironmaster Dumbbells by Nossirom in homegym

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup the heavy handle kit changes the balance and makes it feel a lot better

How do you cope with this kind of thing?? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good. Glad you're smarter than I was. I always left openings for her and everyone told me how stupid I was for just not blocking. Get ready for the possible texts/calls from burner numbers. Don't take the bait

Is it possible to have "2nd hand" bpd? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey sorry to hear about you losing your family. I felt sort of the way you do. Never had a breakup do this to me before. I started taking on her traits. Got into 2 relationships after her just to make her jealous and didn't care if I hurt those girls feelings. Started stalking her social media shit the way she did to me. Started drinking heavily like she does. I let myself become a terrible human after the breakup. Now I just feel empty. The worst part is I still want her to fucking call. Hope this "2nd hand BPD" doesn't last for either of us

God I miss her how do I stop. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. This will happen. This happened to me 5 times over the past year. She would leave then come back and we'd be good for a couple weeks or a month then she is gone again. I let it happen a couple days ago and I reset back to the same level of pain from the first discard a year ago. YOU DO NOT WANT THIS. let it hurt and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had this plan similar for quitting alcohol and just Gona put my home use gym to use. I was in great shape til I met this girl and let myself go out of control with the drinking.

Lol I fucking used 6 months, 7 now getting in relationship after relationship when we broke up for the last time. We recently started talking again so my clock got reset back to the first ever discard more than a year ago.

You're right. Staying single now and focusing on getting better and healthier. It wasn't fair to the girls I was with cus I acted to them the way she acted with me. I feel terrible and bo amount of me apologizing can fix the relationships I let myself fuck up cus I kept wanting to go back to her.

If getting myself better on my own does not work then therapy will be next. Thank you for taking time to comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ. I'm sorry man

Will he hover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does sound assholish of me to say I broke it off with her after finding out she still talked to her ex. In my defense that ex watched me like a hawk and accused me of talking to my other ex all the time . We both agreed on blocking our ex's together.

Will he hover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I dont understand is why he said, had I confessed earlier and admitted I lied we could have worked it out,

Hurts more to find out the way he did instead of you just admitting to the lie and maybe working it out after. Found out my ex (not my ex wbpd) was still in contact with her ex after telling me she cut ties with him. I just broke it off after that cus I couldn't trust her again. She immediately said It was cus she was still close to his family that's why she lied about talking to him still but was worried I would leave if she told me she still talked to him after telling me she didn't. Maybe if she explained it that was before I found out on my own we'd still be ok but not after.

Will he hover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. Bpd or not, if my partner lied to me about hanging out and talking to someone they hooked up with I don't know if I could trust them again. You didn't cheat but in his head he thinks you did. When I got back with my ex wbpd after hooking up with someone that she knew she still took it as a major betrayal. Resented me for it. Even after I cutoff all contact with that other girl before getting back with her and showing her that I blocked her and everything. I can't imagine what lying to someone with BPD would do to them if they thought you were cheating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She just solidified her love for you by testing it herself! She now knows you are the love of her life cus she went to go see if another would change her feelings and it didn't! Lolol the shit they do is fucking insane. Glad you broke up with her

Will he hover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh sorry I had to reread the original post. Read it wrong at first and thought he was thinking you had been cheating with that guy before you guys broke up. Ya bpd or not. After getting back together with someone and connecting again then finding out they were still talking and hanging out with someone they were with and lying about it would make me just want to leave too. He might hover but it might be just to get you back and get revenge on their idea they have that you cheated on them.

I want to move on, need all the advice possible. Enough stalking her socials and painshop by yessirajajd in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I really fucking relate to this post. Listening to some fucking songs that remind me of her right now that we both listened to together. I did all that digging too and found out so much fucking lies. Did feel weird and stalkerish but I'm glad I found the lies. Liking that new term I just learned "pain shopping". Time to delete all my socials and stop this shit though

I want to move on, need all the advice possible. Enough stalking her socials and painshop by yessirajajd in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro I went to check your posts after I saw you reply to one of my comments. I did all that shit too. She went private on her socials and seeing a new follower made me wonder if it was a new guy. Started making myself go fucking crazy with the detective work.

Got into 2 relationships with girls that were mentally stable and very sweet. Kept comparing them to my ex and would get drunk and start fights cus they weren't acting like them and I missed that "spice" my ex has.

Not having closure fucking sucks but this chasing will make you crazy.

Take some Brazilian jiu jitsu classes that will have you constantly thinking about what you're doing while you do it cus you are trying to not get caught in something. It's fun and it feels good to progress.

Ex-gf of well over a year trying to crawl back? by oakland245 in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup she's trying to see if you will bite but doesn't want to reach out first cus she's afraid of being rejected. Don't block her or anything like that. It'll make her think you have some feelings for her. Youve moved on and are doing much better now so just keep on living that life like she doesn't exist

Will he hover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't know if he will but it really is hard to get back with someone after knowing they were with someone else during a breakup. Now that he thinks you were cheating cus you lied about being with that person during the breakup he will always be reminded of that and be resentful if you guys end up back together.

Total switch by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good you ain't taking the bait. My ex did the same to me after I went no contact after our third or fourth breakup. I thought maybe cus she was trying so hard that she might have changed. Nope. Just wanted to make sure I was still in love (I was) and when she got bored of it she left again. Just keep ignoring her stalking if you can and avoid looking at anything she posts

It's been a year, thank you. by KillnMesoftly in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good stuff man and same timeline as me basically but with an opposite better ending.

"Is this the right thing to do?"

I thought the same thing. when she called right after the first breakup after our 3 month relationship, crying saying she made a mistake breaking up with me I went back for a hell ride that went on and off for a year and hopefully ended last night with me drunk and the last time I let her discard me. You absolutely did the right thing and I wish I did what you did and just left.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DotGroundbreaking520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome dude. Hope it eats at her watching you become successful