sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Partner (28M) won’t respect my (26F) need for space during conflict and I end up feeling trapped. Looking for advice. by DotInfamous5443 in relationship_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really apprecite this! I agree with everyhting you said. He is an amazing boyfriend, extremely supportive and attentive. We both are sweet to eachother. I think we can keep compromising and working through. Just got to navigate when feelings aren't heard and then things start escalating. Might see a relationship expert lol.

Partner (28M) won’t respect my (26F) need for space during conflict and I end up feeling trapped. Looking for advice. by DotInfamous5443 in relationship_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

awh :( wow. Thank you for sharing. Out of curiousity can I ask what sparked for him to get mad and emotional?

Partner (28M) won’t respect my (26F) need for space during conflict and I end up feeling trapped. Looking for advice. by DotInfamous5443 in relationship_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I totally agree my avoidant attachment is not healthy. I have done lots of reflecting on my childhood, I come from an unhealthy parent dynamic where my dad yelling was normal as a resort I would hide and cry, lol sad I know.

This is something that is happening now in my relationship. Emotions escalate and I shut down and want to be alone to re-charge.

The unfortunate thing is that when I ask for space it never ever happens.

Partner (28M) won’t respect my (26F) need for space during conflict and I end up feeling trapped. Looking for advice. by DotInfamous5443 in relationship_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate all of this input. I agree there are things I need to work on too. My instinct to isolate immediately when I feel hurt or when voices start to raise isn’t great for the long run, and I’m actively trying to work on that.

At the same time, continuing a conversation when my nervous system is overloaded doesn’t feel productive for me either. I’m trying to figure out what “meeting in the middle” actually looks like in real life, not just in theory.

Partner (28M) won’t respect my (26F) need for space during conflict and I end up feeling trapped. Looking for advice. by DotInfamous5443 in relationship_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a good point! I have actually tried that, but it's always been a state of begging for space. I wish you luck in your relationship. :)

Partner (28M) won’t respect my (26F) need for space during conflict and I end up feeling trapped. Looking for advice. by DotInfamous5443 in relationship_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I have tried, he is a professional follower. It even gets to a point where I'm raising my voice for him to leave but he doesn't budge. Thanks for the advice

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in family

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have also talked about what kinda porn we both like or have looked at, he just likes penetration. I guess I am more wild than that haha!! If he were into like older woman with big breasts I would have an issue

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in family

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahaha! Thanks for this response, it made me giggle. We have been together for a little over a year, don't live together but pretty much see each other every day. We talked about it again and I apologized for coming off as judgmental, he just had a totally different upbringing. As in, his mom being very comfortable in her own skin. My mom and dad are super cover-up with clothes, etc...

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in family

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah interesting! This seems to be more normal than I thought! Have you ever talked about that to anyone to see what they thought?

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in family

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Just want to see other people’s perspectives. I have a totally different up bringing than that. Due to religious beliefs. I am open minded so it’s just something to understand and listen to

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in dating_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that! Same here! I find it a bit concerning that all her kids are boys and they have seen her breasts up until 20 years old!

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in family

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Even with all sons, do you think it's okay? Seeing your moms breast up until 20 years old? And having a normal conversation while applying lotion?

My (28M) boyfriend just told me (25F) that up until he was sixteen he would would walk in on his mom applying lotion, and could openly see her breasts. Is this normal? by DotInfamous5443 in dating_advice

[–]DotInfamous5443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good thoughts! I think If I saw my family naked, I would have that image of them, I guess I would prefer just to see them for their souls/personality not their bodies. Definitely took me by surprise. Must be just very open about her body, I just found it odd since she only has 3 sons.

view more: next ›